How To Conceive A Girl – 9 Tips To Conceive A Baby Girl

How To Conceive A Girl - 9 Tips To Conceive A Baby Girl

If your heart melts each time you see a teeny tiny pink frilly tutu, you may be wondering how you can guarantee yourself a daughter.

In truth, there is no way to naturally determine the sex of your baby.

There are two scientific methods that claim some degree of success for gender selection, but these methods are contradictory in nature and may not work for you. Of course, the most important thing is a healthy baby.

If you want to try to conceive a girl, here are 9 tips:

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #1: The Shettles Method

This method has been around since the 1960s, and claims a 75 percent success rate for couples hoping to conceive a girl. Dr Shettles believed that the most important factor in gender determination, was timing. The baby’s gender is determined by the chromosome carrying sperm. Boy sperm swim faster, but survive for shorter periods of time than their female producing counterparts. Girl sperm are stronger and more resilient, yet swim slower than boy sperm.

According to the Shettles method, you should have sex two to four days before ovulation if you are hoping to conceive a girl. By the time ovulation occurs, only the girl sperm should be left to fertilise the egg. Dr Shettles advises that if you wish to conceive a girl, you should avoid intercourse when you have clear, egg-yolk like vaginal mucus, as this is a sure sign of ovulation. It should be noted, however, that avoiding intercourse during this time can reduce your likelihood of conceiving at all.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #2: The Whelan Method

The other commonly used method was created by Dr Whelan, and claims a 57 percent success rate for couples who wish to conceive a girl. Dr Whelan’s theory has slightly different timings, and to have a girl, she advises you to have sex two to three days before ovulation. For a boy, she suggests four to six days pre-ovulation to be the peak time. The Whelan and Shettles method are contradictory, and both have cheerleaders claiming success, but it is difficult to judge whether these successes were truly a result of the method, or simply that the outcome remained the same regardless of the method used.

There is a limited amount of research in existence to support the two methods above. For the advice below, however, the proof is even harder to come by. The following factors are often cited by couples claiming to have successfully determined their baby’s sex, but there is no scientific proof to back up these statements. The following factors may in fact just be myths circulating of how to conceive a girl:

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #3: Make It Your Mission

To conceive a boy, deep penetration is key, but for a girl, the opposite is true. Having sex in the missionary position is said to increase your chance of conceiving a girl, because it limits the depth of penetration. This in turn, restricts how close to the cervix, the sperm are ejaculated. Boy sperm swim very fast for short periods, so by preventing deep penetration, you may be able to prevent the boy sperm from reaching and fertilising the egg.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #4: No Orgasm

It is also claimed that avoiding orgasm may be the key to conceiving a girl. The female orgasm releases an alkaline secretion which may help boy sperm to survive longer, by creating a less hostile environment. Without these secretions, boy sperm may find it harder to survive, and have less chance of reaching the egg.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #5: More Sex

Rather than restricting your sex life to specific times, when trying for a girl you should aim to have more sex. In the days leading up to your key conception time, you should have as much sex as possible. This will reduce your partner’s sperm count, and mean there are less fast-swimming boy sperm available to join the race for fertilisation.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #6: Veg Out

According to one study, eating more fruit and vegetables can improve your chances of conceiving a girl. Some people believe a vegetarian diet can help you to conceive a girl, especially if you eat foods such as spinach, nuts and broccoli. Foods naturally high in calcium and magnesium, such as leafy greens, fruits and rice, are also said to be good for conceiving girls.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #7: Acid House

Another food related tip, is to eat acidic foods in the days leading up to ovulation. Male sperm are less able to survive in acidic environments, and eating acidic foods can actually alter the pH of your vagina. However, bear in mind that it’s actually unhealthy for your body to be in an acidic state. If you still want to try, stock up on soda, vinegar and chocolate.

Some people believe you should also avoid eating alkaline foods such as apples, almonds, cucumbers and avocado (all very important foods nutritionally) in the run up to ovulation. Having a healthy baby and enough folate in your body to avoid neural tube defects should be more important.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #8: Low Salt

A low salt diet, as well as being healthier, is also said to improve your chances of conceiving a girl. Try cutting out salted meats, olives, blue cheeses and processed food while you are trying to conceive. You should also restrict the amount of salt used during cooking, a skill that will be useful during pregnancy too.

How To Conceive A Girl Tip #9: Bath Time

Some people believe that boy sperm are heat-averse, and so having a bath prior to sex may help to weaken the male sperm awaiting release. A soak in a hot tub would work just as well too.

For most couples, the most important factor for conception is achieving a healthy baby. If you long for a girl, you can try the above methods, but remember there is little to no scientific evidence for most. While there may be plenty of anecdotal evidence about, this doesn’t necessarily mean they will work for you. Some of them, particularly the timing methods, may actually reduce your chances of conception.

Gender Swaying Books

If you’d like to read further information, take a look at Dr Shettles best selling book, How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby: Fully Revised and Updated.

 
Last Updated: June 19, 2015

CONTRIBUTOR

Fiona Peacock is a writer, researcher and lover of all things to do with pregnancy, birth and motherhood (apart from the lack of sleep). She is a home birth advocate, passionate about gentle parenting and is also really tired.


69 comments

  1. I have two sons. How much I had longed for a baby girl but destiny had other plans and did not give me a girl. Although both my boys are very cute, but I always miss a girl in the house. I wish I had read this article earlier then maybe my wish would have been fulfilled

    1. I have two boys too and can’t decide whether to try for a girl. But I wouldn’t want to change what I have now; my boys are best friends and that’s what counts plus they are happy and healthy individuals!

  2. I’m almost a month preg and can’t wait for my baby its gonna be a long way to go… I want a baby girl and took all of the tips maybe they might work for me cause my pregnancy is still early! I’m crossing my fingers to that♥!!

    1. Please let me know if doing these tips gave you a girl once you find out. My husband and I are going to try for a girl next year after having 3boys which we did not use any of these tips for! Good luck!

    2. Helli, I’m reaching out to you because you posted that you were pregnant one year ago. May 3 2015. Your post stood out because you tried some of the methods for a girl because your post was on May 3 which is my birthday day. I would love to know if your baby was healthy and if your baby is a girl.
      Thank you,
      Brenda Foster

  3. I’m really really really getting excited and anxious about having a baby next month I just can’t wait hooray for me

    1. now I have read this, with my other children (2 boys) I definitely tried for boys. I on both occasions checked when ovulating and had sex on the exact date i was fertile for 3 days after too… looking at this now I know where I went wrong lol.

      1. my partner is ‘well endowed’ lol so its hard to not, but after 3 boys we really want a girl, im hoping this one is but i have a feeling ill have another boy

    2. Try doggy style that’s the position I got pregnant with my boy in and make sure u have a proper orgasum as that will help to me an my partner will be trying for a girl sometime next year I have my fingers crossed and will keep you all updated when we find out the sex

  4. My husband and I definitely swear by some of these (ie: not ejaculating very deep) and also to have sex very often. We have 3 beautiful children and used gender methods with our last baby extremely successfully. We want our baby girls to be close in age and this will probably be our last baby, and while some of you may not subscribe to this, we chose to try again immediately. Not only did I get pregnant right away, but we used the shallow ejaculating and made sure to have sex several days before ovulation. As for positions we like to switch things up but are fond of doggy style and spooning during his climax. I also do not climax as that can help the male sperm reach the finish line faster and that was not our goal. As of yesterday we found out we are pregnant with a second daughter and I encourage anyone to try these methods. It was easy to conceive and loads of fun trying. Hmmm…perhaps a 5th is in the future after all….lol.
    Enjoy all!!!

    1. Hi Wendy. I just wanted to ask you if you and your husband had sex just the once several days prior to ovulation or did you have sex every day from several days before ovulation til on or after ovulation? It’s just that you said lots of sex at the start and then several days before, so just wanted to clarify. Thanks.

    2. Thanx Rodrieguez for the insight. How I wish it works for me. I have two hardsome boys n I’m clossing my fingers to get a baby girl planned for january. I’ll give a trial your way n hope for the best.

  5. I currently have 3 boys and didn’t take any of these methods on board. I have PCOS so it’s difficult for me to know when I’m ovulating, which I see is key here for conceiving a girl. I really want a little girl but scared to have a 4th son. Does anyone have any other tips on what foods to eat?

    1. I have had success with these methods, my advice… Take magnesium and calcium vitamin supplements for a month before trying to conceive. Take an OV test regularly to try to predict ovulation and avoid intercorse if OV test is positive since that means you will be ovulating in the next 12-24 hours.

  6. I would really appreciate feed back on whether these methods work for others, I have two boys which I wanted dearly, my partner is longing for that father daughter bond and I would love for this to happen, I have a niece I steel at every opportunity but would love a girl of our own, we would not be having a 4th baby so this is the only chance for us if we take it!

  7. Hi! Everybody I just read all these things about having a girl and let me tell you none of these will work! It’s all in Gods hands. Trust him! Pray a lot and he will answer your prayers..

  8. I have passed eight days from my date but I have leak in breast back pain in stomach side pain is there I have a boy he is 12 years old but I want to have a girl baby and I have diabetes please help me

  9. FYI to the writer– citrus fruits actually produce an alkaline effect in the body… So what was stated here was a little contradictory for women really striving to follow this advice.

  10. I have 5 kiddos and I have used these methods to determine the gender of 4 of them. All 4 were the gender we were trying for. I would like to add, I took vitamins to make sure I had enough magnesium and calcium (for a girl) and potassium and zinc (for a boy). Good luck ladies!!!

  11. Pls I really need ur help and advice pls. I had miscarriage as of June 2014 since den no pregnancy. we ve been trying since den till now and nothing has happened. pls what should I do.

  12. Yeah! I have two cute boys and am glad because they have made us extremely happy in our marriage. Anyway, a girl…. need to be added to our family. Yes I will try the above methods, avoid deep penetration, make sure that there is witholding ejaculation and take necessary measures.

  13. I have 3 boys at the moment. Now myself, and my husband long for a baby girl. I have just finished a period, and we are having sex just after my period, rather than being too near ovulation. Ive been told that my chances of conceiving a girl are much higher because of this. What do you think?? Also, ive often wondered can some men only have male producing sperm, no matter how hard you try??

  14. so this month I we had sex 2 days after my period and yesterday (days after sex) I took and ovulation test and it was low but today (2 days after sex) my clear blue had a flashing smiley face should I try again before it gets to a peek of ovulation? or should I wait??

  15. I tried the methods listed above and I still had a baby boy after having my first 2boys ages, 9and7.Apart from the above mentioned methods I also prayed as if my life depended on it. But God chose to still give me a boy after all these. I was disappointed but I am Learning to move on and love my 3boys. My latest is 4months now. I won’t be trying for any girl again. I think contentment is important so that I won’t have kids that I will be too tired to take care of.

  16. Hi all, it worked for me 3 times or maybe just luck I don’t know. My first is a girl which we tried right after my period then every day or two before ovulation. My two boys were either on ovulation timing or just after, so it seemed like it worked and I do feel the deep desire for another girl! My daughter is 5 next month, son is 3 & other son is 6 months old! But March I really want to try for a girl due for next Christmas but then again it’s a bit fast yet I can’t restrain that desire of missing the whole pregnancy and baby girl! Ect. Absolute love my boy Louis who is only 6 months old though and my other two are great with him were just have to see what next years brings. Good luck to you all

  17. I really want a baby girl. will try those methods in december. and I believe having a baby girl will make my marriage happier.

    1. You need to lurn to be happy in your marriage before you through a baby into the mix. Having kids can be a very stressfully time for a marriage if you are not fully in love and happy with just the two of you, a baby will not fix thinks.

  18. I have two boys and really want a girl as well. I think it is most women who desire at least one girl, my opinion anyways. Lol. I had a very hard time conceiving my second son but one thing I read is that avoid going to the bathroom after intercourse for at least 10 mins. Also that if you lay on your back and feet up against a wall it helps the sperm. And for myself I felt foolish but it worked a week later I was telling my husband he would be a daddy of two. Try the silly things and have alot of faith in God he works in mysterious ways but most of all don’t give up 🙂 I’m going to try for a girl 🙂

    1. I agree with u , i tried that too lyk aftr having intercourse i try not to get up and jst lay on my back with feet up against the wall. And deep penetration and it worked. But the most important ingredient is prayer. Pray and pray and lots of love

  19. I just had a embreyo implanted inside me. My husband and i would like a boy what are the best top 10 foods to eat while trying for a boy as sexual intercourse had no part in this

  20. My partner and I have been trying for a girl I have just finshed my monthly bout it was only 3 and a half days long could this mean I mite be pregnant

  21. My husband have a 18 month old. We will be trying this month to conceive a baby girl as our 18 month old is a boy, who’s absolutely perfect. Thank you God. My ovulation date it Feb 23rd. On my ovulation calendar it shows to try today and tomorrow for a girl. But I’m worried if we have sex tomorrow will the chances increase for a boy..??

  22. Hi,
    I have a beautiful smart baby boy he’s 4 now and me and my husband is planning another baby. My husband wants another boy but I want a girl so I want to try these methods secrely. He didnt know any of this and he’s busy with a lot of things so I’m sure he cant read this hehe…we had sex today…and correct me if im wrong I could be pregnant right? My last period was Feb.29. I’m in a normal cycle. What do girls think?

  23. My husband and I used the Shettles method FOUR times to make girls and ALL four times…we made a baby girl.My husband comes from a family of ALL boys!! So genetically I thought we’d have boys no matter what LoL.
    I also took it a step further and douched with a water and lemon juice mix before intercourse to make it ruff for male sperm. (I realize it’s not great to use lemon juice “down there.” I’m just sharing what worked for me . Use with caution . )
    Happy baby making everyone! Remember a healthy baby girl OR boy is really what matters!

    1. So you used shettles method 4 times for 4 girls? you wanted 4 girls…and no boys…:) i am just curious why ….wouldnt it be nice to have a mix?

      1. Did you mix it 50/50 or what!? I’m having an IUI Tuesday and would like to increase chances of having e girl since this is going to be the last shot and we have two beautiful little boys already. Thanks!

        1. I have a lil boy 3yrs and we lost our lil girl at 7 monthd pregnant. I would love to have a lil girl as my heart melts every time i see one
          I didmt care when i was pregnant as i just wanted a healthy baby but now i feel im missing my baby girl. :- (

  24. Hi everyone. So my partner and I weren’t planning on baby no.2 and have been using protection most of the time.. Surprise surprise I missed my period and have just found out that we are expecting! We already have a boy and would love a baby girl eventually. My partner comes from a family of four boys and I have two brothers!
    I have a feeling that it may be another boy as we hadn’t planned it and didn’t really use these methods to get a girl.
    Does anyone have any opinions on what sex it may be? We did missionary position and according to the my days app we conceived 2-3 days before ovulation. Thanks X

  25. I want to conceive a girl, I used to have a 28days cycle but now i have a 26days cycle but the last was 25day. Today is the 9th day of my cycle and I had intercourse. Pls do I need to repeat again tomorrow to conceive a girl or stop at today’s and hope for conception. Pls help.

  26. I used some of these tips to have a girl but I have 4 awesome boys. I guess my husband didn’t have any x sperm lol. Good luck everyone.

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