Sex Positions For Conception – What Are The Best Sex Positions?

Sorry to disappoint you, but unfortunately, there is no study or strong evidence of any sex positions being best for conception. However some experts suggest couples try the below positions in order to best facilitate conception.

The missionary position, or man on top, has been said to be the ideal position for conception because it allows for the deepest penetration and deposits the sperm closest to the cervix. Other positions which allow deep penetration are doggy style (rear-entry) and lying side-by-side.

Are There Any Sex Positions To Avoid?

Going with the gravity theory, some experts recommend avoiding having sex sitting, standing or with the woman on top, making it harder for the sperm to swim upstream.

What About Female Orgasm, Does It Help?

While the female orgasm is not essential for conception, some believe that uterine contractions from orgasm may actually help the sperm move toward the fallopian tubes, in order to fertilise your egg. Again, this theory lacks evidence, but luckily, orgasm is not an essential part of the conception process – and if you can enjoy intercourse with an orgasm, well, that’s a bonus in itself!

What About Sex Positions To Help Us Conceive A Boy Or Girl?

Yet something else which doesn’t have research to back it! We’re not doing too well here are we?! However, as the wives tales go, apparently having sex with the woman on top will produce a girl, or with the man on top will result in a boy. It’s also a wives tale that having an orgasm increases your chance of having a boy.

Should I Stay Lying Down Afterwards?

After intercourse, some experts suggest putting a pillow under your bottom and elevating your hips, in order to help the sperm work with gravity. They recommend staying there for at least 20-30 minutes. Be careful if you are prone to urinary tract infections though, in which case you should go to the toilet instead. Going to the toilet after intercourse (not immediately of course!) is important, as it prevents bacteria growing in the urinary system, giving you an uncomfortable urinary tract infection.

There should be enough sperm from ejaculation to conceive without needing to counteract gravity, but like all the other mentioned things, it doesn’t hurt to try!

How Often Should We Have Sex?

When you are trying to get pregnant, who could blame you for thinking that you need to have more sex – but be careful not to over-do it. Not only will you sooner lose the enjoyment and spontaneity of lovemaking, but it’s actually better to have sex every other day as opposed to every day, in order for his sperm count to recover and recharge.

Timing – A Much Better Bet Than Positions

Timing is one of the crucial factors to conception and is worth more attention than the positions you have sex in. To increase your chances of conception, ideally have sex one or two days before you expect ovulation to occur, and then again on the day of ovulation. If you don’t know how to tell if you are ovulating, then check out the below two articles on BellyBelly which can help you learn an amazing amount about your fertility and cycle. You can find out when you can expect to ovulate, and you can increase the accuracy by purchasing ovulation prediction kits, which work in a similar way to home pregnancy tests. The tests detect hormone in your urine to indicate if you will ovulate soon.

It is completely normal to conceive within the first 12 months of trying. If you’ve been actively trying to conceive for 12 months or more (or 3-6 months if you’re 35 or older), or your periods are irregular, speak to your doctor or gynaecologist to make sure there are no health problems preventing conception.

Recommended Reading For All Things Fertility

Below are some books I recommend for those wanting to know more about or taking control of their own fertility. Many of these books also rate very highly with BellyBelly forum members.

1. Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler

For any woman unhappy with her current method of birth control; demoralised by her quest to have a baby; or experiencing confusing symptoms in her cycle, this book provides answers to all these questions, plus amazing insights into a woman’s body. Weschler thoroughly explains the empowering Fertility Awareness Method, which in only a couple minutes a day allows a woman to:

  • Enjoy highly effective, scientifically proven birth control without chemicals or devices
  • Maximize her chances of conception or expedite fertility treatment by identifying impediments to conception
  • Increase the likelihood of choosing the gender of her baby
  • Gain control of her sexual and gynaecological health

2. Plan to Get Pregnant: 10 Steps to Maximum Fertility by Zita West

“Having a baby is one of the biggest life-decisions that a couple can make together. Plan to Get Pregnant tells you what you need to do to maximize your chances of conception, and breaks the process down into 10 manageable steps. It not only talks you though getting pregnant, but it also offers guidance on how to stay pregnant, especially through the, often difficult, first trimester. From how to know when you’re both ready to become parents and what to eat for maximum fertility, to embarking on IVF treatment and beyond, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to start a family.”

Zita West has numerous fertility books and I highly recommend her work. Other books from Zita West include:

3. Natural Fertility: The Complete Guide to Avoiding or Achieving Conception by Francesca Naish

Many women have problems with their fertility at some time in their lives. Solutions and preventative advice here will contribute to womens well-being, and help to overcome problems with contraception, infertility, reproductive and hormonal health. Includes:

  • The natural approach
  • The unnatural approach
  • Cervical mucus changes
  • Basal body temperature changes
  • Rhythm calculations
  • The lunar cycle
  • Synchronising cycles
  • Sexual expression in fertile times
  • Charting and co-ordinating the methods for contraception
  • Natural remedies for hormonal and reproductive health
  • Natural, healthy conception

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Connect With Others On The Conception Journey

If you’d like to read others experiences or even contribute your own, please join us in the BellyBelly Forums – we have a section dedicated to conception.

Last Updated: February 23, 2015


Kelly Winder is the creator of, a doula, writer and mother to three awesome children.Currently she's travelling the world for 12 months with her partner and children, and hopes to inspire more families to do the same.

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