[butterfly_warrior]

Lou, I'm so sorry you have to put up with people being so insensitive and clueless. At this point, I'd probably turn around and tell the awful people who have invited themselves over that they can damned well uninvite themselves because you just won't be there! I hope you manage to figure something out that works for you.

I will admit that the rules were never sent to my family. But my mother, who was the worst at being nosy and intrusive, now completely changes the subject every time I even get close to telling her something related to our IVF treatment. I really don't know whether the insensitive probing questions were worse than the complete couldn't give a shi!t and completely disinterested attitude I'm getting now.

BW