oh Maz...Just wanted to give you a

I can feel your broken heart and total bewilderment. I remember when both my
DD and DS1 have yelled it at me in anger how hurt I felt. I can't remember how old you little man is - sorry, so this may not be appropriate - but when both of my kids have done it, I actually told them what the word HATE meant - to bear malice on someone - which of course led to what does Malice mean. I explained it as wishing something bad would happen to someone - like they get hurt really badly, or that they even die. I then went on to explain why that hurt me so much. I know that Wilhelm has autism so my responses may not be appropriate, I'm not sure. But if he is beginning to have an understanding of emotions and feelings then maybe it is.
I know your cup is feeling pretty empty at the moment... and this won't be any consolation when your feeling empty - but I think your pretty amazing hun. In the midst of your own journey as a mother you still have the capacity to reach out your hand and make others feel cared about and heard. I hope that someone soon is able to do the same for you.