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Originally Posted by christy  I would sit in the GP's office and be told to smack my 14 month old, or that I didn't have "control" over her. I was told to put her in day care full time as she was a difficult child and it would be easier on us. I was told NOT to have anymore children as I obviously couldn't control this one. My family told us that we were too hard on her, but should smack her at the same time  . We were a mess with trying different things. That is why we did the Triple P thing, so we could do the same thing at the same time for a while to get our parenting on track, so we could say "we know what to do next". |
DH and I did triple P for the same reasons and NONE of it worked! I still remember the MCHN rolling her eyes at me when I said it wasn't working and that he loved to go to time out - would often sit there for hours rocking or cackling with laughter.
We also were told to smack him - to which he cracked up laughing and told us to hit him harder - that broke my heart as I am not a hitting person.
And yep our family to this day think we are too hard on him
yet in the next breath are telling us we should let him get away with the stuff he does
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I lost nearly all my friends where we were living. No one understood what I was going through. Everyone offered parenting advice and told us what we were doing wrong, no one, offered to come and spend time with us to see what was going on. DH & I walked around like zombies for a few years there. We were used to being very social with having people over and eating out etc etc, but no one wanted to come over when they had to listen to screaming the entire time. No one wanted to watch how it affected DH & I. We had a few friends who came and I think that was what saved us.
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I know just what you mean
You are doing such an amazing job and you are fantastic with Matilda - she is very lucky to have found such a wonderful, understanding and embracing family!