Firstly Maz, I am so sorry for what you must be going through. I hope this forum helps a bit
I hope everyone is doing better and thank you all for sharing your stories. And I hope you don't mind if I offload mine.
I had a d&c 3 weeks ago, it was my first pregnancy and I was at 9 weeks.
When we found out we were preggers
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DH & I hid from our friends and lied to those we couldn't avoid for the first 8 weeks of our pregnancy. Then we joyously told all our family and friends. At the first
ob appointment we were excited that we would see the baby's heart beat, but there was none.
DH was great. He did all the talking (passing on the bad news) while I did loads of crying
Usually I am quite strong. But for the first time in my life I am struggling to cope. Between finding out that I was carrying a blighted ovum, and having the d&c, I was emotionally ok. But since the d&c, I have been very down. I was just searching the web, looking for some evidence that I am still normal, when I came accross this forum.
Thank you everyone for sharing. Your positivity is inspirational. And I hope better times are in store for you all.
PS Has anyone noticed all the lying involved? Like, don't tell anyone you're preggers until 12 weeks, which means lying about why you're not drinking, going to smoky places, tucking into that gorgeous brie, etc. Then after an m/c, your friends don't know what to say, so you have to lie and pretend that everything is fine? If you didn't tell them you were preggers, you still have to lie and pretend everything is the same as before.
PPS Sorry this is so long. And here I go, making it longer still
