Hi Claire !
I had the same problem with my daughter, and have solved it with a baba sling. She loves it, I find it comfy and she can see out from any of the positions. I think age helps too - she's five months and now has enough body control to look around, turn, etc. She sits in the hip or front carry very happily in this when she wouldn't in the ones you've mentioned. I gave away my hab for this reason - the onlt carry she'd tolerate was facing forward, which I didn't really like. Hope that helps, and I'm sure you're doing your daughter a lot of good and no harm at all by slinging her!!

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