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Hi all, I am 40 years old and had my first IVF cycle in July. Amazingly, I fell pregnant. In terms of conceiving my only problem is age - the reason we ended up on the IVF merry-go-round was my husband's low fertility. Anyway, all was well at the 7.5 week scan but on the routine 10 week scan the fetus had died.
Needless to say we are absolutely devastated. My husband is certain that given that I fell pregnant once on IVF it is bound to happen again. His reasoning is that even though I'm 40, my eggs must be OK. I just don't share his optimism. I am terrified that as every month passes my chances become less and less and less of ever producing a decent embryo again.
I guess what I'm wanting to ask all you amazing ladies out there who survive IVF cycle after cycle, what do you think? If I had one good cycle at age 40, based on your own experiences, is it likely that I'll have another good cycle or could that one cycle very well have been just good luck?
oh my dear! how awful for you. i have a positive thinker in my DH, and i say i'm realistic..dh says i'm pessimistic. i haven't got as far as 10 weeks sadly, but the fact that my body held a pregnancy (albeit for a v. short period) and did not reject is the silver lining i've held onto with both hands and my heart in between cycles.
i hope this is the same for you. good luck let us know how you go.
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me34 DH30 plus 4 furbabies
IVF #1 - April - bfn,02 frosties
IVF #2 - Aug - slow rise hcg ending in bfn,02 frosties
IVF #3 - Oct -
I am so sorry to read of your loss, I know how devastating it is.
I don't think it would be just a one off lucky pregnancy...I can't say how long it will take now, because you just never really know, but I really hope it's not too long for you before you are pregnant again. I tend to be realistic/pessimistic too. It's self protection a lot of the time. DH used to be really positive, but even he tends to be a lot more cautious now. sending you all the best.
__________________ Me 36, DH 37 and two poodles
2008: 9 wks (one ectopic, tube removed, other tube 'dodgy'); IVF #1:BFN; IVF#2 8.5 wks
2009: natural 10 wks; IVF #3: cancelled, no response
Then diagnosed with Grave's Disease and Antiphospholipid syndrome
On an enforced TTC break since August 2009 due to the Graves...waiting on the specialist's approval to resume...
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage - I know how difficult it is. I started IVF at 40 (I'm now 41) and became pregnant after 2 cycles. Each time I had really good follicle and egg numbers. I think we had at least 6 fertilise each time with 2 making it to blastocyst the first time but only one the second time - and fortunately that was the one that stuck. I know you have to be pragmatic about these things but it is possible and I wish you and your husband all the very best.
Miscarriage after IVF 
i haven't got as far as 10 weeks sadly, but the fact that my body held a pregnancy (albeit for a v. short period) and did not reject is the silver lining i've held onto with both hands and my heart in between cycles.
DH30 plus 4 furbabies
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