Confused - Wait or TTC again? Opinions?

[juleswa]

Hi all,

Would love some input by you wise women who have either been there/done that, or going through it now.

here's my story:

Missed m/c at 11weeks (natural m/c) in April (bub was 6w2d). two weeks after finishing bleeding from that, had a bfp (purely by chance) which was last week, but period came on time so that didn't work out.

Here's the thing: now that I've had a period since my (first) m/c is that considered a cycle, or is the fact that there was a bfp right before i got my period considered another m/c so would have to wait for another cycle to pass before ttc again?

My ob is leaving it up to me, but has hinted she thinks i should wait for a month just to let my physical and emotional wellbeing settle down. dh tends to agree, and i know it makes sense, but of course i want to ttc straight away again.

does anyone have some words of wisdom to share, or positive experiences???

I'm really confused.

thanks

[Sue1979]

Hey,

I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry for your loss.

As for ttc again, I guess you have to do what is right for you. After my m/c I just wanted to get right back into it and my Dr said that was fine if I felt ok. My cycles took a while to regulate - and with the assistance of acupuncture they are back to normal again - but I think that was my body's way of telling me to just hang on. I still haven't had my BFP yet but I think it will come soon.

Anyway, I say do what feels right. Your body will do what is right for it anyway.

Big hugs
Sue xxx

[~Kim~]

Hey Jules.
So sorry to hear about your loss.
Only you know in your heart what is best for you and your body babe.
I had a loss at 11wks and 6 last year with a D&C. We weren't technically trying but fell straight away after one AF. I figured my body would know what to do when it was ready and it did.
HTH

[satya]

If you feel ready to TTC then go for it. You can always have a dating scan.... that's the only reason they usually tell you to wait.

[Glamourcide]

I'm very sorry for your loss, Jules.
I fell pg soon after having DD and lost it at around 6 weeks. I think it was my body's way of telling me that it was just too soon after everything (traumatic birth and had some issues afterwards with getting back to normal) to be up to the challenge of cooking a full-termer, and DH and I hadn't really planned it and were a bit worried about how we'd cope, so we decided to be very careful and not TTC again for at least a few months (it ended up being nearly a year after my m/c before we tried again, purely because of finances and not wanting to have another before I could cope with 2 under 2).
I think it's an individual choice for everybody, you know what is best for you and your body will do what it knows it's capable of. I personally would probably wait another month, just to give your body a chance to recuperate and get back into top baby-growing condition, but the choice is yours.

Best of luck with everything hun, hope it all works out for you very soon!! Look after yourself.

[Lee]

Hi - I'm sorry for your loss too. As far as ttc again - in my own experience you don't have to wait - when you feel ready. Your second loss would in no way effect you ttc again straight away. I had a very early miscarriage (5 weeks) - docs like to call them 'chemical pregnancies' - and fell pregnant with dd the very next cycle. I believe if a pregnancy is going to stick, stick it will. Good luck, I'm sure you will get a healthy pregnancy soon.