Totally recommend a Kindle for A - it has saved me an absolute fortune with W! They are somewhere around $130 to buy, but the books are at least half price through the official amazon store and more free than that if you look around.
Minecraft seems to be the way of life for this age group! W has mostly moved on to GMod now, but he spent a large amount of time Minecrafting before that. I am trying to find some beginner programming programmes for him. He would enjoy being able to make his own mods for things.
A did have a small head at birth, but so did the others. I guess time will tell. She is achieving at expected levels in all academic areas and she is happy and chatty so it is not a huge concern.
Sounds like your kids are doing really well It is really hard to imagine them all grown up and leaving home!
DH left yesterday. It was as horrible as you would imagine a father walking away from his kids would be. Separating does not mean your parenting obligations end, or that you can just leave your kids! I am so angry at him for doing that to them. Trying to cover for him and told them that he had to take a job away, but in reality he could have stayed here if he wanted to. Not covering to protect him though - I just don't want the kids to feel like he chose money over being with them. Which he ultimately did but them knowing that won't help.
Oh Arte hunny, that would have been awful I'm sure as they get older they will understand what you tried to do. In a way you can protect them from a lot when they are little because they just don't understand, but at the same time it's because they don't understand it that it hurts so much. has he made any mention of custody arrangements and having them for visitation at all? I hope he doesn't shirk his responsibility to them.
At the moment he's making great use of the school and town library, plus I also get books cheap from bookclub. Between that and books that we've already got he's pretty well stocked LOL.
I have day to day care, he says he will be back for a visit every 5-6 weeks. I forced him to book the first trip back before he left so I had a date to tell the kids.
It is really awful. Erin woke up hysterical this morning. She is angry at me for letting him leave. She thought if she posted him a picture she worked really hard on then he might love her enough to come back A said he made them specialer every day and now they won't be special They really just can't understand why he has left them and I am struggling to explain when I don't know either. He could have stayed at his parents until a job came along here. I know I would rather live broke than be away from my kids. I guess if you marry a selfish **** you can't expect any better.
In his mind, we will move up at the end of the year and all live in the same house together. Feel sorry for him, obviously he is not coping with the marriage break up but as a parent you don't have the luxury of running away - you have to suck it up and put the kids first. It wasn't even forever, I do want to move north but it has to be somewhere big enough that I can work too.
On the bright side, I feel like a giant weight has been lifted from me. Sure, my house is a tip and the meals have gone way downhill, but it is actually really nice. Turns out it was so over that he was just someone that I watched T.V with.
Last edited by Artechim; April 24th, 2016 at 07:34 PM.
I guess this is the end of the BB journey. It has been nearly a decade since we started our first pregnancy thread. We have laughed and cried together, offered and received support and advice, welcomed our babies into our families, said goodbye to loved ones and watched our children grow. It has been awesome to share it with you all.
A final update from me: My kids sleep!! I get to sleep every night and it is fantastic There were times when I thought that would never happen lol. My baby starts school in a couple of weeks. Life is going well. The worst part of the separation is done and the kids have adapted to having their father gone. I am so relieved to have him out of the house but do wish he had stayed closer for the kids. I have a big move back home planned for the end of the year, pending final custody and property settlement. I put up with some pretty awful behaviour over the years from XH. I stayed for the kids, and ultimately I left for the kids. I don't regret my choice at all. I am, for the first time in a long time, looking forward to the future and the possibilities it holds.
So farewell to you beautiful people - sometimes when the going was particularly tough, you guys were the light that got me through the darkness. I don't know if you will ever realise how much I relied on this little group and how much I appreciated you all.