Babies Born May 2006 #54

[mrsmac]

Riley was done in hospital by my obs at 3 days old. I know there are a couple of paeds around here that do it too.
I have already been in trouble on a thread in BB for my opinion on this cause it went against a mods so I am not going into it too much here but we believed it was the right thing for our son. DH has been in the army and seen first hand what lack of water to wash with can do to uncirced guys, interstingly XH was navy and he said the same thing (he was on submarines so no water for showers)

At the end of the day its up to you and DH. Good luck deciding, its a minefield of strong opinions!!

[~Kim~]

Wow he sounds like a dream Leanne! Glad he likes his bed. I have some of Darcy's stuff that I cannot bare to get rid of, but I have been recently purging. i have a little neice though so it's easier. My sister can't afford stuff for her so all she wears are Darcy's clothes.
Surrogacy, well you guys know I can't have any more, but it's funny hown many of my close friends have volunteered for me. They all knew I wanted 4 and how heartbroken I was. I'm touched, but like Christine I don't know that I could ask someone to give up a child they had 'born' for me IYKWIM?
Circ, we've still not come to a conclusion and I really don't have an opinion either way - so we haven't done anything. Nate's at the age now where he could have a general to have it done, but after having assited in literally thousands....I dunno. If it helps in those thousands I've only ever done 2 that were deemed medically necessary.

Sara mate, enjoy your week off. Prac is always scary, but you will learn heaps. Keep an open mind. What they teach you isn't always what is practised.

That's so exciting about Jess Christine. Where is she going to do it?

[~Leanne~]

I have the p o o p s today in fact I feel quite down in the dumps and teary, and I am worried about PND rearing its ugly head at me.

We decided to bottle feed Joshua after about day 4 because of all the feeding issues with Katy - not to mention the little man was killing my nipples! - and I thought people were being supportive of our decision with that but now I find out that people have been talking about me behind my back saying that I should have tried to breast feed longer as that would have been better for our son etc etc. And today he is really 'windy' and unsettled and of course its 'because he is on the bottle'. grrr.

Then there's the circ. debate... I had a positive chat with my MIL about their reasons for getting DH done but when I phoned my ob's rooms to ask for referral information etc I get hounded from the receptionist saying that it should have been discussed and he should have been done while in the hospital and now its too late and we have to wait until he is 12 months old now. Hallo. while I was in the hossy I was not thinking about what to do with my son's doodle, and DH was looking after DD so I spent the majority of my time in the hossy on my own. Not to mention my pg was crap that circ. was not even discussed should we have a boy....
Apparently my ob is very anti circ, so she won't have a bar of discussing it with me, and now I am so confused as to what is the right thing to do and where to go from there. The receptionist made me feel so bad as a mother for even asking about the procedure.

Anyway, so I have made an appt to see our GP tomorrow for some more advice / referral details etc.

So if people are talking about me about not breastfeeding behind my back I can just imagine what my anti circ. family might say if we decide to go ahead with this. I know I should not worry about what other people think, but I do, and what it might do to my psyche is concerning me.

Sorry...... needed to vent.
L.



Am I a bad mother?

[~Kim~]

No my darling you are not, and don't you dare think that.
Stand at that mirror, or write down and repeat.....I am doing MY best. It's what is best for MY baby.
I was there with you remember. I know how bad it was for you and Katy. Look at her now. She's just fabulous.
Remember the warning signs. Get Mark to watch out for them.
He supports you, you do this together. The two of you are fantastic together.
No you shouldn't be concerned with others, but I know that's harder done than said......not sure what to do there.

[widdly]

leanne - huge hugs darlin, you are a wonderful Mum, please remember that xxx

Had lunch with XH to discuss care arrangments and xmas, it all turned out quite good actually which was a lovely surprise.

[mrsmac]

Leanne- big hugs you are great mum, trust me no matter what you do someone will judge or have an opinion you just have to learn to ignore them (easier said than done I know!!)
If you want the name of any paeds around here who circ let me know, again, you have to feel comfortable with your decision.

Can we catch up in the holidays??? I can drive where ever suits you, only a week and a half to go!!

Jess is hoping to go to UTS Kuring-gai Kim but may go to Avondale (Attached to the SAN) she has a number of preferences!

[~Leanne~]

Well our little issue is all sorted - Ob referred Master Joshua to another ob in her rooms who is happy to 'do the procedure' this coming Monday. I still have mixed feelings about it (more worried how the family will react - silly I know but that's me) - but DH is so so happy.

Needless to say he will be taking Joshua to the hossy and I will be taking little miss to daycare.

Sigh.

I love you guys.

And would love to catch up in the holidays.

[mrsmac]

Riley had the plastibell and was fine straight after hun. Take care of yourslef, hope someone is giving you some time out.

[widdly]

glad you got things sorted with Joshua, take care of yourselfx

[~Leanne~]

Well tomorrow is our little man's little 'procedure' and I am so nervous... DH is taking him... I don't think I would cope being around at the time.

Joshua's been unsettled most of the day with 'wind pain' poor little mite.


My brother had a bubba on Thursday - little boy - Connor. Named after my daddy - Con. Brought me to tears. I have been doing a bit of comfort eating today and feeling a bit down that dad is not here. Two gorgeous new litle grandsons and he should be here. :O( Life sometimes just sux.

We'll I am off to bed.
Hope all is well for all.




PS Like my new avatar... Not bad huh?! Thanks to whoever made it :O)

[mrsmac]

Hugs Leanne, I am sure Joshua will be fine.
I know your dad is looking down proudly at these 2 beautiful grandsons, I get teary sometimes when i think that my mum know has 3 more grandchildren that she's never seen but I remember how much she loved my girls and how she said she will always be with me and I know she sees them.

And I agree sometimes life just does suck.

[widdly]

hunni you are in my thoughts x You are right sometimes life is really sucky. Congrats on becoming an Aunty again, Connor is a gorgeous name.

My baby is fully TT!!!! I really thought it'd never happen, and then, just like everyone told me, one day he just decided he would do poo on the toilet, and no worries since!! My faith in myself as a mother has been restored

[~Kim~]

Leanne thinking of you guys today. He is still there hun.

WTG Arch!!!

Hey have you guys noticed more 'nastiness' around here (not here here but generally the boards) lately? SOme people have no tact....maybe I need a break....

oh guess what...we've (well me) got swine flu. I only went to the doc cos I thought I was getting pnuemonia...I was - caused by ruddy swine flu. Ha, wierd things always happen to me.

[~Leanne~]

Originally Posted by mrsmac

Riley had the plastibell and was fine straight after hun.

This is what they used on Joshua as well.... DH said he did not cry at all but the baby before and after him screamed. What a champion! And now he is asleep like not a care in the world.

Way to go arch on the TT -! What a clever little man.

And yes Kim - def. different 'tone' around the forums these days... Swine Flu What the? How did you manage that? Take care of yourself.

[mrsmac]

I have noticed it too Kim, there seems to be a rush of new people and it has really changed the "feel".

[~Leanne~]

Okay need to vent.

I am so over people commenting on how abnormally huge Master Joshua is. Yes he was born a little bigger than average but to me he is my 'little man' and I wish people would lay off. He's not a freak or anything, he just does not look his age is all.

grrrr

Okay over that now.


Off to bed for me.
Nite.

[~Kim~]

that's cos everyone thinks it's ok to say dumb stuff.... FWIW Nate was only 300gm lighter but a bit longer. Everyone used to say that to me. Now at 7months and under 8kg they tell me how little he is He matches Darcy weight for age almost exactly.

I was coming on for a vent too....back my car into a pole yesterday. Gees I'm cross with myself. $700 excess too
I've been trying to workout how we can manage on one wage....wish we could. I feel so so anxious about going back to work. I don't want to be a polceman anymore. Do you think it would be detrimental to take Darcy out of daycare all together?

[~Leanne~]

Joshua has put on 700g in two weeks... What a champion. So now he is just under 5 kg. Head cir and length still at 53cm, so he's 'beefing up' nicely. The clinic nurse said he was gorgeous (like I don't know that !) and said it looks like I am doing everything right so that made me feel pretty good. Such a different baby to Miss K.
I have been trying to bf a little - (boobie time we call it), and he's taking 5 mins on each side just before two feeds a day. Still skulls his 100ml bottle though. Do you think it is worth it? I have not told anyone cause I know (particularly from certain people) the pressure will be on about bf full time. So for now I am relaxed to go this way with his feeds.

Hmm what else... There was something else but I can't recall... I am sure I will be back.
Now off for some lunch

:hugs: to all.