Some time ago I was asked to be interviewed on ABC Radio in regards to current trends in grandparents names.
It wasn’t something I had thought about in great detail before, as both sides in my family already knew what they wanted to be called as soon as they found out I was pregnant with my firstborn – who was to be the first born grandchild on both sides.
But I hadn’t realised how much diversity and dilemma actually existed surrounding the naming of grandparents in today’s society.
While looking through BellyBelly's website statistics, I came across some search terms which included keywords such as ‘grandparents names’ or ‘names for grandparents’. So I realised there were more than a few people out there looking for ideas for grandparents names.
I searched through the BellyBelly Forums on the same topic and found several long discussions. So it seems to be a very popular, yet complex issue! Just when you thought choosing a name for baby was hard enough, it seems grandparents names are on the cards too.
So, why are grandparents names so diverse? I came up with five main reasons for this:
Re-Marriage Resulting In Re-Thinking Grandparent Names
In the case of blended families where the grandparents may not necessarily be blood relatives, traditional names may not be appropriate or already taken by other members of the family. Here’s one member’s comments about having to get creative – and take your time reading this next bit, it gets complicated!
“My daughter was born with 9 grandmothers and 4 grandfathers. My grandmother was living with us so the distinction came from my grandmother being 4’1” – my daughter dubber her ‘Little Nanny’. This resulted in my mother 5’6″ becoming ‘Big Nanny’. Then there was my grandmother’s mother, whose last name was ‘Pretty’, dubbing her ‘Pretty Nanny’! My father’s mother became ‘Just Nan’. My father’s wife (my stepmother) became ‘Nanny Peggy’ (her name). Then there was my mother’s husband’s mother (lol – I LOVE blended families) and his mother was ‘Nanny Power’ per last name. My fiancee’s mother was next (who I might add was quite the jokester and they bugged each other endlessly) and was dubbed ‘Nanny Witch!’ Her father’s side… well let’s just say there was: Nan Toots, Nanny Sherry and Crazy Nanny Maher (was a joke, not meant to hurt her feelings, Nanny Maher called herself that).
Funny though that ALL grandfathers were ‘Poppy’!” — Kathryn
Culture / Heritage Dictating The Grandparent's Name
Even if some families are not highly cultural or religious, they may choosing names which honour their culture or heritage – or they choose them just to be different to the more common names outside their heritage. Some cultures see their specific names for grandparents as a mark of respect and to call them anything else is disrespect.
Muddled Baby Words Evolve Into The Grandparent’s Name
Some grandparents decide on names which were words spoken by a baby, which were an attempt to say something else they had chosen. The word may come out different from what they hoped for, but because the muddled word sounded cute, they kept it anyway.
Some mothers also commented that they felt the first born children in families got to choose or direct the names of the grandparents for everyone else in the family in some cases.
Grandparent’s Background or Personality Incorporated Into Their Name
Personality also seems a popular choice for grandparents. Many told me of grandfathers being called ‘Grumpy,’ which was based on personality. There was even ‘White Nanna’ who had white hair and ‘Truckie Pa’ who drove a truck for a living.
BUT – the main reason was…
To Be A Trendy Or Unique Grandparent!
I have come to the conclusion that the main reason we have such diversity in grandparents names is because grandparents just want to be unique or trendy!
Apart from those having set names for cultural reasons, most other families seem to be ditching traditional grandparents names in order to find something unique and trendy to identify the special grandparent that they are.
A pre-dominant comment from grandparents was that they felt traditional names sounded ‘too old’ and they didn’t want to sound like a stereo-typical grandparent who led a quiet life. They still wanted to sound young, active and fun. There are still many who embrace the traditional ‘nanna’ and grandpa’ but it seems these days, nanna and grandpa are making a stand and deciding their own names, with a creative edge!
Why Are Grandparents Names Changing?
Maybe the change in grandparents names is a result of change in society. Our lifestyle has become faster and busier than ever before, so perhaps this has made slow sound ‘untrendy?’ Or perhaps slow is just not as realistic as it used to be?
Blended families have also prompted thought and change as to how we name special people in our life, who have a place in our heart but are not related by blood. Maybe this is a change in trend – just like names go in and out of fashion, maybe grandparents names will too?
No matter what the reason is behind it, grandparents seem to enjoy being able to choose their own names. And why not – it’s a fantastic way to honour those who brought us into the world, enabling us to bring our own beautiful children into the world too.
“Her two children called her mother “Nan(na)”, and her grandmother (the kids great-grandmother) was called “More-Nan”…..a bit more than Nan.” — Yvonne
Some Suggestions Of Grandparents Names
Here are some examples of what grandparents are called based on discussion with BellyBelly members:
- Where the grandparent is not a blood relative, many grandparents are choosing to include the name of the grandparent, for example, ‘Grandpa Mark’ or ‘Grandma Sarah’.
- Where culture was the deciding factor, names like Oma and Opa for German or Dutch backgrounds, Nonna and Nonno for Italian backgrounds, YiaYia and Papu for Greek etc. I noticed a strong response in the use of Oma and Opa for this category.
- Where personality or background of the grandparent was a factor – the job of that grandparent may have been a deciding factor. For example, ‘Truckie Pa’ where the grandfather drove trucks and in even a few examples, grandfathers who worked in the army were called, ‘Grandpa Sir’ or similar, in humour. There was a big response with ‘Grumpy’ or ‘Grumps’ for grandfathers, where I was told they were exactly that!
- Where babies determined the name by not being able to say the chosen name correctly include ‘Grandbob’ as he couldn’t say Grandpa Bob, ‘Mampsie’ instead of Gramps, ‘Graddy’ instead of grandad or ‘bookdaddy’ where the child came up with the name in a moment of creativity!
Some other examples are where names may have been taken by other grandparents so a new name had to be chosen, or where some grandparents actually asked to be called by their actual name. In some cases a child had heard the grandparent be called by their own name and the child continued to call them by name.
Below is a list of names which I came across which may help you in your search for a grandparent name if you are looking for one. If you have any suggestions to add, please comment in the box below!
List Of Grandparents Names
Oma – German / Dutch, Feminine
Opa – German / Dutch, Masculine
Nonna – Italian
Nonno – Italian
YiaYia – Greek, Feminine
Papu – Greek, Masculine
Sassim – Papua New Guinea, Feminine
Mamoo – Papua New Guinea, Masculine
Avo – Portugese
Ava – Portugese
Bunica – Romanian, Feminine
Bunicu – Romanian, Masculine
Mummu – Finnish, Feminine
Beppe (pronounce Bep-PA) – Frisian for grandmother
Pake (pronounce Pa-KA) – Frisian for grandfather
Nani (pronounced Nar-ni) – Hindi, Feminine