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NO was a trigger word for many years here., I even told the kinder not to use it cause he would to balistic if it was said to him......I tried so many things in the end that I just put my hand up in the stop sign and it worked.....mind you I use to put it right in his face :ROFL:
having a better week...phew of the the pead today but not for WIlhelm....Mateauz turn this time round
ahhh I have to go rescue my fruit bowl...mateauz has a love for banana's atm
well today i got a call finaly my assment will be soon not in 3 mnths like i thought i have an appoitment next week to go see the lady and have a chat then she will talk it over with me blah blah hahah she had me on the phone for a good hour
murray hasnt been too bad this week hes signing more which im glad no more words alott of babbling
so thats my update for this week
Have you ladies got any good websites or books I can refer to?
I need better understanding of it all. xoxoxo
Autism Australia... is a good google...
There is another advice thing in Canada... my paed got me onto it & i've promptly lost the piece of paper. I will PM you m'love.
Sorry Lu hon....cant help. I have never really looked at websites..been to a few lectures were real mums and dads were there to talk but that's it.
I live it hon...i dont want to read about it :( sorry im a useless cow lol.
hope everyone is having a good week :)
ive read a little bit but after living it each day i dont want to depress myself of whats to come or doubt myself as a parent
atm im coping it from all sides about this new baby apprently its cruel to have another when i have an autistic kid apprently i should abort it
frankly these comments made my blood boil and yes they came from my own mother
god some ppl dont have any idea do they
i know hes hard to deal with but i deal i love him to bits i know no other way ive delt through tantrums and him not speaking ect ect what could be worse
a newborn eats poops and sleeps im sure i can work that around murray cant be too hard could it ?
Thanks for that Christy! Most of the websites I can find just want to sell books :rolleyes:
I'm not sure if I am living it or not and I need further clarification and actual stories/examples rather than dry diagnostic tools.
Lu hon...go to your MCHN as get her opinion...go to your doctor and get a referal.....if you have doubt already I wouldnt be reading about it...go and search for the help while he is still small and you can get into services before school. Its so much harder when they are at school. The waiting lists are stupid ....and honestly what is the worst they can say...that he is just agressive?
Ive got a GF here that always had doubts that her child was 'normal' and I begged and pleaded with her to get an opinion from a PEAD...it took her 8 months to get in and guess what..he was AHAD. SHe said she wished she had listened earlier so she could have gotten help sooner.
Having a child on the spectrum doesnt mean we have to do this on our own...we need help...we need support.
And lu hon....there is an allowance for careers to help for costs. its a fortnightly amount of approx $100 plus a HCC for DS. THere are also extra bonuses near tax time aswell so them. It all helps babe.
:hug:
i was fob off so manny times with my son apprently he was normal and i was the one with the problem but persitance works now i know how to deal with things
support is the best thing without a good support network such as child health nurse pead's and speach paths i dont know what ild do they help so much
i agree take him to your health nurse first get her to spend a morning with him and then go from there
i hope you get answers soon
I'm going to write out a list of things.
I mean tanties are normal in kids aren't they? Who likes to be told no? (I fricken dont!).
I'm going to call my MCHN today, she is very familiar with Mitch from when he was little and all the issues we had then. I'm going to take everything to this OT appointment and force things through.
I'm just confused because he has evened out so much. His first 3 years were a nightmare, and it is lots better now.
Before I couldn't see the point of getting a formal assessment anyway, he seems so borderline. Now I feel like a total d!ck. I wasn't interested in a carers payment before, I can't see how I'm providing any different care....but I was always to frightened to put him in childcare in case he had a bad experience so I haven't been able to work all this time. That money really could have helped.
I could never put my finger on it but I've always felt I've needed to be close by to defend him :crying:
i got forced to put my son back into chldcare by my pead i too had bad exspeiances with child care and i found a great place to send my son and ive seen massive improvments he still dosent socialise well and still gets frustrated and hits out but the girls difuse it quick and he seems to be thriving
its hard when we feel like idoits when we delay somthing i know i did but then i thought to myself arnt we just beeing over catious only wanting the best for our children
Lu :hug: I wish I lived closer so we could have a cuppa and you could let rip! Writing things down is really good babe...right the good, the bad and the ugly. It does help when you go for a big assessment. The money doesnt just doesnt help with medication and appointments...it can help with toys to help stimulate the good parts ;) eg for us a DS for down time...a lap top recently.
its hard....yes totally agree. Its hard to think we made something so perfect and somewere along the line there was a hicup in the system. Our kids were given to us because some higher force knew we could cope, knew that we would love and protect these magical little people with our hearts and soul. Your doing a beautiful job babe..its hard to admit that we need help at the beswt of times..let alone help with our kids. :hug:
MM - OMG I got the same thing from my sister when she heard that i was getting my tubes reversed to have Vy. I havent spoken to her in 8 years and she was pi$$ed at me and called a shelfish biartch cause I was going to bring another 'spastic' kid into the world. Karma bit her on the butt......she now has 2 grandchildren both on the spectrum and now she thinks she knows everything :rolleye:
i got my assment date today omg im smiling from ear to ear the 31st of august they fly in and will do the last bit towards finding where he sits ont he spectrum
maz u have no idea how much ive cried in the last week over the negitve comments we have received even my other half is doubting keeping this baby but to me its a baby not a problem so murray is a bit delayed but hes got the best help out there things will be fine
my mother thinks murray is normal and its parenting that made him this way lest say we dnt talk much at all
*groan* Will we EVER be rid of the people who think that ASD is related to parenting??? WHY do they have to dwell on that part?
I know having parenting help and advice helped us come together as a couple and be able to work on things together, but BUT it did not "fix" the issues... and that is how we knew it was something more.
Having a second child, well we didn't have a diagnosis at the time we conceived Jovie. BUT DH wanted 2 children, he couldn't leave Matilda without a sibling, and I wanted heaps of children... we thought we weren't sleeping anyway, may as well have a newborn while we weren't sleeping. :lol: made sense to us at that time!! My mother's exact words were "If you can't cope with one, why would you have another?" Noice....
Now, DH is getting the snip. We really wouldn't be able to cope if we had another child, and one on the spectrum. My dream of having a boy is gone now. I no longer feel devestated over it, and am ready to go on our journey another way. It sounds sad and resigned but I'm okay with it all really.
Lulu :hug: mate.... I did that for months, from November - April.... I went back and forth as to if we really needed assessments, or if we should just move on and accept things. In that time, Matilda developed more quirks, more flapping her arms when she got frustrated, more flicking of her fingers.... all of that sort of stuff.... so now she had more obvious traits it was easier.
Hi All!
Sorry I have not posted in a very long time but things have been hard.
Right now I feel very confused and frustrated. My boy Oscar who has apergers is having problems in prep. Today was not good.
I was confronted by the teacher who wanted to make a earlier parent teacher interview. Although he has been progressing really well she was of the opinion to keep him for another year.
He is so academically advanced. He is 5 and can read his own books and does arithmetic (addition and subtraction). He even knows his 3D shapes and writes well. He even rides his bike well and is even swimming. He just does not play well or socialise well and lacks eye contact. Prep is a play year and I think too much emphasis is spent on 'playing' with things rather than learning. I think he may thrive in year 1 with the academic surroundings. I just dont know what to do.
My gut instinct says go and yank him out and home school. I just dont want him to redo prep. I see him getting better with socialisation everyday .... why do teachers lack the patience not every child is a cardboard cut out!!!
Sorry I have rambled a bit here ... I just need some advice from someone who knows where I am coming from.
Nicky
Nicky :hug: URGH... I wonder if the prep teacher fully understands Asperger's... I mean often with "Normal" children, prep progression is due to social maturity, but our little kiddles won't have that social maturity... if they ever get it... Its not part of their beings.
Do you have someone helping? I mean a play therapist, OT or psych? Social worker etc etc?? I think if it were me, I would have ask for another meeting with some information regarding early childhood education and Asperger's.
We are deciding what to do with Matilda at the moment. Matilda has decided that she can't read. So the school has put 1 older child with Matilda everyday she's there to read with her, and then she does some sight reading stuff with the teacher's aide (who she connects with) for 30 minutes a day. The TA has said she's doing much better dealing with reading at another angle... sight rather than phonetics. So thats a huge breakthrough... The other thing is that Matilda knows words and will read them everytime she see's them, but if you ask her to read them, she won't. She's so afraid of failing, that she won't even try. If it were climbing the side of the building, she wouldn't have any problems... *groan*
**UPDATE**
Matilda's results were given to us today. She has high functioning Autism, NOT Asperger's as was originally thought.....
Its okay, it doesn't change who she is. It doesnt change what we do, who we are... anything like that. BUT its still hard to get my head around? YKWIM?? Me thinks the apple juice worked a little too well ;)
Its starting to sink in today ...
I'm thinking of you Christy. This is so much to deal with for you. :hug:
Ready for a long one??? This is what I wrote to the NSW Health Department in regards to what happened to us when we first moved to Sydney:
WDYT?:
To Whom it May Concern;
My name is , and I would like to inform you of our experience at xxxxxx. My family moved into the area from Wynnum, Queensland in November 2008. Prior to our move, our oldest daughter had undergone a series of multidisciplinary assessments at the Mater Children’s Hospital Developmental Unit.
The Mater Hospital referred us to xx Health to be put under the care of Dr xxxx. I phoned the office a few times in order to make an appointment prior to moving so we would be able to continue our process of finding a diagnosis for Matilda. The next stage for Matilda according to the Mater Children’s was to have an appointment with a psychologist They advised me that I had to see a paediatrican first once we moved to the area. My phoned calls were not returned, and when I reached a receptionist, I was told that I would be put on a waiting list and my referral had not been received. I phoned the Mater to be given the date faxed and was told they would mail the referral and history for me.
In November 2008, I phoned again to be put through to Dr xxxx answering machine. I expressed my concern as my daughter was not going well. Her behaviour was deteriorating and her mental state was not good from the move.
Dr xxx rang back a week later and set up an appointment time two weeks later. He asked that I bring the history to him prior to the appointment. At that time I phoned the Mater to be told that the history had been posted on November 11th 2008, two weeks prior to the phone call. I went down and dropped off another copy just in case it was lost.
When we arrived for the appointment, Dr XXxx had not read the history. He asked us to start from the beginning, and as we started he stopped us 5 minutes into the discussion to say “Matilda does not have Austism, she is making eye contact with her father”. So we stopped talking and listened to him. We thought we would give it a try as he felt her difficult behaviours had to do with a lack of individual attention and suggested we do his “WWW”. It was over December holidays and we made another appointment in January.
In the meantime, our daughter was unable to enter shops as she would scream for 6-8 hours after the trip. She was becoming physically aggressive towards us. She was frantic, most of the time. We had a diagnosis of Sensory Processing Disorder from the Occupational Therapist at the Mater Children’s and were able to get some help through Commonwealth Carers in order to be able to buy Christmas presents.
We tried Watch Wait and Wonder over 2 weeks intensly. Matilda refused and hated it and would scream and attack us whenever we tried to do it, so we let it drop.
When we revisited with Dr XXxx, he said he didn’t understand why she hated it, but that we needed to persist. That he understood her behaviour was difficult, but he still believed it had to do more with parenting than anything else.
That halted our journey We had to get private help for Occupational Therapy for her Sensory issues, and that helped us.
Matilda was ill in April and while we were at the Royal North Shore Hospital the paediatrician and registrars who looked after Matilda noticed that she was unable to make eye contact with anyone there. They discussed her case and approached us as her parents to discuss the need for her to get assessed for Autistic Spectrum Disorder. They had to refer us to a private paediatrician as the public on in our “area” was Dr XXXX. We had to wait 3 months to get in. Now, nearly 8 months after seeing Dr XXxx, Matilda has been diagnosed with mild Autism. She has turned 5 in that time and we have missed out 8 months of early intervention. We have missed out in over $3000 worth of help in preparing her for school and life that is available through public funding. We have missed out of months and months of a more peaceful household. We have had to cancel our holidays this year coming in order to get Matilda ready for school and because we can’t afford too.
To say I am disappointed is an understatement. To say I am angry that the system has let us down is to put it mildly.
I do not want to see another parent have to deal with this. We as parents are lucky to have support in other places, and even then have lost greatly in our emotional wellbeing. I need to feel that other parents of children will not be let down again.
Oh Christy, that letter is so well worded - I can feel your emotion through it. It is so important to provide that feedback so that others can hopefully avoid the awful frustration that you have been through. Well done hun.
Fat hugs hun :hug:
Can you point out why (in bullet points maybe?) you are let down.
* not being listened to
* continually having to repeat yourselves
* miscommunications etc etc etc
well ive had a hell of a week last week murray wouldnt get off our couch he was just lethargic and angry he had red cheeks so i thought he was teething he was hot no temps the other half came home on saturday and mentioned murray had a swallon face kept an eye on it by 4pm sunday he looked like a football so off to the ed while in triage i told the male nurse he was in the last stages of autism assment and he wrote in big capital letters autisim got a diff rn lady she wouldnt listen to me or my partner kept calling me a pushy parent ect so i let her go for it she got bitten scratched and hit he wasnt going to let anyone near his face he hates to be touched on the side of the face best of times half an hour later she let me do it my way and it got done with alott of screaming he has a servre ear infection that burst and went both ways the swelling was from his lymnth nodes in his neck she gave me amoxacylin and this is where the fight has started he wont take it ive disguised it in about everything he wont drink it he knows its in there so we have had to hold him down and hope to small mercies he swallows
so yeah hasnt been a good week he had to miss speach path today and all day he has screamed kicked bitten and thrown himself all over the place i feel at a loss i know hes not well but its so frustrating
wow atleast ypu know whats wrong christy now big hugs tho
Quote of the week "Its just Autism Christy.... you don't understand how hard I have it right now"
I apologised for being so inconsiderate.
You're too nice Christy. That wouldn't have been my response ;)
well i wouldnt have appoligised i never appoligise i know we all have it hard but gosh its not like when openly whinge about our children
big hugs hun
Well all I know we live very busy & strained lives... not much happening here other than a lovely blockage of paperwork!!! I can't do it. I can't look at it, I can't do it.......
AAAARRRGGGGHHHHH I think it will be the job of DH.
On another note, one of the founders of Matilda's school has been praying for us, and gave us a book about healing that has a whole section on Autism. I don't know what to think or do. This is my own spiritual battle to me, if I pray for healing, am I not accepting her the way God made her?? I just want to love Matilda, I don't want to hurt her.
Christy..I just had tears streaming down my face with you letter.....perfect hon!!!
Sorry Ive been awol...had to much to deal with here with both boys.
Wilhelm is starting to ping of the wall's as we are mentioning the big holiday more and more. Wehave given him a little independance with Nikolaus...dropping both of them off near the school so they can walk accross the crossing together.
PSG was intersting last week. We have stopped school night DS playing and ocmputer time. It was becoming to much and the aggression was surfacing at school and here at home :( so I nipped it in the bud and its working.....he's more communiative with us. He tend to wonder of at 7ish to down load for 1/2 an hour but its not for the 2 -3 hours like it was. His teacher said that she has noticed a big difference in him at school :dance: BUT when I told the pead (yes he was at our school meeting) what I have changed at home...the career tried to tell me SHE thinks he needs that and I shouldnt take it away!! WTF???? I know she has a close bond with him but im doing this for his good...I AM HIS FEAKING MOTHER!!!!!! There was been no more tlak about suicide and knifes since I have done this....and no more talking about killing other people. Why cant people see im trying my friggen best instead of trying to tell me what to do!!!!
I had a giggle at him last week...I made something for someone special ;) and he was asking me and happing me make it. He asked me who it was for and I told him and said she was a special girl....and he said.....ready...
Is she autistic like me to mummy...cause that makes us both special
Break through...I cried yes...but my boy knows that he has autism.
Enough of my crapola...I have to go get supplies...we're out of nutrigrain and heaven forbid there is none tomorrow for WIlhelms breakfast :rolleye:
oh hun! I can't wait to get to the post office this arvo & pick it up!!!! I can't wait!
when does the hell stop ive been kicked biten pushed and growled at alll over trying to get this bloody antbotic into him and to top it all off hes had a massive illergic reaction and is covered in a rash so yeh bath time is a struggle now let alone the drinkinga nd eating since we got home he refuses to eat anything chunky or solid has to be sofy and sweet
hes driving me bonkers
we move house next week gee this should be fun
wow maz thats a big break through
:hug: murraysmum, its exhausting... :hug:
MAZ YOU ROCK MY WORLD!!!!
I haven't been back to post our latest results from J - I guess I both needed time to process it, and also I felt like I didn't belong anymore given that they have ruled out Aspergers.
What we have found out though is that he definitely has sensory issues, and also, as a complete surprise to us, he has low muscle tone and hyper-extensibility (double jointedness). Both of these things will be contributing to his poor concentration and inability to sit still. I have been giving this a lot of thought, and I need to ask more questions about this. I have been reading about it and I just feel that the low tone isn't isolated - it must be related to something else. Also, the paed said he was borderline ADHD and was trying to prepare us for the fact that she might be diagnosing ADHD when she reviews him just after he starts school next year. This was a big shock also and I think we are still coming to terms with this.
On the paed's advice, we have been interviewing school principals and have found 2 schools that seem fantastic and willing to work with us. Now we have to pick which of the 2 to go for. It has been a bit difficult to get the words "special needs" out at times, but I think I'm starting to get more used to it.
Anyway, that's where we are.
I'm sorry you guys have been having a hard time :hug:
Hi all, sorry i haven't posted in a while, i've been flat out studying, i have a maths assignmnet due in a week and its giving me a headache :wall:
Anyway we had Ethan's speech pathologist appointment on Wednesday and he saw the Ped. yesterday. Firstly the speech pathologist couldn't do a formal assessement because Ethan just wouldn't cooperate and had 0 attention span :( It was sad really, the early intervention lady (who sat in on the appointment) kept asking him to play games with her or to point out pictures etc and Ethan was just so scatter brained that he was more interested in throwing the chair around or lining up the toy blocks. I really wanted to help Ethan, usually at home he's not as scattered but he does have a very short attention span and is so hyperactive so i knew it was proabably a good thing that the early intervention lady saw him like that.
So we saw the Ped. yesterday....hmmmm not sure where to start. Firstly we were waiting an hour to get in and in that time both boys went ferral and i could see that Ethan was at his limit. So anyway we finally got in and i told the Dr. about all Ethan's quirks and bevaiours. I had even put together a folder full of stuff on Ethan, his milestones, strengths, weaknesses, day carer comments etc etc which i think helped the Dr. get a good idea of what been going on. Anyway i took along some rice cakes for Ethan because i knew he'd get hungry but that was a baaad move. He was so overstimulated that he started throwing them around the room and of course they broke...oh dear did Ethan go nuts! He is very pedantic about his rice cakes and they MUST be completely circular, so when he broke them he went crazy and started heading for a meltdown. My poor hubby had to take both screaming boys outside while i finished talking with the Dr.thankfully hubby was able to distracted Ethan by getting him to count the cars that drove past lol.
So the Dr. gave us an imformal diagnosis of ASD. I found the whole appointment quite confusing actually. He was quite convinced that the tap water is bad for Ethan (and other kids on the spectrum) and went on to tell us about a filtering device that is needed to ensure the water Ethan drinks is 100% pure..problem is it costs $900!! I tend to agree to some degree, i am a bit suss about what is put into the water but the thought of spending $900 on a water filter scares the hell out of me. Of course i'll do anything for my little guy...but $900???
Anyway after abserving Ethan he said that he had some very autistic traits and is on the spectrum but isn't 'autistic as such'...not sure what that means! He said the good news is that he thinks Ethan is very high functioning so there is a silver lining. He has requested that Ethan get a blood test to rule out any other dissorders like Fragile x etc...my gosh how on earth am i going to get him to sit still to get a blood test??? He's going to absolutely flip out, i think i'll have to hold my poor little boy down which is going to break my heart but i guess it needs to be done. Apparently the results can take a month to come back so we'll be playing the waiting game again. I still don't know if the Dr. will give him a formal diagnosis once the bloods come back or not, thats what i'm confused about. It seemed to me that he wasn't keen on a formal diagnosis but i'm assuming it would be better for Ethan to get a formal diagnosis so i can get him the help he needs. I'm going to call the early intervention lady today and get the ball rolling there.
Can anyone offer any advice? I'm not sure whether to get another opinion with another Ped. Or maybe i should just wait for the blood test results and then see if the Dr. will make a formal diagnosis?
I don't want to label Ethan but at the same time i really would like to have a better idea of what we're dealing with.
Hope everyone is well :)
Celeste
Hi,I am really sorry to barge in here, but I keep an eye on this thread.
:clap: on the job you all do with your little ones.
I was listening to ABC radio the other day and apparently there was some big autism conference in Sydney last week, anyway, they have been doing clinical trials on autistic adults with oxytocin, (it is a hormone, I think)
The results apparently have been quite remarkable for helping with repetetive behaviors and social cognitism (being able to read faces/emotions)
I dont know how to post links, but if you wanted to look, I just googled autism+oxytocin.
I know you guys prob hear of "miracle"fixes all the time so i feel a bit embarrased bringing it up.
Shell
oh Christy i know how you feel. Some nights i pray to God that Ethan will get better, and then i feel guilty because this is how he made Ethan and there are things about Ethan's personality that i love that are part of ASD..like i love that he sees all the little things in life that people miss, i love that he can be so mesmerised by the flowers in the front yard, or the moon or the wind in the trees ;). Plus i feel guilty wishing his autism away, so many people have it MUCH worse and i know we're truly blessed. I thank God everyday that Ethan is affectionate and so full of giggles and cuddles as i know this isn't the case for many kids on the spectrum.:
On another note, one of the founders of Matilda's school has been praying for us, and gave us a book about healing that has a whole section on Autism. I don't know what to think or do. This is my own spiritual battle to me, if I pray for healing, am I not accepting her the way God made her?? I just want to love Matilda, I don't want to hurt her.
Big :hug: to you hun xo
LR, I'm glad you have those appointments behind you. They can be so stressful :hug:
Often medical professionals refer to things like Aspergers as being "on the spectrum" but not autism - hence the term ASD. So that's probably what the paed meant. I think in general doctors are reluctant to diagnose before age 4 or 5, so that's most likely why he didn't talk about that. The thing is that many of the behaviours related to these things change with age. It's the same with ADHD - they won't formally diagnose DS until he has started school.
I hope that your early intervention lady is able to help you out in the meantime. Are you seeing on OT at all?
MLM - I have read about that in various places too - it's quite interesting. In fact oxytocin is the same hormone that triggers let-down when breastfeeding, and also orgasm (not when breastfeeding ;) )!
Thanks MantaRay, i guess i'm jumping the gun a bit. From reading through all the posts on here it seems like a formal diagnosis can take aaages and involve lots of different appointments and specialists..its all a bit scary to be honest, i feel like i have a mountain of information to digest :o
I guess i felt a little deflated after the appointment, we'd been waiting months to get in and i guess i just expected more of a clear idea of whats going on with Ethan. But of course like you said, ASD can be hard to diagnose and i guess it might be a good thing if we don't get a diagnosis straight away. He seems to make little improvements all the time so maybe by school age we'll get a better idea of whats going on.
Has anyone else had their little one's blood tested? Ethan is booked into get it done on Tuesday....i get teary just thinking about how horrible its going to be. Dh is taking him because he'll have to hold his arm straight and hold him still and i don't have the strength to do it, plus i don't think i'd be able to hold it together, i know he's going to scream and be really traumatised :cry: I am keen to see what the results are though, i'm sure everything is normal but i want to be confident that there's nothing else going on in his little body that could be contributing to his behaviour.
I'm yet to hear back from the early intervention lady but it sounds like we're going to get Ethan into that once or twice a week. The dr. didn't mention OT, is that something i have to organise? What exactly happens at OT appointments?
Thanks ;)
we have our last assment on monday yay not im so exhusted
hes done nothing but scream and kick and scream nothing i do is right and he wont eat he wont drink he wont stay inside
im hoping once i get this last one over and done with someone will help my other half seems to think murray is my problem i feel like a single parent atm which isnt a good head space to be in atm
i hope everyone has been having a ok week this week
Sorry girls, I've had too much on my plate and fell away.
MR - our paed said to me that ADHD and ASD are related in some way, and often get misdiagnosed as each other because they can share quirks. He isn't convinced that Matilda doesn't have ADHD as well :dunno:
LR - It is frustrating. I met another parent in a waiting room once who said this was her 5th assessment... and her daughter was crouched on a chair flapping and rocking. She said no one wanted to diagnose ASD and they were at the end of their coping. Its taken us almost 2 years to get anything diagnosed and now they are throwing heaps of diagnosis at us!
Matilda's not sleeping again, and its awful. I'm teary all the time because I have nothing to support me when I can't get any sleep. We are up for hours in the middle of the night & I've been working extra shifts and I have family stuff going on in America.... ARGH.
i know about the sleep issue i met breaking point yesterday i was utterly exhusted told the dp were he could shove himself and his daughter and walked out took muz with me and we went and sat up the chook pen with the chooks when i got back he had taken the hint and cleaned the kitchen for me but grrr i get so angry at him he gets 10 hrs a night im lucky to get 3 hrs muz has decided he likes to get up and scream and scream so i have to go in and offer nappy change drink food anything to cox him back to sleep ive given up how manny times i have gone in there
he has also adopted sitting under our dinning room table anyone else get this
when ever i tell him now he dives under there and wont come out he does it with his bed too and if i touch him he kicks tries to bite and growls at me like a wounded animal