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No! You haven't caused any of this Arte! :hug: You have always been a loving parent who has always done what felt right - and by golly you've tried a lot of things to find out what does work (at least for a little while sometimes). When you've been told by nurses and even your DH that it's your fault, if you hear it often enough you start to believe it. I think had you done things completely different you'd still be in this situation with him so you can't take blame for it at all.
My DS does this when he needs to eat - transitions from a happy-go-lucky kid to a really grumpy feral one. Once we get him to eat something (which can be a real challenge) the happy kid comes back.
My response to the sort of behaviour you describe is "you're really grumpy, do you need food? do you need a rest? or do you need to go and dig in the garden?" I don't try to get him to realise that (for example) slamming the computer mouse because "the computer isn't listening" is unacceptable - we talk about that once he's a bit happier.
I think that learning to manage their own disappointments and temper is a huge step that happens around now - all you can do is set the best possible example you can, and also give him some tools (like escaping to the garden, or whatever may work for him) to work it out for himself.
Hi Arte - how are things going? Hope you are having an OK week. did you get in to your appointment? any other developments? been thinking of you. x
How is it going Arte?
All good here thanks :). Away on holiday atm, have an initial appointment for Tuesday next week with some nurses and they assess who they think he should be referred to. I have been keeping a sleep diary at home to take with us.
Are you keeping more than a sleep diary though Arte (which is a very good idea)? Or some sort of record (you may remember) of the various issues over the times. It might be worth having something written that you can refer to if you get upset during the meeting.
Best of luck Arte, I hope you can get some answers soon. A sleep diary is a great idea, might also be worth adding food and behaviour to that as well? Just a thought. Enjoy your holiday!