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lol.. my mind is always in the gutter... I'm just preparing for the teenage years early!!
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Our boys are 17months and 3 weeks apart - we originally wanted bub#3 with a similar gap but due to my work issues we are now aiming for a 2.5 year gap between Ollie and next bub. That means Flynn will be 4 which seems REALLY old to me. But in reality we will still have 3 in four years (all going well) and so in real terms that is still fairly close.
So I totally understand where you are coming from with the anxiety about this - having 2 together is really hard work and 3 sounds even harder, but really, you cope with what you have to ;). What is the age of your bubs now - maybe it just seems harder cause your little one is soooo little? I know that we were still on-track for another 17-18 month gap I would be comfortable with that concept now, becuase although they are close in age Olie is so much easier to handle now than a little bub.
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Rory - yeah that could be true as well..... I think I want to go back there because DD is such a great bub - no trouble (well except her formula issues!!) at all.
I might get another trouble maker though as the 3rd... so thats scary too!!!!!
I was talking to DH about it last night - and he said just to NOT think about it, see what happens in the months leading up to June (we've got a LOT of changes coming) so to see if we will be in a financial position to actually have more children - cos we both might be unemployed!!!
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I have a 29mth age gap b/w #1 and #2
19 mth b/w #2 and #3
and will have 20mths b/w #3 and #4.......
I lurvvvvve the 29mth age gap.......my oldest is 5 and my second is just bout to turn 3. They are the best of friends. They entertain, help, and understand how to play with DD#3 (whom is 16 months). If i didnt have my oldest around i think i would go nuts.....im feeling really anxious about the year ahead, as she is going to school (GULP !) and my little helper wont be around as much.....:rolleyes:
But, as the others have said, its all about your family, what works well for you.....and whilst some people say to me 'oh its great to have them close together, all in nappies, all being TT together, get the baby kingdom days over quickly' i simply have found for me, the 29mth age gap worked sooooo much better and still is LOL. I enjoyed the pregnancy more too (#2 pregnancy).........i wasnt so busy, tired and run-down......
Good luck....agree with your DH....just see what happens.....
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I have 15 months between #1 and #2, which I love although the first 12 months was a bit full on :o
With #2 and #3, #2 will be 6 weeks under 3 years of age, it wasn`t planned this way, just took longer to conceive then it did with the other two, at times I think the age gap will be too big but then I`ll have two big brothers wanting to help with the baby, not sure if I`m going to have a few jealous moments with #2 as he`s such a Mummy`s boy, we`ll see how we go.
For our next bub I`d like a closer age gap again, maybe not the 15 months but closer then 3 years, we`ll see how I go.
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I have 12 months between my two and if I were having a third I would be wanting a three year gap minimum. No way would I even consider having another baby quickly. Having said that, I had difficult pregnancies, sickly newborns and now a limpet masquerading as my second-born.
FWIW, I conceived VERY easily at 36 and 37.
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My eldest DD was 4 when I had #2 and he was 22 months when I had #3. #3 was 6 when I had #4 and #4 was 21 months old when I had #5. So I have done both lol. I must admit I'm finding it harder to cope with the close age gap this time (maybe because #4 is a drama queen lol) but I like it both ways.
Having the bigger age gap meant that the older child was able to understand that mummy couldn't do some things and they were able to help out. Having them closer together you get it over and done with. Pros and cons for both but only you will know what suits.
Good luck with the decision
