The Right Age Gap??

We have the same discussions about when we should try for numberr 2 as well. We couldn't decide so we are OTL... not trying but not preventing.

We've still got a while before #2 is here, so can't offer any opinions on the age gap yet, but I think as others have said, you adjust and you cope at whatever age gap you end up with because that's all you know. I've never heard someone saying that they wish they had waited longer (even the girl I was talking to last night who said that when #3 was born she had 3 under 3.5!). I think it also depends on your circumstances. Because we've decided that I'll be at home until they're all in school, it made sense not to have too big a gap (and we've worked out that if we go for #3, its going to be a good 8 years till I'm back at work!).
The early stage of my pg was hard work - DD has one sleep a day and is so active that I would be exhausted by the time it was her bed time! But now the 2nd trimester has hit, my energy levels have made a comeback and its fine. I'm also lucky in that I have relatively breezy pg's (well, fingers crossed, so far with this one!)

I am PG with #2 and DD will be 15mths when she is born. ARGH!

I think everyone is right, you will get some that love having them very close and others that prefer a bigger age gap, depends on you guys in the long run!

#2 wasn't planned so not much choice but i think it will work out nicely... DD might get a little jealous at the start but then she wont know any different after that!

21 months in between my 2 and I don't think I could have planned the gap any better. It's been so much easier than I ever expected.

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can understand why she needs to be quiet when DD2 is going to sleep etc

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...may sound silly, but i reckon this is a great reason to have them later....my biggest gap is 29 mths. Found that much easier than 19 mth gap i have b/w #2 and #3 and #3 and #4. I feel like i am forever, and ever, and ever telling my 26mth old to be quiet whilst H sleeps.....she doesnt understand, why should she.....but yeah, i feel i get really frustrated and angry when she squeals at the top of her voice just coz she likes the sound of it....meanwhile H wakes up after only 30 mins sleeping. That, for me, has been the hardest...and prob the reason why im all for the 2.5 yr age gap.....:)