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Oh my :hug:
A counsellor could be a good place to start. If it's going to work out you both need to make an effort - maybe if he sees you're serious about it he can meet you half way.
If she's your shining light then I can totally understand not wanting to let her go. Is there anyone else in your family or among your friends that you can lean on for help and support? You do still need some time out sometimes.
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My husband stopped asking the "what do you do all day" question when I left him at home all weekend with 4 kids, the twins both being ill all weekend. I came back to absolute shambles and he was very apologetic both of the mess and also of the previous attitude he had shown me.
Although in your case there are obvious other issues going on so I am not sure how much this would help your situation. I echo what others have suggested about counselling. Perhaps if you do this he will realise how unhappy you are and be prepared to be more supportive.
Good luck
T
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No advice from me as dh is exactly the same with his comments about all i do is drink coffee and watch tv all day (i dont even drink coffee :rolleyes:) but i just wanted to send you a big :hug: as there seems to be alot of other issues that are getting you down.
Belle333 i'm ashamed and horrified to admit that i too was one of those that thought SAHM's did nothing - that babies slept and you watched tv all day/ slept. WHAT a huge wake up call it was when i had DS!!!
No-one can possibly know til they walk in your shoes. I'd 'teach' him by letting him have the 'life' for a weekend. guaranteed you're phoned within a few hours because he wont know what to do.
I recently dropped my sister off at our parents on other side of town 1.5hour round trip. I said to Dp 'will you be ok to feed, bath, bed Lachlan' NO probs he said. I get home, tea is not ready, he's in the bedroom wth Lachlan SCREAMING his head off and DP on verge of tears himself. couldn't get him to sleep..... think he appreciates what i go through every night now.
Although it does sound like he's not respecting you as he should. Counselling is very good.
Chin up sweets! x
:comfort: I'm with the others, this is about so much more than dh's perception of a sahm.
Would he go in for couples counselling?
He's being awfully disrespectful, this isn't how you treat someone you love, or it shouldn't be. And you sound so unhappy :hug: I hope you're ok. Mumming is hard enough