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rosehip : we just give him plain old panadol , which has no e numbers and i checked his teething gel too and none there either (sm33) but its not every day he gets panadol ...
lulu: we have a baby pool wich nix plays in for a good hour and plays in the yard too .. for most days we are out in the yard playing and he loves it .... but yesterday we had him in the pool twice ... and still didnt make him tired ... we alwyas try and get him out of the house becasue it does us all good ...
aussienic: the massage certinaly wont work .. i have tried many times and he just doesnt like it and wont settle for one ... a bit could work but i could try making it a bit quieter in the bath room ... i'll let you know ..
Vicky : you know , it may just be the bread .... he has toast most mornings then cheese spread on bread for lunch .... we brought bread from bakers delight yesterday .. i think i will have to go there from now on .. they have no preservatives ... thanks for the suggestion !!
Also his higchair is a fisher price one , a hi lo type thing but we tried to pull it up to the table but it doesnt fit under there ...
If you pull it right under the table its too low and if you move it to the right hieght its too far for him to eat his food ...
we have been looking at thouse ones that go on the big chairs but our chairs have a huge cushiony thing on it and the boosters are unstable on it ... so it look like we have to invest in a facy one that will fit our table and chairs ...
Amy: his routine at night is we go for a walk then a short run in the yard , then dinner then bath then bed ... we try to calm him down on the walk , which for most of the time he is quiet , then when we get home i take the clothes off the line and dh plays with him in the yard ...
maybe i need to have his dinner ealier or something ,but this has been his routine for ages .. so im not sure where im going wrong :dunno:
gtg the whinging has started ... oh and he slept till 7 am .. heres hoping for a day nap today !
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Lea, sometimes they buck the system. That's toddlerdom for you. My advice would be that you stop looking for what you are doing wrong and accept that no matter WHAT you do, if there is a boundary they will test it.
DD will not allow me to spoonfeed her. SHe feeds herself and will not eat if i am near her - she just chucks the food on the floor. I have found the best thing to do is give her something visually identical to what i am eating, put her in her high chair (she complains, but i ignore her) fasten her in so she can't climb out, give her a drink, her food and her spoon/fork, and leave her to it (i'm either at the table but not close enough to touch her or sat to the side on the sofa a few feet away). I do not watch her or comment or interfere in any way. If i so much as pick up something she can't reach unless she has asked me to she hits the roof. Most days she feeds herself peacefully. Today she chucked stew everywhere, but if i try to help she ALWAYS chucks food everywhere so it's worth the risk for a chance she'll do it rather than a certainty.
There is a babylock on her bedroom door. THis is mainly because i'm a single parent and worry she'll get up in the night and harm herself, but it also means i know once she's in bed she is absolutely safe (there is nothing in her room she can harm herself on). At bedtime i give her a bath or a shower, brush her teeth and read her a story, then i put her to bed, turn the lights off and fasten the child lock on the way out. If she gets up i go into her room and say "It's bedtime. Get back in bed" and make her do so. If she won't i pick her up and put her in bed. I do not shout but i *insist*. She will get back in bed even as she cries and shouts "naughty mummy!" at me. I then tuck her in, kiss her, and say "Night night baby" and leave immediately. I do not get her up under any circumstances. I do not linger in there under any circumstances. I do not talk with her, debate bedtime, offer toys or books apart from her comfort toy, or get into anything at all. Most of the time i don't even look right at her. If she is crying and distressed i will cuddle her and say "shhh, it's bedtime baby" and put her back in bed. She has a comfort toy i make sure she always has, and a cup of water in case she is thirsty in the night (she doesn't get bottles ever or anything but water after teeth brushing). Most nights she settles without problems, every now and again she won't go to sleep and i am putting her back in her cot every 10 minutes for 3 hours. This is fine. The rules remain. Bedtime is bedtime.
If i were you i'd decide how you want things to be and then go through the motions again and again until he gets it. He will ALWAYS test you, especially when he knows you are tired and sick (he'll have noticed mumma isn't going her normal speed), it is normal and shows what a bright, observant little boy you have.
Some kids, DD is one, it sounds like Nixon is one too, find it really hard to "let go" of the day and go to sleep. They are smart, they are afraid they might miss something, so they fight it and fight it until they are exhausted and can barely function. It's normal. To combat it i try to be very firm about bedtime and very calm in the face of her cries and screams and tantrums - i'm trying to show her, see, mumma isn't acting worried because sleep isn't worrying, it's good. Sleep is a nice bit of the day.
FWIW i try to wind her down for at least an hour before her shower/bath, so no running about outside, no songs except slow lullaby ones, nothing "exciting" at all. I try to make everything calm and slow and boring so that going to sleep isn't a wrench away from potential fun stuff.
Hang in there hun. If you must judge your parenting by results, wait until he is AT LEAST 30.
Bx
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Also honey, if he's had one bottle of milk and is unsettled, do what we do, we give the girls another bottle of water for them so suck on during the night. This way if they are really thirsty, or they give themselves a sore throat from crying, the water will soothe it and help them drift off. I have found it works and even now, the girls get a non spill sippy cup of water to go to bed with so they don't dehydrate and it really helps settle them...
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oh I forgot about the water thing.. ALthough when I tried that for the first time with my eldest he was around 15 months I think as I walked out of the room i got hit in the head with it lol.. Was not impressed
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thanks bec , nix is really defiant .. we did have a neighbour come over and ask is if everything was all right ... it was really embarassing
pmsl at nic .. with the bottle hitting you in the head ...
he is pretty tired now , he is in bed slightly whinging ... but no screaming ...
ok there it is .. :rolleyes: i will go in and give him a book to clam him down and at least get quiet time ...
