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There is a book called "Be Gentle" but the best tactic I found was to give DD as much supervised contact with DS as possible - he definitely got a bit more 'rough' treatment during the supervised contact than maybe is ideal but he never seemed to mind and seemed to help DD be less inclined to 'get at' him at other times. I never really tried to put him out of her way, so he lost the temptation factor fairly quickly (although my DD was a few months older than yours when DS was born).
We had one of those fancy, expensive high chairs which could recline. I found this one of the safest ways to have bubs out in the open.
How are you going? Not to be discouraging, but this is something that we still struggle with. My DS 2 is 8 months and the age difference is 18 months. We have our good days and our bad days. I find that the behaviour of my eldest is best when we have some quality one on one time at some stage.
That being said, it's very hard to discourage DS1 from the bad behaviour when DS2 smiles broadly at his older brother, even when he's being smacked on the head. DS2 just loves his brother so much.
Thanks for asking. Some days are better than others.
DH and i have both been sick, which hasn't helped. We also find that it is better when DD gets some special attention. Letting her hold DS (supervised) or do things to help also seems to reduce the breakdowns.
DH goes back to work soon, which has both advantages and disadvantages. i can be more consistent when it is just me, but i also don't have my back-up when both kids need attention. Bed time when DH is on night shifts are going to be the hardest. I don't have anyone who lives close who can help with this, and DD is harder to settle when visitors are here anyway.