I haven't had any problems with incontinence at all. My last baby had a 37cm head too which was a surprise LOL - the other three were 34.8 and 2 at 34cm. My smallest baby was only 8lb 8 so anything smaller to me is just tiny LOL.
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I haven't had any problems with incontinence at all. My last baby had a 37cm head too which was a surprise LOL - the other three were 34.8 and 2 at 34cm. My smallest baby was only 8lb 8 so anything smaller to me is just tiny LOL.
i had forgotten i was subscribed to this thread. there i was a few pages back praying for 7lbs.
the treachery was that i measured the same as my belly buddies i.e fundal height so no one tipped me off that i had gigantor growing in there. i honestly had no idea i had a huge baby...
so no drugs and a birth centre labour later, we couldn't do the last centimetre because the little guy had turned lateral on me. i guzzled a canister of gas because the cx were so fast and so bad for no action that i was losing my mind.
no amount of pool-floating or rocking was going to change the fact that a 37cm head was bashing sideways on one tiny bit of cervix. too sore to push back so we went the em c/s route.
i absolutely do not regret that decision on little bit. mr big was 10lb 8oz and the biggest baby the birth centre at the GC had had to date.
even the middies thought i made the right decision.
i was geared up for the big natural hoo ha birth but it just didn't happen and i'm very, very glad.
as for further babies... na-uh. not for me. horrific labours are not my cup of tea.
Renstar, I am trying to remember a few things you mentioned throughout this thread. One was about wondering if you can refuse something by a doctor - you can refuse anything. Even from big scary people in white coats ;). Your body is your body, you don't have to agree to any interventions, including vaginal examinations, none of it. I am homebirthing, which is always an option if you are easily bullied (I am).
As Kelly is saying, both babies and pelvises are designed to move, to shape, to fit. So pelvimetry is a waste of time, it shows nothing about what actually will occur during the pushing phase. Hence why 13 pounders can slide right on out. The important thing is positioning of the mama during labour, and the Pink Kit is invaluable for learning about that. They point out things like what it takes to move a stuck baby by saying 'push your thumb and forefinger together tightly so that when you move them, they are stuck together, now release a tiny amount, just enough that the skin slides - that is all the room you need to make in some circumstances." or words to that effect. If there is a bad possie in baby or mama, then it may take more time which can make or break a woman's resolve.
You also asked about bigger bellies. In first babies, comparison to other mamas showing your belly as bigger can be a good thing. Big belly often means anterior positioning (baby laying with back along mama's belly) which is preferable for birth. Posterior baby's often show a smaller belly because the front is full of arms and legs, not a big curving back. I have what DH calls a "torpedo belly" this time, because this baby is anterior, DD was posterior, I got away with a nice tidy little belly back then. That's one reason for belly size difference, there are many others but it is rarely baby's size, they are really hard to pick in utero because amniotic fluid differences, etc. A small belly can kick out a 12 pounder and vice versa. For instance, Viv, the previous poster, had what I thought was an average belly and she had a ten and a half pounder in there.
Oh, I see Kelly linked the pink kit - get it get it get it!
I was unable to birth my first baby, who was 10lb2oz and had a 39cm head. After being induced via having waters broken and drip put up, I had a 15 hour labour with failure to progress, then an emerg c/s. After the c/s the dr told me that my uterus had thinned and was close to rupturing- due to obstruction of labour and a baby that was not going to fit through my pelvis. So in my case- the baby was too big to fit, but i do know of others who have birthed large babies.
I have a cousin who vaginally birthed a 12pd 11 baby..No word of a lie
Certainly dont disbelieve you Coco. My mum SVB my 'little' brother who was 12ish lbs - didnt even tear!
Ironically, he is still just a big kid. haha. He got beaten for the biggest baby record at the hospy by a 13 pounder. Not sure if that one was VB though.
nah, my mums 4th (which was a VBAC she went into labour about 1am-ish according to her and had my bro close to 5ish in the morning. Drug free, she had no time. She got to the hospital about 45 minutes before he was born... so there we go lol
(which means there is hope for me as her labour with me was close to 40 hours)
Oh yeah and he was 10ish pounds. Too early to remember specifics but yeah he was her biggest. A drug-free VBAC. And her shortest labour.
I had bigger babies in weight, height or head each time. Jaidan was 8lbs 4oz, 55.5cm long and a 37cm head. Chase 9lbs 5oz, 55cm long and 37cm head. Ashton was by far the largest at 11lb, 55cm and 39cm head. Birthed all vaginally. My first and smallest was the WORST and threatened C/S. I was so proud I got him out when my cervix had turned back so for 20+ hours he was pushing on a wall basically. He wasn't well when he came out because of the long stressful labour and was in NICU. Chase I was up and packing my bag to go home straight away, annoying the MW 2 hours later to leave! Ashton .... he had shoulder dis and tore me. He was my fastest labour at 6 hours. The others were 47hours (from first regular induced contraction to birth) and 16 hours.
And no I have no incontinence since birthing my 3 bigger babies :)
Ditto! From everything I have heard my 9lb 4oz baby was my easiest labour - and I certainly remember that my 6lb baby was the hardest - by a long shot! When they AROM, I lost half my dilation and had to do that all over again! I was *livid* when she said "uh oh. You are only 4cms now" - and they'd vanish for hours at a time.:
All the others 8lb and over - no problems. Wouldn't be the first time they have got it all backwards! LOL
No incontinence here either. But I tend to go overboard with my pelvic floor too. The idea of it makes me cringe :(
My grandma had FIVE babies.
First was 10lbs something
Second was 11lbs something
Third was 11 lbs something
Fourth was 12lbs something
Fifth was 13lbs something!
She had them ALL vaginally, no drugs at all, and NO tearing! Never had a stitch!
She is 5 foot 2, and was about a size 10-12 when she had the kids! Scary!
So it can be done!
My first was 4lbs, my second 10lbs.... don't want to think about a third!!