Birthing the 'old fashioned way'

TBH my FIL was pretty chuffed at his daughter. The ILs told me how my SIL nearly made my BIL deaf with the birthing (drug free) and almost broke a couple of his fingers. I think they were proud but a little amused (in a nice way) at their daughter's experience. There are so many generational issues when talking to my MIL about birth. She talks about how when she had her 3 children, she was in hospital for 10 days and the babies were kept in a separate room and only brought for feeding - that was all she knew so it seems normal and worked for her - as far as she can remember. My FIL didn't even take one day off work.

MR don't say you are old! How about 'matured'? LOL

Tobily, I totally hear you. And I agree it is worrying.

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she was in hospital for 10 days and the babies were kept in a separate room and only brought for feeding - that was all she knew so it seems normal and worked for her - as far as she can remember

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Dusty my mum had the same experience with me. It wasn't until she saw me at home with my first child that she started to grieve for and think about the time she lost with me while we were in hospital after my birth. She said that she was sorry she had missed those early days with me, and thirty-odd years after the event even wept a few tears over it.

The old fashioned way, huh? :redface:

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Dusty my mum had the same experience with me. It wasn't until she saw me at home with my first child that she started to grieve for and think about the time she lost with me while we were in hospital after my birth. She said that she was sorry she had missed those early days with me, and thirty-odd years after the event even wept a few tears over it.

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Its hard isn't it. It is like women will always feel some loss or guilt when it comes to birthing/mothering, even 30 years later. My MIL is incredibly pragmatic and I think she thinks birthing and parenting is very fussy these days. Although I reckon she would have embraced current thinking if it were in her time, but they did what they did in those days because there was little other choice.

My mum got defensive and scare-mongery when I told her the FBC had a 24 hr stay policy, and when I told her I just wanted to get home anyway! That's her first port of call - to assume that the way I choose to do things is a criticism of how she did things. Though I could argue that she didn't get to choose in her day, and birth was 'done' to her...but I won't!

Dusty ... My Mum too !!! ... And Mum often said being in hospital that long with each 3 children was like having a holiday ... Lucky her i say as when i had my DD the hospital staff wanted to kick me out me a private patient after 48hrs (1st bub), i never had a break from my DD, only left the room to bath her each morning, had about 30mins sleep each night also cause my room was opposite a noisy kitchen & i had high blood pressure & to top it off for some strange reason my room was really hot (it was Winter) than other rooms and many a times i never fainted whilst holding newborn bub crying or screaming :rolleyes: ... But i did have some lovely midwives on duty :D