In the delivery room?

Well if you book me before my studies are done I'll consider you a freebie ;) You can email me -
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if you'd like to chat about it further - no obligations :)

I'll have a think and let you know ;)

WIth DD i had:

2 midwives
1 en
1 student midwive
1 ambo
2 wardsmen
1 husband (he was at the birth not during labour)

(wasnt the way i would have planned it but that is the way it happened).

With DS
it was in my bedroom I had:
1 DH
1 Girlfriend (who was over to keep an ear out for DD who was asleep)
3 paramedics

lol

but happy to have the paramedics there for the actual birth (they werent their during the labour)

First time, DP, ob, anaesthetist and all others associated with a c/s - was a bit of a crowd really! We had a scheduled c/s due to placenta praevia.

Next birth I would like to have at home. We will have a m/w, doula, DP, my DD and my Mum (to look after DD). If DP doesn't get on board the idea of a home birth, then we'll still have a doula and possibly DD and my Mum.

my first i had my mum and a midwife this bub i want to just be me and my middwife and maybe a doula and dp if he can make it

i dont like to be crowded and thats what my mum did it drove me bonkers

its best to have someone your comfy with

i had my Mum and my sister and a midwife and a few on looking student midwifes lol

Just me and my DP. Would have liked my Mum but she felt as though it was our time and waited outside!

With DS I had: DH, about 10 medical people.

With DD I had: DH, DS, 1 midwife, 1 student midwife.

For the whole labour I had my then partner. He was a bit nervous about it even though he'd been through it before with his ex. He was fantastic throughout, much better than I thought he'd be. He was so emotional when he walked out of the room to announce the birth that my parents thought the bub or I had died. I also had my MIL there for most of the labour at the hossy and my parents came in and out.

For the birth itself (vac extraction) they cleared the room apart from my partner (at my request) so it was just us & a team of 8 medicos.

I think it would be a great shame if he doesn't come in with you. I'm sure when the time comes you will want him there. Just keep him at the top of the bed when the birth happens if he's squeamish.

Stupidly, I had DH.

Next time (if there is one) I'm having my sister. And no DH if I can manage it.

You need someone who loves you, cares for you, listens to you and will stick up for you if someone wants to shove "hospital policy" on you. Or tell you that you're in pain when you're not.

DH believed the midwives when they said I was in pain rather than me, who was not only not in pain but chatting about the student midwife's studies and playing scrabble. My mother would be too flappy and fussy. My sister may not have given birth, but she's reliable and calm and wouldn't flap too much. She loves me enough to be there for me but isn't so crazy-love that she'd tell me to go against my needs because she thinks I may want to.

I also had a whole plethora of hospital staff the first time - can't even remember who they all were or what they were for. Next time, I may have a midwife IF that midwife is VERY, VERY lucky. I know the last two midwives I saw recently tried to talk me out of freebirthing but TBH if I don't feel comfortable with a midwife I'm not going to have one.

I had DF & SIL, but SIL wasnt my choice DF called her from the hossy & asked her to come in because they had just moved in down the end of our street

Hi,
for DS1 I had my DH and a friend (she was there to support DH as he is also very squimish)
DS2 just my DH
DS3 DH and an Independant Midwife

My first two labors resulted in c-section and my third was a VBAC.
I'd also suggest either a Doula or and Independant Midwife. I chose an IM over a doula as they only cost a little bit more and are qualified to give medical advice if needed. :D

its a hard choice i just recently gave birth.. 5days to be exact

i had DP, my mum and my DPs mum :wall:
next time will just be me and DP.
good luck xxx

First time I had DH, godparents came at one point and another friend came at another point. (visited really - I had a long labour and I didn't mind them being there)
Second time DH, Doula, MIL, DD (and the midwives of course).

I only had DH and medical people. DH and I are very close and I'm much more comfortable around him than any female friends or family members.

It was interesting, DH wasn't at all squeamish about the c/s birth. He stood up and watched and took pictures over the screen. The part he found difficult was seeing me in pain during the labour.

He probably wasn't as good an advocate for me as he could have been. One midwife was trying to take the gas away from me and it would have been nice if he said something. I guess that is where a doula would come in handy.

I had my dh and my best friend. BF was useless- she vomited as soon as she walked in the room, then started taking photos of me in labour, which i had specifically aked her not to do. She ain't invited this time ;) I thought she would be great help, having had two kids herself (although, in her defense, we didn't call her until there was about an hour to go, so she came in right at the end).

My dh is very squeamish but he was fantastic during labour, I couldn't have done it without him. Having said that, I was less then impressed when he started throwing up in the sink, holding our freshly birthed baby- it was the smell of the placenta that got to him :lol:

i had DH my mum and MIL and the middies 2 when he was coming out and the ob and a student ob when i was getting stitched up

i so want it to be them next time maybe my sister instead of MIL not sure she was really there to take pics and when the other 2 went out for a ciggie

Originally my huband and I decided that it would just be the 2 of us. I would have liked my mum there, but he didn't want her in the room as it was his 1st child (my 2nd) and I respected that.

However on the day, there was no way in the world I was going in without either one of them, and DH had no problems with this, I think he secretly encouraged it.

He is now greatful that she was there (my labour went FOREVER) and they are much closer now than they ever were.

My birth was **** (something I am still struggling to deal with), but if it wasn't, they wouldn't be as close as they are, so I am greatful for that.

GL with your birth. It will be an amazing experience, no matter how it turns out.