I think I would feel weirder going into the delivery suite with a brazilian than just natural. But then I think it may be the last thing on my mind LOL.
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I think I would feel weirder going into the delivery suite with a brazilian than just natural. But then I think it may be the last thing on my mind LOL.
I watched 'Knocked Up' on the weekend and it showed the baby's head crowning and she had NO HAIR, nothing, ZIP! TBH I was shocked haha, I must live a sheltered life!
And then I found myself wondering if it's the done thing since they showed it in a movie!
I would imagine it would look quite bizarre!!!! I have never seen a shaved hoo haa give birth (or a brazillian hoo haa!!!). Maybe because it's an American movie???
PC it was more about this hospital's policy and not wanting to be sued should something go wrong.
FC I have but it makes no difference.
What do nurses prefer tho?
I know theres alot of people saying do what you want, wat ever makes u comfortable...or they dont mind wat you look like... but wat is prefered
Now i'm worried i'll be looked at like a freak when i rock up to the hospital!
And i hardly want to go into the 'i only do it for my eczema'.. i just pretend we both don't notice these kinds of things.. maybe my obs missed the fact he is looking at my hoo-haa altogether?? :)
Kimbaz - I think you can be very confident that there is absolutely no preference. If you feel comfortable with a Brazillian than go for it. If you have pubic hair and are comfortable with it than do that.
Nurses/midwives/obs have far more important things to look at other than the grooming of fandangos!!!! ;)
Well said Deb! :cryinglaugh::
Nurses/midwives/obs have far more important things to look at other than the grooming of fandangos!!!!
I'm not sure it's all about what the hospital staff prefer? Wouldn't it be best to do what is right for the individual? If hospital staff prefered I had all my pubic hair removed I would have a huge issue on my hands as I personally associate an absence of hair down their with pre-pubescence and I have a few psychological scars about that time of my life. I've no desire to return to the vulnerable state that is girl-hood. Also, at the end of the day the hair is there for a reason (thanks again for posting that Katkins) and nursing staff/doctors would most likely acknowledge that. I guess we all have our own thoughts on the matter but I just can't get beyond the associations I have with it not being "right" that pre-pubescent hoo-haa's are doing all these sexual things like giving birth. It's a huge shame that some women are feeling pressured into spending time and money and enduring huge ammounts of PAIN to remove their hair. What does it all mean? Is being a woman down there so ugly?
ETA: thanks FC, very comforting :)
I agree 200 percent Bath... Sorry if my humour offended anyone...
If I was told I had to remove my pubic hair I too would have huge issues (I too have scars). Not only that though. I am proud of my woman ness. I don't need to remove my pubic hair to feel clean (I personally believe it would be very ouchy to have it waxed off and I personally - and I concede we are all different this is just my opinion... that it's most unattractive. (a bald pubic area that is...) I am a woman and women have pubes. We have boobs, we bleed, we give birth, we make love. It's normal, natural and I am very very comfy with it.
But for those who like the "clean skin" look than that's cool too. I agree though do what YOU want not what you feel that would visually please someone else.
I know if I shaved my pubic hair off my DH would think I needed medication! :cryinglaugh:
Yeh i think the midwives/OB's delivering are gonna see alot worse than pubic hair while down there! And also when you get close to that time, you cant see down there anyways to do a personal job! lol. I had a trim.. lol but that was it.. when the time comes you dont really care, you just want the damn thing out!!
Im really funny about my region... i hate it.. want it gone..but then i dont want to be exposed and atm.. i think OMG those poor people looking down there....but thats me.. and i should be happy... and theres no way id let DH near me to trim.. cos he'd 'slip' and it would all be gone...
Awww Kimbaz, that's terrible you feel that way... but I'm sure it's quite common :( it makes me so angry really... that at such a fragile, vulnerable time we women have to feel this way. Grrrrr! And why? Why are we having this debate? Why can't we be focused on the important stuff like having a positive birth at this time??? At least these open discussions are shedding some light on the reality and that's that no one cares either way! Honestly I really think it's just ourselves that are putting us through this needless torture... and if it's our DHs putting pressure on us to look like pre-pubescents/porn stars then i really thinks it's their issue... not ours! I really don't want to offend anyone by that... I also have given consideration to getting rid of it all... I just found myself questioning why. I do shave my legs because they are a more public part of me... but our privates are our privates... and a whole different story I think.
At my antenatal class last night the midwife told us a little story I thought I would share here.
Earlier in the year the midwife asked a woman who was having a cesarean to shave her pubic hair as she was booked in the next day. The following day they discovered that she completely shaved ALL her public hair including underneath. They midwife said they had a little giggle because it wasn’t necessary at all.
uh oh! poor woman would have had that unbearable regrowth itch to deal with as well as the pain from the surgery! I hope the midwife clarified the issue for future mums-to-be.
I had my last wax when I was about 6 months PG (I just like being waxed anyway... hate shaving) but after my 6 month wax I just let it go haha I think because I couldnt see down there I never thought to get it done again, so I think it was all there when it came to giving birth. I dont think anyone seriously thinks about what it looks like down there while they're giving birth though, I always thought I would be really embarrassed being in that position with strangers looking / touching but when it came to it I just didnt care... I knew they were there for a reason & knew what they were doing so I just went with the flow.
I dont think I'll be waxing the next time either...
I shaved my legs and did a tidy up (well as much as you can at 9 months and round as a beach ball and can't see your toes let alone the hairy bits!!)
I must admit that after the third internal (gel inserted twice and then waters broken) I really didn't care what they looked like.....and even now, after my recent d&c (which my bits were hairy than an old english sheepdog!!!!) I could care less.
We grow hair there for a reason, so just let it be! LOL
I've never had my waahoo shaved and dont think i want to although the thought had crossed my mind that, 'omg....i'll be exposed to EVERYONE' who's going to be on the 'catching' team. so i thought, it's better to have some hair so cover up than bare it all plus, hubby prefers it this way.
i trimmed myself abt 3 weeks ago n i was already huffing n puffing. can't imagine trying to do the same at 38 or 40 weeks!!! so i'll just leave my secret garden to grow. :D