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we had a rule that we didn't accept visitors until the next day with both my c/sections - unless called prior. DH sms'd or rang a while after the birth to let people know but due to the unknown of pain etc after c/section - plus making sure we had time to ourselves - that was my rule.
my parents live by the rule that they won't come up until they are rung and told they can whether that be straight after or days after - thats just the type or people they are.
hmm..I don't think we will be telling anyone until its well over and done with and we have had time to bond with our son.. but i guess that may change on the day.
I'm definately only having dh there
We went to hospital at 3.30am so told noone.I actually was 4 cm when I got there and my broke my waters at 12 noon while doing an internal.Midwives called my hubby and he came straight back to the hospital.he was visiting my sister who is a florist getting me flowers when he got the call so my sis knew and then he rang my mum from the hospital.
After the girls were born that night he rang or sent text messages to everyone and the next night i sent texts to my friends saying the girls were here and that I was a bit under the wether from having preeclampsia and that the girls were in special care so they probably would'nt be able to see them till later in the week.
In all honesty all I cared about at the time was me and my babies not ringing everyone to tell them I was in labour.I went into my own little world.Maybe call your friend after the event and tell her sorry you were so in the moment and did'nt have a chance to call.
Our plan is to only call my mum or dad or sister when I go into labour and need a ride to the hospital (DH doesn't drive). They've been told to not call anyone when we do go in.
Once bub is born, we will wait until we're settled and had sleep/food/rest/bonding time to send out the sms to everyone, and actually tell them when visiting hours are so they can start coming in at those times. If bub is born in the morning, then the sms will go out in the afternoon. If bub is born in the afternoon, sms will go out in the evening (people can't visit anyway). If bub is born at night, then it'll go out the next morning.
(I'd even toyed with the idea of telling everyone we were due 2 weeks later than the actual EDD so they wouldn't bother me or expect any news yet!)
It's really important to me that we have our time - I can imagine giving birth is a full on experience, let alone meeting your child!
hi, this is my first post to bellybelly (as i just joined today)
i am 40w today and have had similar problems with a girlfriend.
she was the first person (other than DH) that i told about the pregnancy and she went around and blabbed to EVERYONE, so i ended up having to tell everyone WAYYY earlier than i would have- this really annoyed me, but i didnt say much because i know she didn't realise what she'd done was inappropriate & upsetting.
At 25w or so she then decided that she was going to be my birth partner. i laughed in the her face and pretended she was joking everytime she mentioned it until she got the message.
Now she is insisting on waiting outside whilst i labour so she can be the first to see the bub- needless to say i wont be telling her when im in labour!!!! if shes p**sed, she'll get over it.
She really is clueless- but she will find out how it feels when she goes through it all and i will be able to say 'now can you understand!!!!!'
Hi again,
I know this doesn't relate exactly to the labour, but I thought I'd mention it for those that have yet to experience it all...when I was in hospital for the four days after my bub was born, I was so excited I wanted to share it with everyone and I was wishing more people would come and visit me so I could show off my baby. I originally told people that I'd rather wait until we got home from hospital and then regretted it. So my recommendation is to go with the flow and see how you feel at the time.