GL, hope all is well, with any luck your in hospital and not far off!
GL, hope all is well, with any luck your in hospital and not far off!
.... 1stTimeMumma88 if you like i would absolutely love to be your P.I.G :pray: if i'm not too late to offer, and if it helps i just about sleep with my mobile anyway LOL :lol: ah what the heck i will PM you now with my mobile if you chose to ;):
Thanks smiles but the lovely Jenni (**sunshine**) has already offered :)
how is everything going Hun? soo exciting!
.... oh that's so lovely and i'm so glad she has :D:
You take super care ok :hug: xoxox
Hah, I'm getting the same thing ... not quite 10 minutes though. Anything from 10-25mins, since about 4 today.
My other half is stressed to the max and about to dissolve in a puddle of anxiety on the floor. He just made cupcakes. Oh dear.
It turned from being just ouch to being incredibly painful pretty fast last time so we'll see ...
They are now every 6 mins. I'm feeling most in my back. Im chatting to my mum on FB and shes wanting to come over and take me to hospital. Im hesitant as im afraid of being told to come home as nothing is progressing :(
Good luck sweetie. Sounds all really promising.
sounds like things are progressing just fine to me! :) I don't see any harm in waiting until they are 5 mins to go to the hospital (depending how far away it is), but maybe you should let your mum come over anyway in case things start moving faster than they have been?
Good luck, sounds like things are really underway and I hope you have your little one in your arms soon! How exciting!!
Good luck Hun!!!
Wow! Good luck hon! With everything you've been through lately, it'd be awesome to finally get to meet your LO. Hope all goes well!
Corelly x
Thanks ladies.
Argh im almost in tears because of the pain, the excitement and nerves.
I just dont want to be told im not dilating and to come back..
Ok its looking like every 4 mins now.. now to just to monitor and make sure they dont change. Should these be very painful by now because they are just slightly more painful. Unless i have a high pain tolerance LOL
You'd be suprised, it's likely they'd be very painful - it's just that your body has been working up to this point, which means that it's been a gradual increase in pain, not a hugh sudden leap from nothing to 100km/hr, you know what I mean?
Good luck!!!
Have been thinking about you all day.
Sounds like she'll be here soon! Yaya!
Ok so i just rang the hospital and this is what i was told:
If i was in REAL labour i wouldnt be able to talk during the contractions i would be panting too much. She said that it takes a while for the cervix to thin and come forward and being my first baby it would take a few days. She told me to have panadol and go to bed. And things should increase in 24-48 hours.
Being my first baby i have no idea if she is right or not..
hun when my BFF went to the hospital for her first bub she told them she NEEDED pain releif and they told her that they only give pain relief to ppl who were actually in labour. Her baby was born an hour later!
if u feel like going in then go. if u want an internal to see how far u are make sure they do it properly with their hands up in ur junk, not with a huge torch and spectulum!
I have been watching this thread all day 1stTime! I'm with Skybie, if you feel the need to go to hospital, then go. The worst that will happen is that they will check you over and send you home!
Too funny, Skybie... I have a mental image of a cluster of MW's crowded around a vagina with a Dolphin torch, arguing about how dilated the cervix is...
Good luck, 1stTime... I'll be checking up on you in the morning!!
I'm with skybie if it gets too much for you go in and get an internal and demand pain relief.
They told me as I was laboring for the first time with dd2 (dd1 was a emergency c sect) that I would go for hours, they didn't do an internal and 45 min later she arrived.
... me too, .... goes to show you have lots of us here from a distance who care about you and want to see your mind at ease.:
I agree if you feel better in having to go into the hosp then go, and as most here have said only worst thing that can happen is they send you home !! (i'm hoping it's not a long drive though !!)
Mine were every 30 seconds and almost 2 minutes long when I finally went to hospital and I was talking through most of mine too, and I wasn't screaming in pain either...It is different for everyone.
If you feel you need to go in, go in. But don't be scared to labour at home, where you can walk around when you want etc.
Good luck :)
Thanks ladies. It means alot :)
I havent the energy tonight, i just feel so drained had a bit of a cry im just so confused as i have no idea whats going on.
And the midwife was asking what i wanted to do, and i just almost snapped at her and said i dont know why not tell me what YOU want me to do.
I'll do what she says have some panadol and go to bed. Hopefully feel better tomorrow or atleast feel worse LOL as she said it was real labour i wouldnt be able to talk... though my mum said she was never like that but anywho..
Night ladies. Ill update in the morning or if i do end up going in tonight xx
... nite, nite and i soooo hope you get some sleep or relief if that's possible xox
hope you get a rest......or a party ;) babe
Sweet dreams :)
Pssh, honey, I got to 9cm and was walking and talking through contx the whole time without realising how far I had progressed ;) There was no panting me me until after ARM and baby was descending!!:
Have been keeping track of this thread with my fingers crossed, and keeping you and the little one in my thoughts. I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you as every pregnancy and labour is sooo different, all I can say is that it very well could be the beginning of something HUGE ;) Try and get as much rest as you can, sweetie, if you're in a lot of pain don't hesitate to get yourself up to the hospital/birthing centre and get them to check you out, they can always check things over and send you home if it's nothing, but if it's something, and you're a little bit early, I'd hate for you to miss out on it because the staff are being so dismissive over the phone!! It's your first baby, this is so precious, don't let anybody talk down your concerns or make you feel like you're making a big deal over nothing. Of course it's a big deal!
Best of luck whichever way you go hun, my best advice right now is to rest up as much as possible, if you are indeed going into labour you'll need all the energy you can get, if it's just BH/pre-labour you might be able to get some relief from the pain if you're well-rested. A nice hot shower and a foot rub from DP wouldn't go astray either, babe ;) Best of luck hun!!
:hug: Sending birthing baby vibes :loveshower:
I arrived at the hospital in established hard labour and no one really paid too much attention to me as I was still quite chipper and talking. Needless to say they got a bit of a shock when they got around to checking me and I was 9cms lol. It just depends on your pain threshold I guess, not every woman screams and makes a big fuss during contractions. Good luck and hopefully you can manage a decent sleep :):
Hope all went ok overnight...I wouldn't exactly trust the midwife's advice though...I don't recall ever panting at all during labour, and whilst the contractions were very painful, I was walking around to try and help relieve the pain and still mumbling through them. every labour is different and everyone will feel differing levels of pain and deal with it differently. you're better off going in and getting checked, than suddenly feeling the need to push and have baby in the car! Lol
God it annoys me when they say that, they said that to me with DD1, don't come in yet your waters haven't broken etc, it's your first you could be like this for days, that was 30min before i had her... my waters broke she was out 20min later.
I say go with your instinct hun, if your getting REALLY uncomfortable or worried at home there is no harm in going in, they HAVE to check you, as much as it's a PITA doing the drive in etc if they send you home some times your comfort and state of mind if more important.
If you think you can tough it out at home then thats awesome too!
To be fair the midwives see a lot of women, especially 1st time mums, coming into hospital far too early and getting very annoyed when they have to go home again. There will always be some women who labour fast or never need to pant through contractions, but for most there is a general pattern to labour and it sounds like the midwife is just trying to help 1sttimemumma88 get some rest and avoid the annoyance of going all the way to hospital just to be sent home again.
Hope you got some rest last night 1sttimemumma88 and if things didn't progress overnight then hopefully they will today for you
T
xx
Isttime, hope you are ok, and managed a little bit of rest..
Hey ladies.
Well it was a whole night of constant backache and contractions, i managed a few hours sleep here and there but my god it was painful. At one point i was going to call my mum but i just wanted to wait and see and of course fell back to sleep!
I am feeling exactly the same, so i am hoping it progresses further today/tonight. I have a feeling im not far off and im sure with my crankiness DP is hoping i am too!
ooohhh I hope either things start to get serious or they really back off & let you rest for a few weeks before the big day, it must suck being in "limbo".
Thanks for keeping us updated :)
Sending lots of positive vibes your way xoxo
Don't go into hospital and ask for an internal - there is absolutely no need for you to have on at this point in time, and if you have one only to find you are not dilated at all or not dilated very much, then what? You become deflated because you've done all this 'hard work' for nothing, when in reality, this is only EARLY labour and could go on for days or weeks or it could all be over tonight and the last thing you need is to become disheartened by knowing a stupid number and you could set yourself down the path of intervention because you think you can't possibly go on like this for much longer, so you ask for pain relief, or you have ARM to 'speed things along' and then you are on a time limit to perform and when the baby doesn't appear because the ARM was done and contractions didn't establish and you know what happens next - a syncto induction or those magic words 'your baby is in distress and we need to get her out NOW' and before you know it you are being wheeled into surgery.
What you need to be doing is concentrating on YOU and making the most of what could be the last days before your baby is born. Finish getting things ready if there is anything left to be done, pamper yourself and spend some quality time with your DP - things will never be the same in your relationship once you bring a baby into it (in a beautiful way of course!) so make the most of just being a couple before you become a family of three. And do things that could help get these contractions established - go for a walk, do some squats to help her descend and if they get too bad, have a nice deep bath.
So glad you got some sleep. It does sound like you are having a long latent stage, and as others have said this could go on for days or even weeks of stop/start contractions. Try to ignore the contractions as best as you can (easier said than done I know) and if all else fails try 2 paracetamol and a bath or shower to help you cope. Keep well nourished and hydrated as well.
as for when to head into hospital, a wonderful midwife once said to me "stay at home until you really think you need to go to hospital. Then stay at home a bit longer". Home really is the best place for your labour to flourish and hospital /pain relief/ internal examinations now are just likely to lead to things slowing down or being interfered with.
Have you read up on breastfeeding and bathing a newborn and all the jazz?
Sometimes taking your mind off the here and now of what your body is doing, and thinking about the cool stuff you have coming up can help relax and open up body and mind.
Check out Australian Breastfeeding Association - Baby-led attachment It is amazing what that little baby will come out knowing what to do!
Have you washed your hair and got some nice pjs for after the birth? Picked out a few outfits for bub to wear when people come to visit? (that was a fun part for me).
look after yourself,
Kate
Thinking of you hun. As Trill says, take your time & stay away if you can.
When having DD2 I waited & waited til I thought I couldn't survive without pain relief anymore. Then I took my time getting ready & heading off. Got there over an hour later & was 7 cm. I didn't end up needing any relief coz that was my incentive to keep going :)
I think your better waiting as long as you can, til you just can't bear the pain anymore, then head in. Take it easy. Baths, showers, anything til nothing works.
Good luck hun xx
just sending you some big phat :hug: and hope you are holding up ok xx
Oh babe :hug: I know how you feel. I have been following your thread but hadn't wanted to post because I had a reeeaaly long pre labour with my DS, and it sounds very similar to what you are going through. I know how hard it is to have to pre labour and mild contrax for sooo long, I think mine lasted about 7days maybe more, my memory has faded now (might be why I'm pg again! lol), plus some serious braxton hicks for a few weeks before that. I lost alot of my plug over the weeks before DS was born, and apparently it can regenerate...
I was in too much pain to sleep much for about a week. The last few days before DS was born the only place I could really sleep was a fairly warm bath, which I topped up when it got too cold for hours! The day before he was born, I went to hospital to see what was going on and they sent me home. But they did give me some panadiene forte and sleeping tablets because they said labour wasn't too far off and I needed to sleep and get up some energy. They only lasted for 4 hours, but it was the most blissful 4hours sleep I had had in weeks!
The day after that, I felt the pain change to being around my back and tummy like a band tightening, and know now that these were the REAL contrax and what I was going through before was just pre labour. Thouhg it felt painful enough before that!! On the upside, when I got to hospital, I was 8cm dialated and the nurses were surprised I was walking and talking freely! I had actually only gone in for more pain relief so I could sleep, lol! I waited til my doula came and they did all my paperwork and they popped my waters about 30-45mins or so after I arrived and after about another 30mins I was ready to push and 2 pushes later DS was with us. In the end it really was a lovely birth and although labour lasted FOREVER, if I can have another labour the same as his, I will enjoy birthing this baby as much as I did him. I was so proud to have done it all on my own.
Good luck babe. I hope it all happens soon for you.
Thanks :)
Everyday the contractions feel different. They were mild on friday, a little stronger yesterday, terrible last night along with back pain and now they are again a little stronger but not as regular but still feeling them in my back.
I have been resting alot today, iv had a massive headache and just feeling tired so incase its not far off i want to make sure i have enough energy and have rested.
I did have my heart set on having her on the 6th as it goes my mum 6th august me 6th december so she would be 6th july. 6 is my lucky number same with my mum. But this was just something silly i came up with i honestly didnt think it would look like it would happen.