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I was bitten for the first time from DS2 this week and he only has 2 teeth!!!! Still bloddy hurt also :o!!! He just smiled and laughed... :D
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When I started, I thought that 12 months would feel like the right length of time and that we'd start to cut down after that. But 12 months came & went, DS was really slow to take to solids, so he was still having 6-8 feeds a day, and there was no way I could have cut him back without causing great distress to both of us. When he was a newborn, I thought 1yo's were really "old", but when I had a 1yo, I just still saw a wee man who was still very babylike. So we just kept going. He went into daycare for a couple of days a week at 15 months, which cut things back to about 4 a day (plus overnights), and then gradually we've dropped back further, now down to just a morning feed/cuddle in bed before the day starts. Being pregnant has made it quite painful at the start of each feed, and I really don't think he's getting very much these days, but it's still obviously something that he loves, so I'm happy to let it take it's natural course. I'm no longer worried about whether I should wean him, as it's a very quiet & private moment between the 2 of us, so no busybody's who are likely to be freaked out by the fact that we're still going need to be in the know:shhh: I've loved our b/fing journey, and I'm so grateful that I've been able to do it so easily, it really feels like one of the luckiest things in life. I really feel for girls who want to do it, but it just doesn't work, I wish I had a magic wand to spread the BFing love.
All of which is really quite boring - I probably should have replied to this post and just said "me too - still going:lol:"
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Great thread, i think people really feel the presure to wean once they get to 'that certain age' and i have posted myself and replied to others posts on this subject, But il go again :)
SO, DD is 17 months old and there is no end in sight! She loves the boobie and has told me as much! When i started i just figured id go for as long as i could or as long as DD wanted so i have no problem with still BFing.
And we do all of those things listed...feed to sleep, co-sleep and feed ALL night sometimes. She still has a feed upon waking and before afternoon sleep, on in the arvo, about 3-4ish...and if we forget there is all hell to pay :) and before bed time. Then i guess between three and eight times a night!!!
She is getting alot better and the last few days i havent been very well so after she wakes and i bring her in with me and feed her to sleep (normally about 1.30ish) i have been putting her back in her room and she sleeps through till 5...and so do i...so i think im going to keep doing that for a while.
Im happy to keep going...and even tandem if we have another soon. My family think its horrible and i get many comments from them! but they are in the UK so its easy to ignore!! I always woder what il do when she stops...how will i get her to sleep HA HA
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We are on 26 months and still going...We are down to 3 feeds a day - morning, before nap and before bed.
They are generally very short, except in the morning when they are long or clustering feeds. I have put my foot down abit, otherwise she was feeding for 2 mins whenever the whim took her and was just mucking around.
So now if she REALLY wants a feed but it isnt nap time or she has already had one, she has "cuddles with booby" lol She doesn't latch on, just has to have skin to skin cuddles with the breast. That is working really well at the moment, hoping that will progress to booby cuddles where I dont have to get the boob out of the bra!
I really don't want her to feed beyond her 3rd birthday but that i for my own reasons. I love feeding her and it is still our best cuddle/calm time, but I am getting over it. She is fussing around and playing up a bit more now and gets distracted quite easily.
Also I think my supply is dwindling... it doesn't take long these days for her to pull off the breast and say "all gone! other one please" and often she will try and feed from the right side in the morning and pulls off complaining it is "empty mum".
I am really proud I got this far, especially with very little family supprt after about 9 months. My sister still makes comments everytime I feed her lol They just aren't breastfeeding people. I had anticipated and hoped to get to 12 months. I think though Charlotte's refusal to take a bottle EVER and her hatred of formula the very few times she had to have it are what pushed me to keep fedding and go down the infant led path - although it is quite obvious she will need a little nudge to finally give it up lol
I hope to make it to 3 years, although I am just taking it day by day and seeing how long my own patience with BF will hold up.
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We're at 46 months and still on one bf a day. Occasionally DD will want an extra bf in the evening, which she usually says she wants sometime during the afternoon (ie "Can I have boobie tonight please, Mummy?").
We never co-slept full-time, although DD always slept in bed with us in the morning for a while. Once she was in a bed she would toddle in and share our bed whenever she wanted to. I LOVE co-sleeping with her and next time will probably do it from day one. Much more restful than getting up in the night. DD was just very settled so I never changed full time from the separate cradle.
I think I intended to feed her until she was a bigger toddler (I was bf until almost 18 mths) as I had some vague notion of not wanting to bf a child who could ask for it. :D
I have never had a negative comment and in fact when I told some of my fellow preschool mums about it last month they were more impressed than anything else. But then, I look really scary with my hessian sack and plaited arm hair... ;)
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BTW, there's some great coverage in the ABA's current issue of Essence that deals with extended bfing. Makes me feel positively normal!
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Leasha, this is a great thread idea.
When DS1 was born, I'd only ever known one person who bf past 12 months. At the time I thought that was unusual, and TBH even strange. I didn't really know when I wanted to stop, but I didn't have any expectation of feeding a toddler.
Boy did my views change. Before long, my goal was to bf for 2 years. Sadly, we only made 14 months before DS1 self-weaned when I was half way through my pg with DS2. So of course my goal with DS2 was also 2 years - and this time we came close, but again didn't quite make it. DS2 self-weaned at 21 months. He literally attached for a morning feed one morning, pulled straight off, and pulled my top down as if to say "I'm done. For good." And he was - he didn't want it again after that.
I'm disappointed that we didn't make it any longer, but also proud that at least they fed for over a year, and both chose their own time.
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B/f DD#2 till 13 months...but was pg with DD#3 and i think my supply dropped. DD#3 i b/f till 13 months; again i was pg and i found the nipple contact a bit painful. With DS being our last ...(i think....:rolleyes:) i intend to b/f him as long as i can....around the 18 mth mark would make me truly pleased with my b/f efforts....
