:spit: oh wow N2L, I think I just woke my kids up laughing out loud :D
I must have a real 'don't mess with my feeding' look, cos I have seriously never heard anything like these. I have to say I'm quite angry for some of you though.
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:spit: oh wow N2L, I think I just woke my kids up laughing out loud :D
I must have a real 'don't mess with my feeding' look, cos I have seriously never heard anything like these. I have to say I'm quite angry for some of you though.
Well I must say it has been interesting reading all the responses! It is sad that people actually believe these to be 'reasons' to stop breastfeeding.
I have been told 'once they start solids', 'once they have teeth', 'once they can ask for it', 'sleep better on formula' (mind you DS slept for 10hrs straight at 10weeks) but this last one that prompted the thread was told to DH. Thankfully he is fully supportive and told his parents that it was nonsense. They do keep asking DS what he is going to do though when the baby comes, because I can't be feeding two... well I'm pretty sure I can if I want, and he wants... I think they are too scared to say it to me, because I just say that I will feed him for as long as he wants (and to prove a point to them! :lol:)
:hug: to all... comments like these just make me want to ensure my breastfeeding relationship with my child(ren) is stronger than ever
My SIL (supposedly pro-BF) told me, before i had kids, that BF a child that can ask for it is wrong, BF a child that can walk up and try and help themselves is wrong, and it shouldn't happen. you HAVE to wean them early so you dont have that sort of thing happen.
Waiting for her to say it to me now. i think i am like Kim with the "don't mess with my feeding" look. no one tries. well, except the doctor, who seemed to think weaning would cure PCOS and sleep apnea all at once. idiot!
Unless you suddenly developed PCOS and sleep apnea when you started breastfeeding, that's just ridiculous!!:
My answer to the when they can ask for it is he's neen able to ask for it since the day he was born. OK he didn't say 'Mumma milk' like he does now, but he made what he wanted clear.:
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yeah thats pretty much what i said (although you are being far more polite!)
if anything, i've had the most regular AF i've EVER had since DD was born - i'm almost afraid of what will happen when i stop BF!
DD asked quite clearly "Mum BOOOB" at five months - wasn't going to wean her on that logic!:
I was just at a bulk billing GP who told me its not good for DS emotions and so I need to wean NOW!
DS10mths!
Wow your DS is 10months already!! I think not giving them boob when they need it is a bigger detriment to their emotions:
hahahaha some of these are just stupid...
Ive had people comment about feeding, him having teeth, getting 'too big', me not being able to drink, etc etc. But no one has gone on to suggest I should wean because of it. If they did, they would soon learn my opinion on weaning before DS wants to wean. I find myself unable to shut up when there's a point I need to make!!! DP is so supportive of BF, when it comes to people making comments, he's quick to shoot them down too!!
"You'll end up with saggy tits you know?". Why are you so worried about the future state of my breasts?? (It didn't come from DH... I would've smacked him if it did.)
I'm up for the spray bottle idea. But only if we can fill the bottle with EBM.
Yeah I don't quite get why people are worried about saggy boobs... chances are it will happen anyway, even if you don't breastfeed!:
Yes, EBM in spray bottles... They won't know what hit them :rofl:
I threatened to squirt someone in the face with boob juice once, for unwelcome and ignorant comments about BF DS ...:
Oh, and another one - I was going to Hong Kong for work for 10 days, and I was lamenting that the last of my feeding days might be over (long story, but it physically was barely happening by that time, despite the best of efforts) and they basically said that babies didn't need breastmilk after the first 6 days, because they don't get any benefit after that time... :o
Oh - and then there's the MCHN at my local, whose motto is "Breast is best. Bottle is better."
The health nurse at DD's six month checkup told me a long "scary" story about a lady who rang a radio station because she couldn't fall asleep without something in her mouth.
She then explained to me that this lady was obviously breastfed too long (wtf?!?!) and that I should wean straight away.
Riiiiiiiight.
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I was told by a Dr (not my usual one) that because I am pregnant I needed to stop bf my DD2 otherwise I will miscarry.
I continued to bf her until she self weaned - oh, and I didn't miscarry either.
Totally agree. Makes me sad how general public are so uncOmfortable with babies being bf.:
DD1 was only 4 weeks when inlaws said "stop bf then you can enjoy your drinks" :o wow, wonderful advice, thanks.
Again at 15mths they tried comments like "must be time to wean" etc. Just cos mil bottlefed doesnt mean i should!!
:jawdrop: What. The. Fudge.:
the one i always got from friends and family was ''i had to give my body a break in between kids'' im sure they were well meaning, but they would really get thier noses out of place when i disagreed.
and my mum straight out told me it was 'disgusting' from about 12 months on, and everytime i talked to her she was ask ''your not STILL breasfeeding are you??'' :rolleyes:
It's easier if you wean then when they are young. SO much harder if you wait til they are 1 or older.
I'm finding the comments from the MEDICAL PROFESSION the scariest and most worrisome! These are the people that most of the population puts their trust in for our lives!:
How can something be better than best anyway?
Somebody actually did a study and found taht whether you breastfed or not made no difference to sagginess after having babies. The biggest determinant was the size differential pre and post babies.
i actually did have to give up breastfeeding both times when i was pregnant (but i am soooooooo underweight- 3 months pregnant with my daughter and i only weighed 43kg, i was 5weeks with my DS2 and only weighed 44kg)
but my mum nagged me for months prior to falling pregnant that i was just too underweight to continue yet my children did great and i felt fine
i replied before i read most of these
some are beyond funny LOL
some are scary that people believe them
my daughter was 13months old when i weaned her (it broke my heart not hers) but id planned to keep going until at least 18months old (DH wanted me to stop at 12 months, i didnt!) but my mum was uncommfortable with her walking and still having booby and it never changed her mind when i explained what a beautiful feeling and bond it was!
and with formula babies sleep better ???????????????????????????????? my kids sleep 12hrs a night and used to have 4hr naps during the day,,,,, so if they were on formula would they have slept 20hrs a day??????????????
Both my last 2 children have sleep perfectly from day 1! and both solely boobie fed
DS1 (had colic and was EMB, but after 2 months slept perfectly)
at five months
"you have to put her on formula now"
why
"cos she's five months old"
and
"that's when i put my baby (16 years ago) on formula"
oh. so the fact that my baby is thriving, i can feed her, she can suck, there is no reason for us to stop the bf-ing r'ship, none of that matters, cos YOU put YOUR baby, on formula at five months old. uh huh. (i didn't say this to her, just went silent. withdrew from that friendship).
at 19 months
paed. dietician told me my baby was getting NOTHING nutritional from my milk, and that i was feeding her for my own "needs". (!!!). he got aggro when i mentioned liasing with ABA to get advice. he just laughed at the WHO recommendation, about feeding to two years and beyond. i think he thought i made that up.
my child's GP sees my child so rarely, each time he sees her, they have to be introduced to each other all over again. that's how healthy she is. i am very happy she breastfed the amount of time, she did. (four years).
i loved being able to calm her with breastmilk, when she fell over etc, instead of having to use chemical pain relief to the extent i would have used it, if we didn't have the benefit of breastmilk.
My mum recently told me dd was too fat and I should just bottlefeed her like I did my boys if I couldn't manage how much milk I was letting her have. I was setting her up for eating issues because apparently I feed her everytime she opens her mouth.
After all the issues I have had trying to feed dd I was proud she was so chubby so I was a little hurt :(
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Mumof2boys- that sucks xoxox but enjoy her chubbiness, out of my 3 my daughter is the chubby one and i LOVE it, (also there is evidence with BF babies are less likely to be overweight adults, so enjoy her chubbyness)
all 3 were on breastmilk and only my daughter is chubby (yes i know my 3rd is only new and still BF but his skinny like his brother)
OMG some of these make me angry, some just make me laugh. Some people need a good slap upside the head :duh:
Yes 'cause 21 year-old males are interested in breasts for feeding :rolleyes::
I'm laughing at these but only so I don't cry at the ignorance. I've been fortunate enough to not get any comments about bfing DD. The scariest comments are those from health professionals. They can do the most damage.
Some of there comments.... seriously, WTF?? :rolleyes:
I personally haven't had any of these comments, as I became a bit of a closet feeder after DD turned 2 (I figured that by that age she was old enough to wait until we got home).
I do have to wonder about the people that say that mothers are feeding older kids for their won needs. Are you fricken kidding me?? Cause I just loooove it when I sit down to read a book or do some work on the computer (or look at BB) and my four year old climbs into my lap, lifts my top and helps herself... Some people have no idea.
I got another one today from another health professional of sorts. The lady who took my blood said to me
"What?, 16 months and your still feeding her?" "Your boobs will be around your knees if you dont stop soon"
I said "they were anyway before I even started but if your that concerned about it, you can pay for my boob job when she weans if you like!"
The rest of the test was pretty much done in silence :lol::lol:
Seriously lady, they are my boobs and would you say anything about her still been bottle fed? It just happens her milk comes from my boobs so you feel the need to comment about it! Well Shut up!
You mean from peak of being pregnant? I've always gone back to loosely the same size after being pregnant but I pretty much gained half my bodyweight each time, and its not just the boobs that are suffering from very rapid weight gain and loss.:
Although it was only the first baby that did that, nothing much changed with the second and third. Didn't even sprout any new stretchmarks, although if I did I'm not sure where I'd manage to put them, I already have so many! Got stretchmarks when I first went on the pill too, same reason, very rapid weight gain. I just have 'that' kind of skin :(
I actually KNOW of a woman who stopped BF her son at 8 weeks because her GP or MCHN told her it was the reason her baby was up all night crying ..... despite the fact he was gaining weight and having the wet nappy ratio and no SR or anything like that checked into it was just because she was BF.:
Sad sad sad!
The size difference from before you get pregnant to however far they stretch, yeah. Age and genetics etc will also play a part of course, but whether you breastfeed or not is not a determinant.
Feijoa Mum totally hon! and if that were me I could have added that I've also been braless about 90% of the time since DS was born too... So friggin what? LOL
That makes me want to cry :(:
oooh ooooh - just remembered another one!
I should stop breastfeeding, because my baby would steal all my calcium, and I'd get oesteoporosis and all my teeth would fall out, too!!
because no mums around have unbroken bones or teeth, right?
derrrr. breastfeedign protects mothers against osteoporosis.
My first paed (an awful guy) told me I had to stop breastfeeding (at 6 weeks) cause "I was making my baby sick" and d"on't even think about talking to anyone from the ABA as they dont know what they are talking about, I'm the specialist with training". My baby had reflux - she just needed some meds! ahhh, and people wonder why I ended up with PND!
That's sad Razzberry! I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be told I'm making my baby sick :hug:
Yeah he was a real tool! He also wouldn't fill in the forms for a sleep school months later when I was at my wits end - he said "if you cant get your baby to sleep what makes you think they can?"!! I came out sobbing and drove to my nearest health clinic, they couldn't even understand what I was saying cause I was so upset - needless to say I got into the sleep school within 24 hours - they could sense how desperate I was. Still makes my blood boil!