Feeling upset from negativity towards my choice to toddler bf and tandem feed

Thanks a heap guys.

Yeh, I find DD's teeth do make things a big struggle sometimes. And I guess with the nipples being more tender, it's not a great combo!..Actually the other day I had her top teeth imprinted around my nipple eeeeekkk! But, the snuggly cuddles and her enjoyment seem to make up for all that. There is definitely something very special about having her bf'ing, and then having the little bub wriggling around inside me at the same time! (Probably because it's angry at being squashed in there with DD lying on top of my belly- but still very cute! :-) )

Actually, one particular person offered to come and stay after bub is born (this is the same person who has already made some negative comments about me feeding the 2 of them- but to DH not me) and I clearly said no way. As if I need someone looking down her nose at me when I'm trying to get the hang of feeding the 2 of them! I magine the "I told you so" comments if things turn out to be a mess! Don't need that negativity thank you very much!
I guess I am lucky that my mum is supportive of tandem feeding (although she lives away), she is still good to have no matter which way things turn out.

Kmn, no offence taken! Similar thoughts have crossed my mind. My DD is more then happy to drink from her cup..although still no substitute for mummas milk!

Thanks Liz, always love your comments..

Oh - re preparing.. I guess I subconsciously prepared us in a way for things being different. I weaned DS from night feeds when he was around 15 months, which turned out to be a good thing because not sure I could have got up to feed 2 at night.. he still woke, but by the time bub was here he was just climbing into our bed himself and going back to sleep. Because I was sure my milk had diminished (not that you'd know coz he still fed as often lol) i did introduce cows milk, but he happily gave up cows milk in exchange for the yummy newborn milk when bub arrived. But I didn't give him cows milk as preparation for weaning, it just kinda slipped into our routine to have a cup of warm milk before bed just in case he wasn't getting much from me. I'm pretty sure for a long time all he was getting was colostrum coz his nappies were foul LOL.

and teeth - yeah ouch.. it does hurt, but I've never been chewed as hard as they chew toys. And I've only ever been bitten whilst teething the top teeth, so I haven't ever had a bite from both top & bottom teeth together (yet!). They're pretty good at knowing not to bite. They do test the limits from time to time, but they can be pretty quick to learn it's not on.

Yeh, Liz I'm glad DD doesn't ask for night feeds anymore as I don't think I could get up to feed them both either. Lucky for us, she stopped them shortly after turning 1 and it's only on a rare occassion when she's really unsettled or sick that I have to give her one.
I probably should work on getting her to take some warm cow's milk though like some of you have said. ATM she almost spews when she tastes it :doh:

Yep in hinesight i would have liked to wean my DS1 off night feeds, because in the first couple of months he was waking 3-4 times wanting to feed as well as the baby! i think because he stopped eating food and so was wanting more milk. Only in the past few weeks has my toddler started to only wake once a night for a feed (even this exhausts me), which is better but still hard. I can't go through the stress of night weaning him now as i need what sleep and peace i can get, but in hinesight its something that would have made things easier now.

Lee another thing to consider - my DS has never liked cows milk, he just won't drink it. I too wanted him to have a substitute so when he was around 18 months i introduced rice milk in a cup just as an alternative. He'd still BF frequently but he quite liked the drinking out of a cup factor ;) I later switched him to oat milk as its lower carbs, more nutritious. Though the two are interchangeable as they taste the same. Ironically though since the baby was born he won't take ANY other liquid except breastmilk, not even water, juice etc. Which is hard at times, and this is when the juggling act comes in to play as i try to feed them both at the same time. So one thing which would be helpful to practice, is with a doll and your toddler, just play around with positions as to how you can do them both if you have to. Its a bit easier now that the baby is 3 months and not so fragile!

Thanks for the tips MummaB. Yeh, when reading through your experiences before about you trying not to let your little bub get squashed by your DS, I can just imagine this happening with us too! I must look into that..