I've only just read this thread now Hun, I'm so sorry you're going through a tough patch. I don't have any helpful advice but I'm thinking if you this afternoon for your appointment xxx
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I've only just read this thread now Hun, I'm so sorry you're going through a tough patch. I don't have any helpful advice but I'm thinking if you this afternoon for your appointment xxx
Last night was good, he only woke twice so I only had to give him the left once. It still hurt, there doesn't seem to be any pattern to the pain. Some times are ok, others are unbearable.
We're at the surgeon's now. He said it is significant enough that it should have been done immediately, so I'm a bit sad that we could have avoided this. Also his upper lip tie is apparently prominent, I thought it was ok.
DS has had panadol and a sedative. Need to wait 30-60 minutes for it to kick in, then he's getting a local anaesthetic and it's being burned rather than cut. He's had a feed because he didn't like people in his mouth, and now he seems a bit spacey. It's been nearly half an hour since the sedative so I guess it's starting to work. He's smiling and talking to the ceiling. He's happy to lie in my lap, where normally he's struggling to sit up all the time.
As for potential mastitis, I've woken up perfectly fine. Canned last night's workout and went to bed in my awesome new bed :-) Am holding myself together quite well right now.
Hoping it all goes well for both of you. Good news on saying goodbye to the mastitis
Glad you're feeling alright and hugs for today. You'll both get through this ok. Sounds like the doc is looking after him well.
Thanks re mastitis, I'm very relieved!
He's all done, he is such a little champ!! I'm so freaking proud of him. I opted to have someone else hold him and leave the room, I didn't want to flinch or have him pick up on my nerves. I was sitting in the office next door, heard a tiny noise when he got the local and next thing I know, they're bringing him in to me!
He's pretty dopey and his tongue is numb so he tried to feed but couldn't. He had a good feed just before it happened though so he's okay. I've just put him in the car and he's chewing on his toy keys, looks like he'll be snoozing in no time :-)
Good little champ! Hopefully this starts another less painful journey for you both :)
Glad it went well Teeki :)
That's awesome that he handled it so well teeki, what a little trooper. Hope this leads to a dramatic improvement and you can start enjoying bf again. I remember with DS1 that when the pain went away, breast feeding became this beautiful thing. And it took no time at all, especially after the long time suffering, for my nipples to heal and for the pain to totally disappear. Though the anxiety hung around for a little while longer. Hugs to you, and remember we're still here if you need to talk.
Thanks again everyone :)
We're home now, he's still a bit dopey but has plenty of smiles for his Daddy and sister :D He's having another feed and has fallen asleep. His action already seems better, he's got more in his mouth and he's not breaking the seal.
You know it's not til I was halfway home that I realised I didn't ask many questions at all. He said he'd burn it instead of cut it - with what? And I didn't ask anything about the sedative or local. I don't usually just do what people say without questioning, but my mind wasn't really working that way I guess. I'm just glad he's ok.
So glad to hear that it all went well. Do you have their number to call with any questions you think of? I'm the same re asking questions at the time I just go blank and then think of them afterwards!
Huge hugs to you and your little trooper!
I do have their number, but I think I'll leave it for now. The Dr said he's never had an infection or side effects but to call immediately if things don't seem right, so if we're all good I think we'll just carry on. I just thought after "hang on, I just did all this without even knowing what it was, what if it was something I didn't want?" They were all so lovely with him though, and very caring, so I don't doubt they did the best for him.
It must just be the sedative still in his system but for the first time in a week he finished a feed and came off in his own instead of me removing him after forever. He then transferred easily to his hammock and had a good nap. Fingers crossed things are looking up!
Teeki it's wonderful to read how well he handled the procedure. I would have left the room too... DD needed a Bt recently and we both ended up in tears. Not fun seeing your LOs in difficult situations!
I hope you have an ok night tonight :hug:
Oh Teeki I am so glad.
OP I'm dreading ever needing to do something like that with my kids! I had my first blood test when I was five and I screamed the hospital down. My poor mum was just as traumatised as I was :(
The poor little guy had a rough evening. It seemed like feeding hurt because he definitely wanted to, he'd search around for it but then he'd come off crying. Then he'd get grumpy because he was hungry and not getting anything. Once he finally fell asleep he only woke twice overnight and he feeds easily this morning. It seems like the left side will take a while to heal because there's still a lot of pain there, but we're getting there :)
I wanted to come back here and update, and say thank you so much to everyone for your help, advice and hugs. I was reminded of the thread last night when I realised I'd just put DS onto the left breast without even thinking about it, and I had been all day. It doesn't really hurt anymore, just a bit of discomfort sometimes.
It took a long time to get to here though! For me, there was no quick or easy fix. Nothing I could put on that would stop the pain or make it heal faster. There were times we were both crying because he was hungry and I couldn't handle giving him what he wanted. I expressed a couple of times to see if we could give me a break from feeding him, but he just likes to chew on the teat and gets quite shocked when milk comes out :rofl:
The big wound circled at least 1/3 of the bottom of my nipple, was about 2mm wide and quite deep. So putting anything at all like lansinoh on sometimes actually hurt more than leaving it alone. I spent many days not going out so I could just have my boob out (having it touch anything hurry too much) and kept putting breastmilk on it. The problem was I really couldn't avoid a morning and night feed from that side, he just didn't get enough from the right alone, so that slowed the heading down a lot. I don't think it'll ever really be the same, it looks like I'll always have a 'dent' there.
I am so, so grateful for the support I received, here, the LC OP thankfully put me onto, the oral surgeon, our GP and most definitely DH. He never once suggested formula, and I think if I'd had people in my ear suggesting it I was in a state of mind to give up and go with formula. He rubbed my shoulders while I was feeding to help relax me, brought me anything I needed. He just acknowledged how hard it was for me, and how important it was to me to get through it and keep going.
So thank you, thank you everyone, I'm now looking forward to happily breastfeeding DS for as long as he needs and wants to :)
I just wanted to say I think you're awesome! You had so may hurdles you needed to get through, more than may people could handle, and you did it! You should be very proud of yourself, you've done a wonderful thing for your boy, continuing to feed, when it hurt like hell and you could have easily give up, but you didn't!
Well done Teeki, I'm so glad things are looking up for you!
Naw thanks Jaycee :) This has made me realise exactly what people mean when they say breastfeeding is hard, and I have a whole new appreciation for how easy I had it with DD! I just wish others had the same level of support to keep going when it gets tough.
That's the thing that can frustrate a lot of passionate breastfeeding support types (you know the ones I mean ;) ) - help is here. We are here, 24/7, we are here. But you have to reach out - we can't come to you if we don't know you need us.
Well done on getting through. What a wonderful DH you have to be so supportive.
The funny thing about DH is that his boss's wife had a baby not that long ago. On Friday DH asked him how it was going and he mentioned that his wife had just stopped breastfeeding and was a bit sad about it. So DH asked him why and he said she wasn't making enough milk. She stopped at around 6 weeks. Without being too pushy DH told him that it wasn't too late if she wanted to keep going and help was out there. He knew enough to tell him that it's about supply and demand and she had to keep offering it, no matter if he'd just had a feed, if he's hungry give it to him. He offered to pass on my number of she wanted to chat and so I could pass on the details of our Dr and the LC that helped me. He's awesome :)
They didn't want the help though, they're hoping the formula will help his reflux and get him sleeping better. So DH came home and told me, and said he was a little disappointed that she didn't have the support I had, and if I can keep going with half a nipple falling off (:rofl:) then she probably could have kept going with some help.
Your DH sounds gorgeous Teeki. So many women mistakenly think they have supply issues just because they have inherited the expectation that a newborn shouldn't want to feed every two hours or that an unsettled bub automatically means not enough milk or because their milk might be slower to fully come in etc then when they start introducing formula top ups lower supply does become real. Of course supply can be a real issue in the first instance but there is help out there.
Teeki i am very happy for you, it sounds like you had a really awful start to BF this time around. X
Respect. You fed with your nipple half falling off. :clap:
:lol: It sure felt like it sometimes! But he's a bit of an exaggerater :) I'm sure there are lots of others who've had it much harder than I did, I was just totally thrown by how not easy it was compared to DD.:
Thanks ladylove, I think he's pretty great :)