Feeling like a failure (yet again) c-section

pmsl at the wee in your knickers!! ( the comment not the feelings that put it there)

I had heard a few stories about having tubes done prior to having my last c-sec and both DH and i said we didn't wnat eithr of us to change who we are or what we have! Lucky for us the choice is that simple i know its not for everyone. I have never fallen pg on the pill and guess thats what i shall go back to once i finish BF. I am currently not taking any form of BC as i figure we tried to fall pg with number 5 whilst BF number 4 and couldnt, yet the first month i finish feeding i fell straight up. So i am trusting that (pobably foolish i know) but then i sort of think that if i am meant to have another bub then it will happen otherwise i go back on the pill when the time comes.
One would think 6 would be enough to satisfy but i still have that massive urge to have another, but at the same time scared i would have to have another c-sec!!!!!
Why can't it be laid out for you, like kat you will only have X amount of children and you should not try after this as there will be probs!!!!!!! (dreaming for the right answer).
I know i have been blessed with 6 bubs and no deaths or miscarriages, so does that mean i should quit while i am ahead?????????
Anyway my mind has wandered again!!!
Its great that you have the ability to be so ++ and so strong all the time but it would def be nice to have the easy road occasionally!!!
Sometimes i think that our strengths can also be our weakness as well. My DH says i am the tower of strength and my fam are the same they all turn to me for help, but if i needthat shoulder it generally isn't offered (except by DH when he realises i am about to crumble).

Maz thank's for starting this thread it's given me the support and comradery I needed to deal with an inpending 3rd c/s :hugs: and hey we get to do it together YAY! I know exactly what your saying and feeling as I'm feeling it all too.

OMG Joralyd - we can think of each other when we getting it done.
As Theresa said - thank you everyone for sharing your stories and being here to support each other. You guys can help me and Joralyd when we sittin gon the 'slab' again pmsl
I am having osme major pain on my c/s scare atm...ah and this little bugger is starting to kick!

Theresa I think alot of it is that "super mum" mentality where women feel if they say they weren't happy with their birth they might be seen as failures particularly when the general view of c/s's is "unnecessary", I know I find myself deffending my decission to have an elective c/s for a breech baby and now with my 3rd I'm comfortable with my decission for another elective although If I searched I could possibly find an OB that MAY let me attempt a trial labour but I'm actually scared for the safety of my baby after having such a traumatic labour and emergency C with my first, what if I labour only to have another emergency C or worse??. I know there are alot of risks with a C and this scares me just as much but atleast with a C my baby can get medical attention immediately if needed and the risks are to my own life.
It upsets me when I see mum's struggling with the choice of a C because if you do choose a C your expected to own it and be proud and strong, if you feel bad about it then too bad it was your choice! but the truth is it still hurts you still need support and understanding.

I'm sure there will be alot more guilt riden mum's after us :(

Maz I'm not feeling much movent with this baby yet I feel a small movement maybe a couple of times a week so far. I'm hoping I'll have a quiet baby HA HA!!!
I've had a few stretching pains on my left side near my scar so hopefully it stretches. I actually have 2 scares and my OB commented that he could take his pick but there is one lower and it's smaller and I don't have any numbness or stretching with it so I might ask him to use that one :lol:

I also was asked if I wanted my tubes tied after my second baby and I said NO!!! I was more worried about what it might do to my cycle plus I felt like it would be final "no babies for you" Iykwim?

Im not getting my tubes done again.....EVER! Jed is getting the snip cause he said after all the pain of the c/s (I have a very understanding hubby) I deserve to feel hole (as can be) as a woman for a change. He knows how much it hurts me and he said he is here for me no matter what. He often comes to bed after ive had a good cry and its like he knows it and just gives me a big cuddle.
Maybe we should ask for a zipper to be sewn in after these c/s just incase..pmsl

Oh Maz,
If only a zipper were possible! I would not have had my tubes done if I had my time over but what will be will be.
My poor old uterus is retired.

LOL on the zipper it would make things alot easier not too sure if it would look good with a bikini (now that's a joke! what's a bikini anyway???)

suppose it would be a good place to keep the drivers license too

LMAO On the keys!!!

I agree Theresa, I'm really finding this Caesarean Section Support board very helpful emotionaly thanks for listening guys :hugs:

My c/s scare is icky atm. Its red and a bit on the nose even though I am a clean freak! Stupid gunt hanging over...im going to ask for a tummy tuck when I have this bub! I dame well deserve it!

Oh Maz you poor bugger! I hate that overhang, it makes me want to puke!!!
Ha ha on the tummy tuck though, i was going to ask for one when i had mitchie but i was so bloomin nervous i forgot!!!! It would make life so much easier if your surgeon did do it for ya though!!! Good luck, i hope ya get it!!!!!
Cheers
Kat

well hmm had my appoinment on monday and im measuring 3 weeks ahead???? cant wait to my u/s on the 22nd to see what Mr Squiggle has to say for its (oh I hate that) self. If I am further along then i'll probably have my c/s around chrsitmas...omg I dont think I'd like that very much but what can you do????
Still asked again if I could go natural and the ob said - we have discussed this and no matter how much you ask the answer is still going to be the saem...still a girls gotta try...doesnt she???

LOL Maz nothing wrong with trying! :lol: I'm not sure about the tummy tuck I might end up with my belly button down near my you know what LMAO I hear ya on the "apron" it's a good place to hide things though LOL!! eww

hmmm might have to keep my apron now...could hide my wallet in there pmsl

Well sometimes persistance pays off! But mostly we end up feeling a little like this :wall: :cryinglaugh:

I hope you don't have to have bub around christmas for your sake but hey you could always have bub on the 28th and share a B'day with my DS ;)
I went for my antenatal on the 27th Dec and they said we doign a c-sec and it will be tomorrow!!!! I was spewing as i was hoping to wait until early Jan as he was only due on the 9th Jan, but you know docs when it comes to having a c-sec! They want it over before you have a chance to go into labour !!!
I ended up spending New years in hospital watching fireworks on T.V . My eldest DS was still in Darwin, so he didnt get to see his long awaited bro until the 5th Jan when he got home!!!

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well hmm had my appoinment on monday and im measuring 3 weeks ahead???? cant wait to my u/s on the 22nd to see what Mr Squiggle has to say for its (oh I hate that) self.

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Ah Maz, did you have an early scan to see how many little squiggles are in there????????
Maybe you might be getting a little more than you bargained for :p:p:p

Do let us know how your ultrasound goes though! I hope your DD gets a little Sis to play with (if not two)......

Cheers
Kat

Had a scan at 6 weeks and the guy wanted me to come back at 12weeks BUT the stupid midwife said no so will have to wait and see on the 22nd......scared....very very scared