How did you feel about having a c/s?

Wow, firstly I would like to say how terrific you all are as - WOMEN!!

I completely understand where all of are coming from.

I have had two c-sections. My first for Placenta previa, I guess I felt 'robbed' of my oppurtunity to give birth naturally. Especially as I was so 'into' my pregnancy and writing a birth plan etc, etc. I didn't get to hold or meet bubs until 1.5 hours after the birth. I didn't even know what she looked like as I was crying when they showed me to her. I HATED the second day, being stuck with cords and lines going in and out. I demanded to be let free but the mw took hours. They wheeled her into my room without removing everything so when she cried I couldn't get to her!! It would take them 15 minutes or more to respond to the buzzer. I felt like it was holding me back from being a good mum. To top it off this horrible mw scolded me for her dirty nappy. I couldn't get out of bed to change it because of all the paraphenalia attached to me! Ugh!

Birth to me was a womanly mystery that I so wanted to experience. I guess it wasn't to be.... I was able to breastfeed though and that really helped me through. I always thought that the next time would be different.

My second, I was all motivated to go natural - even got up to 8cm on my epi-no. My ob was a little concerned about my scar rupturing (I thought I was smart by going private this time). I rang him in tears one night as I was frightened about it. He told me the 'safest thing for you to do is to have another ceasarean' He booked me in the very next day. DS wouldn't breastfeed - but I made him! LOL No way was he getting out of that arrangement!

I always regret not going for my VBAC. If you have the chance do it! Better to try than live in regret.

I am planning to have our third in a couple of years. THIS time I WILL do it :D
I will hire private midwife, I will find a vbac friendly ob and hospital. I will do it!!

What really gets my goat is when people drop comments like 'too posh to push'. Ceasers are the 'easy' way out. And say things to me like "Having a natural birth isn't all it's cracked up to be you know!"

Thanks for healing thread!

I just wanted to hold them for the first time when their arms were reaching out for their mummy. I wanted to see them open their eyes for the first time. I wanted to feel their skin on mine when they were born. All the pain in the world would be worth it to have those memories....

On a lighter note, I found Breastfeeding in the bath really helped with connecting and bonding. Something about the warm water, the skin on skin.

Sorry for the rambling and the looooong post!

It's wonderful to tell people who understand :)

With my first pregnancy being a twin one, I knew there was a high chance I would end up having a c/s. I went into labour at 34w5d. When I got to Melbourne (was air lifted), the Dr did an u/s, and could see where the 1st baby was, but the 2nd baby was hiding. He said he wanted to do a c/s because they were in the one sac, and he was worried they would get tangled up. I agreed, because I knew he was thinking of my babies' health.

As it turned out, the 2 umbilical cords were tied in a true knot, and if I had of had a VB, all 3 of us would have died.

This time, I am aiming for a VBAC.

Ah the feeling...

At 37 weeks when I had a routine us ordered by my ob, I discovered my bub had turned head up...To my disbelief, I asked the radiographer to retest again and again just to make sure that bulge that I had been experiencing at the top of my belly was actually my DD head!

As my Ob was on hols the next week I returned for a check up and was told I was booked in for the Thursday...That day was Tuesday, Wednesday was Anzac day...I was scard stiff...I didnt listen to that part of the classes very well nor did they go in to too much detail...

I found a great book chapter online all about CS which outlined exactly what happened and how... I was well prepared in the short notice.

I had a great team when i had my Cs and recovered quickly...but the tube ordeal afterwards was rediculous my mum has these lovely pics of bub after birth with me near the bed with a catheda haning out oh how charming that will be to look back on...

The part that sucked was not having her be in with me in the beginning which made it so much more surreal...we had trouble latching on but successfully bf into toddlerhood!

Whilst Natural was not an option for me I have a healthy bub and as she was breech she also had hip displaysia...something i believe was picked up at birth cos the doctors were ready.

Im not too frtustrated about not going down the vb path and have no idea what will happen for future bubs to be...who can predict what the babys inside want to do!