Circumcision??

I think proper research of both sides of the debate enables people to make an informed decision on risks vs benefits. It is really hard to find unbiased info on both sides. Its important to look at scientific studies.

I know that this is a topic that can cause some rather heated discussions and apologise now if it upsets anyone!!

We dont know if we are having a boy or girl but DH and I are discussing whether or not to circumcise if bubs is a boy. DH is circumcised so his first instinct naturally is to want to have his son circumcised as well. At the moment we are undecided and all the info is rather overwhelming but as most of our friends have had girls theres no-one we can really talk to about their personal experiences.

I have read the pros and cons and am aware of the dangers and I'm not looking for an argument here! I know this is a personal decision that we will have to make ourselves but would love to hear from those who have had their sons circumcised. Did you have trouble finding a doctor who would do it? Was your DS in a lot of pain?? Was it difficult to manage while healing? Do you regret your decision???

I dont mean to offend anyone or start a debate - just looking for some honest advice/suggestions from those who have been through it!

Thanks

Tina I've merged your thread with another circ thread that was started last week.

Just makes it easier ;)

*hugs*
Cailin

Sorry Cailin - didn't realise there was another one.
Thanks

we thought about this a lot and researched it.
we decided that 'to look like dad' was not a good enough reason for Milo to be circumcised, so didn't get him done.

tina, in answer to you questions
Did you have trouble finding a doctor who would do it?None at all. I just asked around a few of my friends and also one of my midwives.
Was your DS in a lot of pain? Yasin cried for a while when it was done but was back to being a happy little guy in no time. Imran was upset because he was cold but he was happy again as soon as he got some boob. Both of them were back to normal within minutes of getting the snip.
Was it difficult to manage while healing?Yasin's a tiny was more difficult because he did a big slimy poo that went all over the place and I freaked and rang up the Dr but he said just wash it off with a bit of water and the panic was over. Imran's had no little issues.
Do you regret your decisionNot at all.
HTH

In answer to your questions.
My OB did it, a fact that I knew about in advance from a friend si I had already discussed it with him beforehand. He still made me give him reasons why I wnated it to be done. I know a couple of paeds in our area will do it too.
Riley had the emla gel on beforehand to numb it and had it done in the nursery (at 2 days) so I wasn't in the room, when he came back 10 minutes later he was settled and I just gave him a feed and he went to sleep.
The aftercare was fine, we had no dramas at all, he has had worse side effects from his needles.
No I do not regret it at all.
May I second everything Neverplan has said too, that has been my experience as well.

Jesse is circumcised. We chose to for health reasons. DH is also done. Regarding looking different, i know alot of boys that are done. Secondly, DH has said when he was younger the boys had better things to do and talk about than their willies. His best friend isnt done and they dont think anything different about each other.

Tina.. in regards to your questions:
Did you have trouble finding a doctor who would do it?
No, we just went to our local GP who gave us a referal and 2 OB's to contact.

Was your DS in a lot of pain??
Not at all. Jesse cried from the local needle and then was fine during and after the proceedure. When we had to wait in the waiting room afterwards he sat there talking and smiling to me. The next week and to this day, he's been oblivious to it all and been his happy self.

Was it difficult to manage while healing?
Not at all. As the surgery told me on the day, just get some gause, dab it in vaseline and place it on. Do that each nappy change. That was it. Didnt have to touch it at all.

Do you regret your decision???
Not at all.. so happy we got it done and definately would again if we have any more boys.

But again.. this is a very touchy subject and a personal decision. Dont let anyone else tell you what you should do. You do what you feel is best for your baby.

my 2 boys are not done, but my step son is, it makes for lots of discussion at bath/shower time, between the 3 of them.
but if i had another boy i have already told dh, that i will not get it done(since his son is) and he doesnt have a problam with that, apperantly he didnt want it done to his son, but his ex wanted it done, as for her it was, it looks better.that was her reasoning for it done.