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Yep, it IS worse to have people knowing you're trying and asking how it's going - it's not very nice to know that eyes are on your belly all the time and knowing people are thinking you're hiding something when all you've done is put on a bit of weight!
Sim, your comment is a bit insensitive. It's nothing to do with shame about 'trying' and a lot to do with it being none of anyone else's business as well as taking the pressure off yourself by having everyone expecting news that you want more than they ever will.
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there are only 3 people who know we are ttc. and one of them is watching me like a hawk all the time. it gets frustrating when she keeps asking ... so, are you pregnant yet?..... we have been ttc for 11 months now and its possible it may not happen at all. I wish i never told her. she was standing next to me one time when i turned down a glass of wine and i never heard the end of it all night.
the other two who know are both great cos they are ttc as well and have been for a long time. they are very sympathetic. sometimes its just easier to keep it to yourself and announce it when the bub is safe and well and growing nicely in your belly.
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hi there,
we actually went away with close friends when we were very newly pregnant and not ready to tell... We knew they'd figure if I didn't have a wine with dinner. So, our plan?
I had the wine, but during the night my husband and I would swap glasses. DH would just casually take over my glass at some point. No one ever noticed!
Surprisingly simple, but it worked. It even worked at numerous family dinners too!
Hope this helps!
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another thought... you could tell them you're having a 'detox' week.
It's something else the healthy freaks advise too!
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Well, I'm a big believer in thinking that alcohol helps you to conceive so I'm no help sorry! As far as I am aware, a pregnancy achieved during the TWW is not affected by alcohol so I wouldn't worry about having a small amount during TWW until you find out if you are pregnant or not. It would certainly save months of excuses......
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Explicit detail about bodily functions usually deters any further questions.
Something like, 'I had a big night last Thursday and haven't stopped coating the bowl with (insert graphic detail here) since so water for me' usually shuts most people up.
and the best part is, when they forget and ask again after 2 or 3 more rounds, you can simply point down and say 'Ttthhhhrrraaarrtt' and they nod and get you water.
