just wanting to be utd again

yes i feel like thsi will be our month.
as of tomorrow i will not dirnk any more grog. lol

and will start trying more in teh bedroom lol

Kelle had the same thing with my AF so i hpe your right and it is a good sign...

Missy M well maybe you should think aout taking next cycle off ttc to see how you feel about things coz once you get the BFP its abit late but whatever you decide were here.

mum of 5 thnks for your advice in the other thread it really helped me out although when i was pg with #1 had a couple bad experiences with chinese so dont go there anymore....huby is alittle aprehensive still but if/when i get my BFP he already knows i wont get "rid" of it because each child is a blessing no matter the size so if it happens coz he doesnt like the feel of C then yay me and better luck stopping the next one hehehe

mummymoni, in my opion and this is just with our family others may differ, but once you have 3 going to 4 was a really easy transition, my #3 and 4 were also close in age, so i still had the cot, clothes and nappies and formula were already in the budget, going from 4 to 5 has also been a really great transition, i have the older kids to help which is great, so im hoping that when we go from 5 to 6 that it will be just as smooth.
Going from 1 to 2 how ever was the hardest part, with 1 it was easier to go out get a baby sitter etc.. but i love my family and really hope that after 6, we will talk about #7.

Well this was my last chinese meal, in order to ttc, hubby and i are giving up some much loved items, including coke, chips, dip, ahhh, and replacing them with vitamins, walking, water.
I have put on so much weight over the years, i was suppose to loose it after Kainne was born, but 9 months later, i have actually put on more, if i wanna get utd, i need to loose weight, not just for me but for the baby, i suffered from spd during Kainnes pregnancy, i was on bed rest for the last 6 weeks, so shedding a few kilos, will be a good idea.

Lets try and give up things together to help our bodies concieve, any takers, i could do with the support.

ill be in on it
ill give up teh alcohol, and trya dn eat more fruit adn veg and walk occasionally

Thanks kellz, doing it together should make it easier, i was thinking about doing a de tox first but not sure, think i will just do it the normal way, now to get hubby to join in, better get that last glass of coke in, lol, that has been my biggest problem the last 7 months, the amount of coke i drink.

omg i am so upset. i have been crying since i read an email from my stupid ****ing FIL. i am so mad. and so sad. i just wanna scream and cry all at once. i rang mum and had a good vent to her, so glad she had time to listen :(

*crys*

why girls? why do some people have to be so cruel? and i have never ever done anythignt to deserve what he does!!!!!!! i am always able to admit if ive been wrong, but this man is the most arrogant, nasty and just arghhhhhhhhh

and poor DD :cry: his blatant ignoring of her and i... i i dont care about, he can ignore me all he wants but he pretends she does not exist.... honestly... and it gutters me.

Im just guttered.

Moni, yes i have already kinda decided i think if i am not UTD already i am gonna give it a break for a bit. Especially after tonight and the sht that is going on.

:cry: :cry:

And im so mad at DF cause altho i knw he hates how they make me feel, he has done nothing but ignore them. and that just isnt enough. ARGH

im so sorry to be all boohoo me guys just having a ****y evening. :(

Oh hunney i dont know what he has said to you to make u feel so sad, but in laws do that some times, but its good that you have your mum to vent to, thats what i do.
so big hug to u.
At least you have us to vent to, and im just chatting you now on msn, so we can chat more personal. lol

Bec - big :hug: hun ... my IL's sh*t me heaps too - in the beginning they blatantly refused to acknowledge my existence (I already had 2 kids when I met DP) but as soon as DS2 was born, MIL wanted to be my best friend :wtf: She still gets crabby that I won't talk to her on the phone, but we seriously have nothing to talk about! I have MADE DP stand up for me (if he knows what's good for him KWIM? ;)) I wish I could give your DF a good swift kick up the bum for not standing up for you! :hug:

Lisa - I found #3 to #4 a really easy transition too ... but I found #2 to #3 really hard (almost severe PND hard :rolleyes:) I almost couldn't cope - I was ringing DP every night in tears!! I have heard it said though, once you have 4 kids, it doesn't get any harder! ;)
I would have a hard time giving up coke ... well, diet coke anyway - it's gotten me through so many months of morning sickness (non-stop with my last 3!!) but I really should try to fit more exercise in (I doubt walking from the laundry to the clothesline a couple of times a day really counts! :rofl:)

Things are just really stressful atm, we have just bought our first house and are on the move next week :o so I hope things become a little less hectic once we are settled and school goes back!

mountain mummy, i also had postnd, with my first, i then got prend with my forth, and yeah, once you have 4 it does not matter how many more u have, u just have to remember to count heads when leaving the shops. lol.

Hey mountain mummy, i clicked on your face book link, i sent you a friend request, thought it would be nice to put a face to name.

well i caved in i brought another hpt.... done it at the shops on the way 2 work..su8spense was literally drivin me crazy....

its a :bfp:

so i eventually told dp ... said that i have something to tell u and he guessed... all was said so far is that we gotta sell this place... nd the quiet awkwardness.. i went on did the usuall got kids ready for bed and stuff he did his own thing he was gettin ready 4 work... he hsnt yelled at me yet and gave me the whole story of how we r goin 2 afford it just that now he is thinking we need to sell,,,,

im in shock... its not feeling reall yet such a strange feelin...

all the best everyone hope we get more:bfp: soon so im no alone
:pray:
xx

O wow and CONGRATULATIONS savina, everything will be ok, you and hubby will be just fine, i am so happy for you. :clap::dance::clap::dance::clap::dance:

Missy m I'm so sorry your upset he should stand up for you they always leave the messy jobs to us

I also had spd with my last 2 and I'm in my early 20 and sciatic nerve trouble since 4 months with all of them

Savina - congratulations! I'm sure your DP will be ok once the shock wears off!! :p (for some reason, men are always shocked by their partner's pregnancies!!)

Lisa - I'm already counting heads (and only 3 are walking so far!! LOL!) :rofl:

Hi ladies

I have just found your thread (well a few days ago but it took me a while to read all the posts!) and wondered if I could join in.

I have polycystic ovarian syndrome (pcos) and also hypothyroid so since I went off the pill (April 08) and we have been ttc (May 08) I have only had 2 cycles, first 16wks, second one I'm up to cd144. However, I seem to be in the middle of my first tww as well with 14dpo being Friday. I can't say its an official tww as I only have my FF chart to go off and not any BT, but I am still hopeful that it is my first ov.

I have been noticing lots of little twinges and aches and am itching to do another HPT, but DH keeps telling me not to. I did one on ov day not realising it was ov day and another at 7dpo (waaay too early I know) and am trying really hard to wait to 14dpo.

Anyway I'm sorry to post such a long message, but all you ladies seem so lovely and I just wanted to introduce myself and join in all the fun!

helo melly and welcome and good luck getting your BFP i hope your right and this is a 2ww for you

You are so very welcome to join us ladies "just wanting to be utd", so WELCOME mellybelly81, i am assuming that this is your first pregnancy that you are aiming for and i wish you and hubby all the best for getting a bfp and to carry that on to a happy and healthy pregnancy ending in a beautiful healthy baby.

All the ladies here are very lovely and welcoming, listening and giving advive as best we can.

You are being really good to wait till 14 dpo before you test, i am a poas addict, i just cant help my self. lol.

oh becca im so sorry.
i knwo how you feel though my MIL was like that to begin with.

hang in there it will get better :) just tell DP to stand up and be a man.lol

congrats on all teh BFP's

Hey mum-of-five and kellz, I'll be in on the good health plan too. I have lost 4 kgs in the last cpl of months and am aiming for another 16kg at least. Losing weight is supposed to help regulate my cycle and help with my PCOS so I won't be giving up. :)

Yay mellybelly on the 4k loss, my first day eating healthy to help ttc, did not go as it should, i skiped breaky, i had two pieces of orange for morning t, i had left over chineses for lunch, no arvo t, steak and veg with mashed potatoe for dinner, followed by lowfat ice cream with choc topping and some actual choclate, so as u can see a few good with lots a bad, i did how ever drink water and oj, i did not touch the coke, so thats something. I am way to scared to step on the scales as i know i have put on more weight since reaching my heaviest. I would be happy with 20 kilos, even a loss of 15k would be great.

There are so many bfps around at the moment, must be something in the air, hope it floats down my way soon.

well my healthy eating day went well. toast for breaky, sald for lunch dinenr was thai :) then i had an apple and plum for desert.
drank juice all day not enough water though.

Kellz im on cd6 too haha i thought i was almost the only one coz everyone was in the 2ww already yay us

ok silly question but what does the cd stand for and it has been 7 days for me , but do u count the day of af as day 1 or the day after af as day 1?

Lisa - my understanding is CD = cycle day :)

well yes that makes sense, duh, so do u count from day of or day after, af was dec 31?

the 1st day of AF is CD1.

A cycle is classed from the first day of AF, until the day before the next AF starts.. makes sense?

so your on CD8 right now sweety

Thankyou bec, really you would think i should know this with all the kids i have.:doh:

hey missy m just wanted to check how things were with you?

hey moni,

im totally exaughsted. i havent POAS today... maybe tomorrow lol

im dyign to know but.... heps that i dont have nay here anyways hahaha

how many dpo are you and when did you last test?

hey ladies..

so no POAS bec??

im still trying lol...

i have a feeling this could be a short cycle..
so here isb to hoping i catch my O and DTD and get BFP

this whole TTC is stressfull, last time we werent trying lol

LOL Kellz!! I agree TTC IS stressful!! The first 3 times we weren't trying, #4 we tried for 6 months and then when we gave up trying it happened! :rolleyes: So I think I'll just go with the flow and see what happens (especially as I have no cycle to chart atm!! LOL) But I'm pretty sure I'm O-ing, judging by CM consistencies ...

hello ladies, well my getting utd for this cycle is temporarily on hold, yes i am being a good sister and puuting my sisters request ahead of my personal situation and my feelings, as my sister so nicely put it in her text message last night, i am not to steal her lime light!

For thoose that dont know, (i posted in the other thread yesterday), my little and only sibling, darling sister is getting married sep 26 th, this year, she knows i want another baby, but does not know that i am already ttc, yesterday she said on the phone, and it has been said months ago also, that i am not allowed to be pregnant/due around her wedding, well since the first announcement her other bridesmade has sad that she is ttc, so now i am just no longer alowed to be due near her wedding, so if i do ttc this cycle and am successful i will have a due date in early october, just arround her wedding date, and we all know babies dont come when they are suppose to.

So stressed all night, about this and think that i will try and avoid dtd especially around o time, just so i dont conflict with her.

What are your thoughts, honestly am i doing the right thing, i feel its right for her but not for me?

Any one got any advice, im just so sad about this, i know one month off wont hurt my decision, but we only just started.

i think your great for avoiding it. but i think you need to be happy aswell.

Oh Lisa I don't know what to say to you :( I don't know how I would feel if my sister asked the same of me - she's engaged but hasn't set a date yet. Are you close with your sister? Could you talk to her and tell her how much this means to you? I'm sorry I'm not more help :(

Aw Lisa :hug: that's rough hun. But seriously, does your sister expect you to stop DTD just because she is getting married??? If I did have a sister, I'm not sure what I'd do in that situation.

Hi ladies, thanks for the replies.
My sister is not aware of the fact that i am ttc, and in her text last night she asked whats the hurry, my sister and i are very close, so close infact that i look after her son one day a week for nothing, although since her partner has been ill, we have drifted slightly.
Im 31, i want a big family, i cant afford to have really big gaps between kids, i love my kids and want nore, man i feel like i have to justify why i want to have kids.
I suppose i will just have to see what happens, when its that time, of dtd.

Its just really put me out of sorts emotionally, i was quite aware of the dates conflicting, but for her to tell me, it just upset me, although she wont see it that way.

ahhh......................

Lisa, i told you my thoughts last night. Personally i wouldnt wait..... HOW you would be stealing her lime light i have no idea as she will be the bride, she WILL ahve everyone's attention.

You need to do whats right by your heart....

hey I agree with missy m

Missy m have you poas yet how's things?