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Hey everyone!!
Oh Lissie that is SO annoying (actually I swore a bit when I saw the bureaucracy that you have to go through - why do we always have to do the hard stuff???) Hope the wait isn't too long...
Hey everyone - hope things are ok!! Isn't it cool that we've got our own title now? Much easier to find!
As for me - thought I'd give myself a self-imposed time out from this thread as I always was whinging about how stressed I was - unfortunately now I've moved into having 'discussions' (read arguments) with people at work who think my kind and pleasant nature means that I can be bulldozed. Guess again...(Thank goodness the end of term is only a week and a half away...)
However, a huge highlight is happening tomorrow night - DH, myself and our SD are meeting up for dinner and then going to see WAR OF THE WORLDS - Jeff Wayne's musical version at ACER areana!! How COOL is that!
Hope everyone is well!
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Hi Ladies,
Having a very sad day today..on the brink of tears.
No AF yet but pale pink line caused by HCG needles now pretty much gone. Should be getting darker. AF due tomorrow. BT Friday. Am being realistic and also spoke to clinic. It's not going to happen.
I am so sad.
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Hi Girls,
How are you all doing? I was lost for awhile....these forums are like a maze.
Fantastic that we now have our own spot...thankyou so much!:)
Gargy...I take it you work in a school...are you having probs settling in?
At least holidays are coming,things will probably be much better after....don't you hate though when people who don't really know you try to tell you what you're like.....HELLO!!! i've been with myself for 37 years...i think I should know!:D
I think it just fantastic that you are meeting up with your SD.....hope you have a really wonderful night.
Lissie...Hi hope you are doing well and hanging in there...doesn't red tape totally suck especially when you're waiting for something so precious.I hope it goes quick for you...it'll be worth the wait!( So hard though....:rolleyes: )
Lulu...how are you coming along? Hope it's fantastic news!
Minnie...am so very very sad for you,you poor love. sending you a huge :hug:
this is so emotionally and physically draining every single step of the way. There is no fairnesss to it whatsoever,just try to take comfort in the fact that you have 2 perfect embies left...IT WILL HAPPEN! So sorry darlin.
I am just about hanging in there myself...first hcg was 156,last fri after a week had only increased to 400....so my clinic told me it's not looking to good,but will have to wait til this fri BT to know for sure. It has been by far the longest week of my life,I am driving myself totally insane questioning every symptom I do or don't have. I am trying so hard to stay positive,...it just has to be real,we don't have anything left to try.:cry: I have to say my hubby has been so amazing,could not endure all this without him.
Talk to you soon girlies,
Hugs to all,
Claire
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Lulu,
I am sad for you - i still am holding out some hope for you but by the sounds of it you feel its not going to be - i am so so sorry sweetie. Gosh this stuff is hard isn't it -wish i could give you a hug but one over the internet will have to do :grouphug: god i wish i could make this happen for you. Its so hard when all you want is a little baby and you try so hard to get there. Lulu you are in my thoughts and heart right now - please stay strong - if its a no go this time when do you think you will try again?
I'm not giving up on you - i know you can do this.
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Clairebear - I sooo hope you get better news. It is so hard, I am really feeling for you. I guess we both have the dreaded BT Friday..but I know what my news is. I hope and :pray: yours is different.
Lissie - thanks for your lovely words. They made me cry in a good way. As you can imagine, today is pretty teary. The nurse at the clinic didnt want to give me false hope and did agree with my feeling (well fact of the faded line)...
But - once again I am getting back on that bloody horse. I am going away for 5 days for a much needed break over the long weekend and will have an FET the week I get back. Then depending on the results will once again go thru the whole horrible process the following cycle (but hopefully I wont have the need) and leave the last 3 embies on ice while I build up the bank again. Turning 42 next week and terrified.
Gargy - you tell em Carm...no bulldozing you!! How was dinner and the show??
So ladies, I will keep you posted..
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:hello: Girls,
Clairbear - i hope Friday bring great news i have everything crossed for you hun. :goodluck:
this IVF game is damn hard and no fun at all is it.
Lulu - oh sweetie what can i say - i just wish things were different. Don't worry about turning older just remember we are also wiser if that helps (not!), gotta always look on the good side of everything but sometimes it is such a challenge to do so. A friend of mine once said to me that life has a plan for all of us, and if i am not destined to have a family well maybe my role in life is to help other get thru this maze of TTC with IVF and maybe in some strange way she is right. I don't know how much longer i can stay strong for its been a long and tiresome path - i still have strength but that bubble of hope is getting smaller but i still am not giving up. Me - well i've come up against more road blocks in my challenge to get these embies here. Its like being a kid in a candy store but you are tied to a chair, i don't understand why it is so hard. In all my DH and i have had 7 conselling sessions over the years for donor egg, donor sperm and now donor embies now Victoria want me to do another conselling session for what reason i don't know, i am stumped, we will do what ever we have to but no one except the clinic in Melb where the embies are stored want this conselling done but that clinic, my clinic don't see the need for more conselling. It now seems the easiest option is to fly to Melbourne for transfer however we would have to go more than once and it is also the most expensive option, we don't have a money tree in the back yard and for two of us to go down there it would be wellmore than $1500.00 each time we had to go down, and unfortunately medicare does not re-imburse you for this stuff. Why is it so damn hard - oh well i guess we are just given another challenge , getting used to challenges these days but that doesn't make it any easier. Enough of my rambling - i guess im just venting at the moment - gotta get it out as my poor head is full of stress.
Hope you all have a great day.
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Hi Girls,
Well my news is not so good. By hcg went up from 400 to 1200 but the nurse said it's really not good enough,she told me to expet the worst.:( Have to wait until wed and go to clinic for a bt and scan. it's all so sad and frustrating and emotionally draining. I was really expecting everything to be fine and even now a little part of me just can't accept that it's all over. I really don't know what the future is going to hold for us,we have no embryos left and no donor,that is the hardest part of all.
Lulu and Lissie,thanks so much for your support and really hoping and praying that you will both get a positive result next time.It Will Happen!:pray:
Hugs to all,
Claire
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Hi Ladies,
Clairebear - I am so sorry. There's not much I can say I know. :hugs: bit hug to you..I sadly understand what you are going thru.
As predicted my news is also sad. Never had to go for the BT as AF came as I knew it would. Going next week anyway for BT - as they like to make sure it's not ectopic and will pick up my serotec then to check for ovulation. Will go for a FET in 2 weeks.
Wish we'd hurry up and get some better news in this thread finally!!!
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Hi girls,
I am very very sad to report that unfortunately this pregnancy was not to be.I had my scan yesterday and no little heartbeat to be seen,I am absolutely devastated.:cry: I cannot believe that just a few weeks ago we were choosing names for twins and now nothing. Life sure is a ***** sometimes.There just seems to be no balance of fairness and i cannot for the life of me understand why good people who just want their own family...not fame and fortune, can't be given that gift while others take it so much for granted and so many don't want the children they have!
I now have to wait for the dreaded MC,they've told me it's not going to be good,I normally suffer quite a bit at the best of times so I'm scared!:(
minnie.....:hugs: to you too darlin.Everything crossed for you for the next one.GO GET EM!!!!!
Love and hugs to all,and huge thanks for all your love and support!
Claire
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Claire,
I am so so sorry for your loss. It is such devasting news and my heart goes out to you.
Honey - why dont you ask them to do a D & C so you dont have to wait and go thru miscarriage? It is over in 1 day and the sooner it's over, the faster your body gets over it and your can continue on your mission.
I had to do it as I was 12 weeks...but to be 100% honest - I would do it at any stage. I think waiting for the inevitable makes it even sadder and much much harder for you.
I am thinking of you...we are all here for you..
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Hi everyone,
I'd just like to apologise at the outset for not being around and writing supportively - particularly for you Lulu and Clairebear.
I feel so sad for you both.
My only excuse is that life got busy. I read what was going on everyday, but I couldn't seem to put finger to keyboard and come up with anything that would help.
All I can assure you is that I constantly check up on you, and keep my fingers crossed at all times that things will get better.
Lissie, same goes for you.
I'll try and be a better support in the future.
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:hello: Girls,
I too have been missing in action -no excuses like Gargy said but like gargy life just got crazy around here and well all i can say is sorry.
Claire and Lulu - it sucks! I am so sorry for both of you. Life sure isn't fair at times but hey you girls are tough so i am sending you heaps of positive vibes for next time around. Gargy when do you do your thing? I only hope and pray that there is good news around the corner for all of us.
Take care and i am thinking of you all.
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Hi Girls,
Hope you are all doing well. I am slowly but surely getting back to normal,feel heaps better and although confused a little more positive about the future.:)
I have to go to my clinic 2moro for hopefully my last scan of this cycle...I hope it's all gone and there's no need for a D&C. Then all going well it will be back to work and try to move forward.
I was told at my clinic about a place called Cape Fertility in South Africa,who have a very successful egg donor program.Apparently there is no waiting list and it's possible to have very good donor matching...the donors are young uni students.My clinic said they have the technology to freeze EGGS and have them transfered to the clinic. My Dh and I are now weighing up the pros and cons of wether this could be an option for us......it's not cheap....$17,000 all inclusive.
Anyway,wishing you all the best of luck with any upcoming transfers.....keep us up to date and I will let you guys know what info I get about the whole thing.
Hugs to all,
Claire
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Hi Claire,
glad to here you are feeling better and have not given up the idea of another child.
I belong to a local egg donor support online forum, if you would be interested in joining up. they are very supportive and there are both donors and recipients there and people looking for both donors and recipients and some have had experience with overseas clinics. let me know if you want me to email you the link to the site. anney2227@yahoo.com.au
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:hello: Girls,
Claire, there is also another place in Greece you can go to, not as expensive I believe and again no waiting lists, i have been told the donor are young. Might be worth checking out, i know there is a clinic in Chatswood NSW that offers it but just cannot think of the name. Glad to hear you are feeling a little brighter, its tough hun- i know only to well how you feel. It will take time but you will feel better and better and stronger as well. TAke care.
Lulu - how are you?
Hi to everyone else.
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Hi everyone,
Just letting you know that I'm back from holidays and I'm here to listen.
Hope everything is going well for everyone.
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Egg Donation
Hi Guys
We are just starting out on the donor journey. We have tried to have our own baby for a number of years, but unfortunately have suffered miscarriages and failed iVF.* In addition, have been through breast cancer treatment, (now been given all clear) and as a result our only hope is a donor egg.
If anybody has any advice we would be grateful.
G&K
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Hi Donorsyd,
I wish you all the luck in the world on this journey. TTC or IVF is hard anyway but then throw in donors and its a whole new ball game. I have always been open to adoption or donor path - as we are deemed to old to adopt we have gone donor path. To me donor path is much like adoption in a sense but closer as you will carry the baby and you will always be the babys mother no matter what.
Have you got a donor yet? I thought it would be alot harder to find donors, but alas it was not, i have done donor egg, we have done donor sperm, and now we have 4 beautiful donor embies waiting for us and we just can't wait till transfer day - however that will most likely be a few months away but fingers crossed this will be it for us. Donorsyd - if you have any questions and am not an expert at this but have been around the traps with IVF and donor stuff so might be able to help if you need it. Again wishing you all the luck :goodluck: and i :pray: all works out for you.
