Children of Narcissistic Parents

TFB - The thing that gets me about my teen's is the fact she remembers it one way and I remember it completely different. I *know* there were things she said/did but she flat out denies it.

I really wish I could remember my childhood though, from about 13 and under I have to rely on her and other family members accounts because I can't remember anything. It's really hard, I don't know what to believe but maybe theres a good reason I don't remember it.

My dad committed suicide just before I turned 21, I'm shocked how she has tried to twist and manipulate the relationship I had with him. Anytime I have something positive to say about him she has something bad to say. Even when it came to the funeral it was all about her, mind you they had been divorced since I was 3 and she wanted nothing to do with him but "how could he do this to her"....she had to be the person in the middle between my grandmother (dads mum) and myself and completely twisted everything and its strained that relationship as well now.

And then when her parents died, who were more like my parents than she ever was her true colours came out. She flat lied to me and said she was too broke to go to my grandfathers funeral, I found out from an aunty she did go and she took her boyfriend! We were completely broke at the time, I'm still so angry with her for that.

And twice now she's been given things to pass onto me, a dresser from my Aunty was meant to come to me but no, she had to give it to DD and now things nan left for me she's keeping until DD is old enough for them! DD would get them from me when she's old enough, which what these people intended but no, she has to cut me out.

Luckily her mind is going because I managed to convince her she had already given me my Aunties, who was to be my godmother but died, diamond earrings. Oh and this all goes back to my cousin who lived with us for a while, these earrings are the ones I wanted to wear on my wedding day but she "forgot" and left them with my cousin in another state for her wedding. I just took them, not something I'm proud of but I'm sick of these games.

No news on us having a sticky in the psg? Was wondering if we start a Facebook group so we can chat in private?

I have been accepted to the group, maybe we need to make our own thread there too?

I thought this thread would be moving too?

That's what I thought, too. Still no sticky? I checked a couple of days ago and there wasn't anything.

if a facebook group is started, can someone pm me a link? if thats ok.

If you start a new thread in the F&R PSG then report it, one of the mods will be able to sticky it for you.

does anyone know what is going on ? im not a member of the family psg so can't access the page at all to see if there has been a section made for us.......

Maybe this thread could be moved in there to start us off - how do we ask for that to happen? Report it?

Had a nasty, nasty dream last night my mother joined this website with the sole intent of whinging about how dreadful her adult daughters were and ... - I don't want her to find this thread! (If it can't be moved I'll go back and edit my posts.)

Need a vent.
MIL decides that she hates my stuffed mushrooms (Im ex-cook, and have an AWARD for this recipe, plus shes eaten them 100 times before) so pushes her plate away, and 'has to rest' on the kitchen table.
FIL starts fussing and gets up and makes her toast which miraculously made her feel better.
I HATE how they enable her tantrums!

Oh gawd, Trishalishous! Melodramatic or what! I'll eat your mushrooms! Yum!

I just wanted to pop in and say that I feel a bit weird joining the fb group. We haven't seen MIL in five years now. And other than a few revolting attempts to gain access to DD, we don't hear anything either. I don't want to open the floodgates for me again, ITMS. I'm in a good headspace in regards to all of that, DH is too. And I feel like I'd be snooping on you guys.

But I'm here if anyone wants to PM me for questions or anything about dealing with the severed relationship, the aftermath and all of that. Thinking of you all and I hope you find a clear path :hug:

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We will not be starting any new Private Support Groups. If anyone wishes to join the Family and Relationship PSG and start a new thread in there you are welcome just as long as you meet the posting requirements for the F&R PSG. We will not be moving this thread into the PSG as not all participants will have access to the PSG, so won't be able to contribute in this thread if it is moved.

OK, I've taken out the identifying things from my posts, but left general stuff up. Will start a thread in the PSG and see how many of us respond...

eta - Trish, your mushrooms sound yummy. Are you willing to share your award-winning recipe? I fancy trying a new stuffed mushrom recpie.

Flat/field mushrooms in a casserole dish
pour Chicken stock all over mushrooms

blend sundried tomatoes, olives, roasted capsicum(I use yellow cos its sweeter) mixed dried herbs, a tiny bit of fresh garlic/chili
mix with ricotta cheese and breadcrumbs to 'firm' the mixture
spoon the mixture onto the mushrooms and grate cheese on top
then bake :)
You can add bacon too, but fry it with the capsicums first if so :)

Her latest rant is how we should visit more (we live 4 hours - 11 on a bad day - away)

Sounds delicious! Can't wait to try.

I get guilt trips on how my extended family never see us. We're 5-10 hours away too. There's a reason for that! Have you tried the "we'd love to have you visit more" tack? That usually shuts my mother up because it would mean doing something for her family rather than strangers in the village she vaguely knows but likes their praise.

Hi there!
A friend told me about this forum and in particular this thread, so I've signed up here in the hope to get some understanding help and support with dealing with my parents.
Basically I have parents who I suspect have NPD, no diagnosis has ever been made but they very much fit the criteria and quite frankly I am struggling with them. I know my mother was seeing a psychiatrist because of her 'breakdown' but I don't doubt that my mother would have been able to manipulate the psychiatrist too, she is quite good at that - as most narcissists are.
I'm a partnered mum to two gorgeous girls, and I will do anything to protect my children from harm as any parent would.

My battery is flat, I look forward to coming back and writing more about my situation and hopefully getting some clarity and what not. It's not a easy, nor fun thing to deal with.

Hi MissEm. Sorry that you are dealing with so many issues with your parents. It really isn't easy.

If you haven't already, check out the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers website. You will find lots of useful info on there. There are also a few blogs and other things around the place with heaps of info that might help you to understand it all a bit more and help you feel less alone. If you are interested in those links I can post them here for you also.

Welcome to BB! I hope you can find the support you need here. Everyone is super friendly so it really is a great place to be :)

Oh wow! Thank you so much for that link, Just Me, I will have a better look once the girls go to bed!

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