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Kellie, I'm so glad things are looking up :) It's amazing what a bit of help, and a clean house can do! And yeah, they definitely pick up on your moods hey? Remember "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" PMSL! Oh, and I know what you mean about the flowers, but just enjoy them. He was really trying to cheer you up, so let it work ;) And tell him again after a few days how much you loved them, he'll feel really useful then, and men love that! My DH loves it when I tell him again that the flowers are lovely, more than when I say thanks in the first place.
Do you have a park nearby? Although we have a fair sized yard, I've been taking DS to the park a few times a week recently, and he loves it! Even if it's just for half an hour to burn some energy, it's great.
I hope you have a nice time with Amy, I would love to meet you too hun! (And Amy ;)). Enjoy the 'adult' conversation, and just let the girls run wild LOL.
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Unfortunately the day is quickly declining.....Lily won't sleep this arvo and I am desperate for a snooze. It's too late now to put her down or she won't sleep tonight. Liam is only having cat naps and Lil's whinging like no tomorrow.....I feel like screaming at her to shut up but I know that not going to make anyone feel better. I feel like crying, I just want some decent sleep....
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Oh babe - start singing ridiculous songs out loud, anything to change this frame of mind right now. I found the Upsy Daisy song works for me.....feeling ridiculous is better than feeling helpless
Upsy Daisy here I come, I'm the only Upsy one, I'm the only Daisy too, Ipsy Upsy Daisy DOO!!!!
So take it 10 mins at a time, focus 100% on Lili right now read her books or whatever. Nothing stops a whinging child better than waay too much attention...
XOXOXOXOXO
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I agree with lulu - or just put some music on and dance around like no one is watchin ;)
Or - something that always works for DS - chase her up and down the hallway.... with Liam in your arms so he gets bounced to sleep - and she's entertained..
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some of my "desperately-need-a-nap ideas is to lie on the bed with DD and read a book, or if she is tired i give her some milk in a sippy cup and she sits on the bed while i lie beside her and we have 'quiet time'. although i dont sleep at least i am not running around after a cranky-pants bubba. ITH. might be trickier with a catnapper bubs on board, unless you give him some milkies too! LOL!
i think your approach to possible PND sounds great. and yeah, getting DH on board can really make a difference, especially with the cognitive stuff (ie. switching the negative approach to a situation to a positive one...tricky but awesome once it can get started). i also recommend any group support that may be around. i go to the one here run at the BB centre and the girls are great and it has been a lifeline. also, the pnd group on this site is really supportive ITH. it does sound as though self-management is right down your alley. it seems to be more of a situational depression (not any less yuk, but at least has a sense to it IYKWIM). i have been doing it through cognitive behaviour change and group support (and the awesome girls on here :)), and also i just made sure that i was taking my preg.b/f vitamins (i found this helped no end on the energy side of things).
it can be done, and like you said, it doesnt have to be scary, it just takes some time and support. :hug: you'll get there babe. like you said, having bubbies is major life-changing stuff...no wonder our brains go into overload occasionally LOL! (it's like 'mummy brain times 10 million!!).
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I was going to suggest what Mel and Cassius have suggested LOL!
Option A - crank up some really ace music, put Liam in a sling/carrier, and dance around like crazy! I'm sure Lily will love it, and might join in too and burn off some energy. I'm sure it feels like too much hard work ATM to even get off the couch, but you might surprise yourself with just how good you feel after a bit of a boogie ;)
Option B - do whatever it takes, milk/DVD/books, and try to get Lily to have some quiet time while you BF Liam. Even though you won't sleep, you'll feel better for having a rest, and the evening might seem more managable.
Otherwise......what time is DH home????? "Give" him Lily, and let them sort it out LOL. :hug: it WILL get better, this will all be a distant memory one day.
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Huge hugs sweetheart. Life with a toddler and a nb is so very trying. I second all the other advice, plus I would consider joining a mothers group or playgroup to get out of the house and have other mums to talk to. Maybe consider a positive parenting course to help learn how to cope with having to young kids.
One more point try and delegate some babysitting to relatives or trusted friends...I should have done this and I will do it next time around.
I feel your pain sweets, I was there only 6 months ago.
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Big hugs, babe. :hug: :hug:
I'm no help but am thinking of you.
