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Thanks for your help.....it seems that giving her a little bit of info about the egg in mummy's tummy blah blah blah is the way we shall go about it.........that way at least I won't have lied to her and she will hopefully be able to trust and confide in me when she's older...and also the same with her siblings of course.
Also by not saying anything that she doesn' t need to know, ie the penis in vagina bit won't have given her too much info either.
I know parents have their own ways with raising kids, and while some don't mind their kids knowing things like this early on, others keep tight lipped about it!
TBH dh and I were petrified that given adequate info of what goes where, she might act it out at school with the other kids.omg what would the teachers think of us then.
I personally don't believe it does any harm to hold on to sex details for a good few years more, as my own mother did with me.
Believing that I was bought from a shop satisieid my curiosity until late primary school, and it doesn't look like its done me no harm.....I have been in a long term relationship with dh for over 14 years now, married for over 11 years and have been pregnant 8 times...........so the little white lie that I was told has done me no harm imo.
I remember a boy who lived near us, and he had older brothers who had told him all about sex and he'd seen it on tv etc, we were only about 7 years old at the time, and he actually took girls into his tent in the garden stripped his and their lower garments off, and lay on top of them.....thank god he was too young to perform sexually, but that surely proves that too much into at too young an age is pretty risky.
But of course, that is just our opinion, this is something that can be discussed forever with no right and wrong way at the end of the day.
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my older boys started asking about this about about 3-4 years old. we just told them, first about the sperm and the ova and then i think josh worked it out at about 5 when he asked how does the sperm meet the egg (obviously he knew about the shape of the vagina and penis) and then said oh wait i know dad puts the penis into your vagina. i really didn't have to say much. we have been very open about sex and everything for that matter and found it really great in our kids development. we answer the questions they ask cos i figure if they are asking then they are ready for the answer. good luck in your decisions. edited to add that if a 7 year old is doing that sort of thing, statistically he is more likely to have been sexually abused rather than given too much information.
beckles
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jayjay - my 5 year old asked me how the baby got in my tummy. I told her that Mummy and Daddy decided that we love each other and them so much that we wanted another baby. Told her that we had a 'special cuddle'. I also explained to her that i have some eggs in my body, and daddy has something special that helps the egg to grow into a baby. She was happy with the explanation, and didn't ask anymore questions (thank goodness!!!)
