Thinking of you today Bimboo, i have lite up a candle already for you. It will burn all day.
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Thinking of you today Bimboo, i have lite up a candle already for you. It will burn all day.
Candles burning Bimboo..... Huge hugs!
Mayaness.. I would ask your mum about it, i bet it would be one of the first times she has spoken of it. I am physically better, mental ok and emotionally messed up still (does that even make sense?) I am carrying on day to day as normal (LUcky life is hectic with three so this isnt hard) But i am still having to play games on m mobile til my eyes are hanging out, rather than lie in bed thinking about things. One of the hardest things which is so different from my MC is to think that this little bubba was perfect, just grew in the wrong spot. And i know that there is NOTHING i could have done but i still feel my body failed that baby. I also had genetic testing on the MC so i knew the sex, something i didnt do this time and i am really struggling with not knowing. I know i could make it up but i NEVER have any maternal feelings on sex when im pregnant so i really would be making it up. Its not like i want to name it, i just wish i knew. I am struggling with the thought of trying again, in that i mean that i hope i fall quickly. I did after my MC and it really helped, i hope i dont have a long wait ahead of me. My arms and heart feel empty :( But i also know how lucky i am for the three i have. When i say i feel empty its really like a thought in the back of my mind like i have forgotten something.....weird.
ANYWAY sorry i didnt mean to have a big D & M, just thinking of Bimboo is making it all seem sader today. I wish i could give her some strength and i wish no mother ever had to bury her baby!
D&M away :hug: My mum mentions it and kind of glosses over it - probably because at the time (70s) you were treated as if it was never really a pregnancy at all and I reckon a bit of her emotional issues (anger management etc) can be attributed to this time. She would have been told to get on with it because she had a healthy daughter (for the first one) then two healthy daughters (for the second one). She was so disempowered coming to this country - had she been pregnant back in her original country she would have been nurtured incredibly, and she would have had us at home with a doula from the village, the way my grandma did.
Anyway, I think recent events have started a few things for us in this thread - that's not a bad thing :hug: everyone.
Love to you Bimboo.
Rory that is awesome that you have been "accepted" into the sunshine HB program!
Just had my first MW appointment today, her name is Melanie and she is lovely, aside from being an obvious HB advocate she had had 4 children herself, one of whom was born at home. Heard a HB which was promising and now I am just counting down.
woohoo thats great. always nice when you feel that the MW understands what you are going thru and attempting! Congrats! Cant wait to hear more about your journey.
Go Rory GO ..... GO RORY GO!
I got my first "oh you're brave" this weekend :) I was at a wedding sitting next to a woman with a 4 month old who was in labour for 3 days and ended up with an epidural and forceps delivery.
I am going to count how many I get and tally up my "score" :)
Yeah, i get sick of those comments too... i tell them that I think they're the brave ones, birthing in hospital
Oh Rory i bet you lose count! Just say that i think you are brave to birth in hospital! Keep us updated! LOL
I agree, you'll lose count! The hits just keep on coming...! The more I think about it, even since having DD, the more normal HB is to me. Even DS believes babies are cooked in mummies and finished in birth pools in loungerooms :)
My daughter Miss 6 believes that a mummy can have a baby wherever she wants - why cant the rest of australia think that same!
Anyway some days i have the fight and other days i am just happy that i found and had a beautiful HB. This one will be born at home too!
What a baby year! I've been in touch with people who can help me have a HB on the farm - a middie in Sth Gippsland does HB! Not that I plan to worry about that for a little while...just enjoying my last homeborn baby and preparing to welcome stacks of babies this year :)
Oh! I just found this homebirth chat thread :D
I'm planning my first homebirth in November this year. Second baby- I had our son at the Mercy FBC.
The respose I've had so far has been really positive. Mostly friends who have commented on FB who know I was huge in plugging the right the home birth rallies and petitions etc so they wouldn't dare question me :lol: It will be interesting as it comes up with strangers I guess. I will be telling the people at my work placement this week that I'm pregnant and I'm sure they'll all faint when they hear I'm planning a home birth. The medicalised talk of birth that I've heard there already is amazing.
Looking forward to sharing the journey with you all. So sorry to hear of the little babies who have been lost :hug:
Welcome Meow: glad that you found this thread, Its a lovely place to share thoughts with like minded souls! Ill be having my 4th bubba at home in december, our 2nd HB!
can i sneak in this thread too? we will be having our second baby at home this time. last time was a rather traumatic hospital birth and DH and I decided to avoid all the nasty of the machines that go *ping* and stay at home! Our DD1 is very excited, and is currently LOVING reading 'hello baby'...man, i know that book off by heart now :ROFL:
so far we have had pretty good responses. a couple of friends have had bubs at home and the others have been supportive. luckily in our street we are all families and all of them have been amazing when we have chatted about it and have offered heaps of support and help with DD if we need it, which i reckon is lovely for the thoughts and 'village' feel IYKWIM.
Anyway, hope everyone is travelling AOK and i look forward to chatting with you and asking a MILLION questions as they come up lol!
Hi everyone, I'm a bit of a late comer - I've completed my family but have had two homebirths (my last 2 children) - the 1st was unplanned HB, second planned freebirth - I'm a quick birther.
I'm still passionate about birthing where a woman is most comfortable though so thought I'd pop my head in and say Hi!
Welcome Cass
welcome Robyn - would love to hear more about your free birth. DH and i are thinking this way. Only as i birth VERY quickly too and handing over $4000 last time for no one at the birth was a little hard for my DH!
I just found this thread too. We welcomed our second daughter earthside in the comfort of our lounge room last October. It was the most amazing thing I have ever done!
I don't feel our family is complete so any further children will be born at home too - one way or another!