How engaged is bub dot face? I would think if they were very, that you would get pelvic pain related to that.
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How engaged is bub dot face? I would think if they were very, that you would get pelvic pain related to that.
At around that time it's normal-ish - that's when your body is supposed to start stretching. I'd keep an eye on it, though, and do the things SPD people do, in case it doesn't go away after the birth xxx
I got SPD in my first pregnancy at 36 weeks. 28 weeks with the second, 4 weeks with the third. Can't remember with the 4th because I was having chiro treatments the entire time between pregnancies, and this last one it didn't get bad until around the 3rd trimester.:
So I think it can happen at any time really.
Williams mummy last week midwife said bub wasn't engaged but head has been down for last few weeks now. Maybe it's starting to engage?
Arimeh I died a little inside reading your post lol I really hope this isn't spd.
Smoke jaguar I'm trying to keep my legs together in bed and when I get in and out of bed. The pain is like a bruise or a soreness in my pelvis but especially my left side. Have a checkup tomorrow will bring it up then to my middie.
Sitz baths - didn't do an actual sitz bath, but had a bath in my own tub daily with sea salt added to help things heal up. My midwives also leave a package for an herbal bath that is great. Also the peri-bottle for when you pee is essential if you have an scrapes, tears, nicks, whatever. Pee stings!
About the pelvic pain - what does it feel like, DotFace? You might have a bit of SPD with your body loosening up in preparation for birth. I've had a relatively mild case of it in the past couple of pregnancies, but it hasn't given me any trouble after the birth.
Bella - about the fear of birth. Yep. Know what you mean. I feel it every time, sometimes worse than others, and I think most women do. But every time labour starts, after an initial "crap, here we go again" things move along and you just ride the waves, deal with each contraction as it happens, enjoy the rest in between, and get through it. I did find it helpful to talk about the fear with DH and the midwives, and the good ladies here on BB. The more at peace you can be, the easier it will be on you. I think Abraham Hicks said something to the effect of "be happy and stay out of the way of what your body is doing."
How's everyone else? Arimeh, how's your recovery going?
Hey cricket, thanks for asking. :hug: still not totally back to normal but I'll get there I'm sure xxx
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I love this, Cricket. I have days where I am psyched, days where I am terrified, and days where I just don't care.
I try and remember that being stressed isn't going to make it any easier, so I try and get prepared. This is round 2 though and I feel a bit lost as to what I need to research. Sounds silly, but I am worried about what I don't know, I don't know.
My SPD started early this pregnancy, but is actually getting better. (I am 24 weeks now) Maybe I am being more careful, but I actually think some activity is helping me.
In some pregnancies I definitely found that the hip/pelvic pain was worst from about 18-25ish weeks, and then improved. Seemed kind of odd to me too - I expected it to get worse! - but I didn't complain. :)
I think that one good thing you can do to prepare yourself for second and subsequent labours is to remind yourself that you can do it. Watch natural birth videos, read natural birth stories, tell yourself that you've done it before, etc. Do your support people need some information? Penny Simpkin has some good stuff for birth partners to read. And, make sure you are happy with your midwife. If you have a good relationship with her, then if something unexpected happens at the birth, you'll know you can trust her judgment, and that she will do her best to respect your wishes.
Arimeh - hope your recovery is smooth and quick! How's your little man behaving?
Not sure what happened to my post, but pelvic instability association typed into google will bring up the best website to help with this condition, as well as the Facebook page.
The thread under 'medical conditions in pregnancy' isn't very active, but the association website has been getting better and better - heaps more info and support there since I needed it last (4 years ago).
Hi girls, I replied but lost it a couple of days ago and atm I'm not on the computer very much!
Arimeh - I hope it isn't long before you are back to normal. :hug: Did you end up with a more extensive op due to the nature of it this time, or is it just the reality of running around after another four kids and trying to rest that's making it a bit slower this time? How is bfing going?
Urgh to those with pelvic instability, that sounds awful. I'm getting some lower back pain, but I found it was much like this with DD2 as well. I have had to focus extra on my core and pelvic floor muscles this time though, and I find as soon as I pay attention and suck them all up, my posture improves immediately and the pain almost disappears. I think I'll be seeing the chiro a bit more often to help as well. Could just be I'm getting too old for this. :p Although DP is completely open to another child in a few years. I'm not sure what happened to the partner I took almost 12 mths to convince to TTC DD2... Seems he actually likes the idea of extra children running around. Just took a bit longer to realise!
My birth pool is being picked up to deliver to us on Monday next week. I'll feel much better when it's in the house, even though I still have 12 weeks to go. I rang the hospital to book in in case of transfer, but haven't heard back. Might try again and go in soon. So they can photocopy all my notes. Might be an idea to brush up my birth plan before that appt, since I don't expect to go back. I think I'll keep the last one pretty much for this time, except with something up the front about how well my VBAC went.
Really starting to think about the birth now. DD3 is alternating mostly between transverse and head down now, so she's on her way. She clearly has plenty of room. :\ I'm not bothered, she'll figure it out. I feel it will be a quick birth, I'm sure at least one of my midwives won't make it. I'm totally fine with that, but I'm going to spend a bit more time with my doula (who's the closest) in the lead up so that DP doesn't feel entirely responsible! I'm picturing another night time birth, but I think it will all be over before midnight.
Anyone else have strong feelings about their births before they happened that did come true? WIth DD2, I really didn't imagine the birth that much, but I did know it would all be fine and I guess while I kind of left it to proceed as it would, in hindsight I didn't expect it to be long (I did no preparation for looking after anyone for a long labour at all). I strongly saw us sitting around in the daytime afterwards with a new DD2 and just going about our normal business. That part was certainly true. And I did know there wouldn't be any dramas, it would all just happen smoothly.
I pictured my last birth to happen during the day or early evening in warm weather. It happened late evening and it was lashing down rain! It wasn't long, though - just over 3 hours from regular contractions to birth.
Cricket it just feels sore around the bones I use to sit on so my pelvis just feels really sore and gets quite stiff in the mornings making it hard to maneuver out of bed. Especially on my left where my leg joins my hip on the inside feels sore. Midwife yesterday didn't mention anything about spd when I told her she just said it sounds like some ligaments are stretching in preparation so hopefully it isn't spd. I imagine spd would be far more painful this is just mainly soreness.
Smoke jaguar thank you I saw your posts before they got deleted (there were 2 of the exact same one so maybe while trying to delete one both were accidentally deleted?).
I'll have a look at the site you mentioned to google and hopefully some exercises can tame this soreness and stiffness.
In other news baby isn't engaged yet but midwife said it's very likely I've "dropped" after I told her that my inlaws were commenting that my belly looked lower. Still have heartburn and I'm going to start taking apple cider vinegar again because that's the only thing that has actually helped really well. Just been forgetting to take it after meals!
37 weeks today, 21 days to EDD :). Feel like I have to climb a mountain in these next 3 weeks because of all the things I need to get done that I still haven't! Darn the nesting urge!!!
More extensive op I think since they had to take my uterus out to repair the hole. I was left with a lot of bruising - from my belly button down to my groin. I even had a bruise in the shape of a hand print on my lower abdomen - must of been from them trying to stop the bleeding from the abruption. I've had numerous health professionals tell me how lucky I am to be alive, and to be honest I'm struggling with how to deal with that. Not to mention that Felix could have died too. DH told me last night that he had started thinking in the waiting room that he was going to lose me - so thats upsetting to think about him sitting there crying and waiting to hear good news or bad news. Ahh dear, now I'm getting all teary. Think I have issues.:
Um breastfeeding is going well, I've been tempted into thinking to try formula overnight to see if it will take him less than 2 hours to settle, but I'm pretty lazy and I know it won't necessarily make him sleep so I haven't relented yet lol
Dot Face, at this stage of the game, I'd just be getting down to the nearest hydrotherapy pool and floating to take the weight off your pelvis, and not worrying about exercises :) If it persists afterwards, then find an osteo or trusted physio and they'll evaluate what exercises are best for your form of the condition, because each case is different.
Arimeh, now you KNOW the chances of formula cutting down settling time is as random as if you just stuck to what you're doing :p
Oh hun. :hug: Big hugs to you and DH. That is very scary and I'm not surprised you are teary thinking about it. :( You just know you wouldn't mind the settling thing at night so much if you weren't running around after all the other chickens all day! I hope you find your rhythm soon. I bet feeling a bit better physically might help how you cope as well. How is Felix doing? And his brother and sisters - what do they think of their new sibling?
Dot Face - we're getting into spring cleaning so I can get the nesting thing over and done with early. ;) DP completely cleaned the pantry and reorganised it over the weekend. :o He wants to do the fridge this weekend. And that was following a huge effort in the garden and on the pool the day before! He has a few other 'jobs' and some notion of being to clean out every room of the house (haha) but we'll see how we go. He's back at uni in November and that will slow him down. ;) Hope your efforts pay off - so close now!
Arimeh, I totally understand where you are coming from, regarding that haze after a life and death situation. I had to be resuscitated 18mths ago after my MC, my hubby was there and I woke up to a room of people yelling my name... 7 long minutes went by until I started to breath and I will never forget the look on his face when I started to come around. It took me months to process the enormity of what had happened, plus I was bid ridden for weeks and months to even get better. THere is such a fine veil between life and death, and I feel so incredibly blessed to be here and humbled by how easily it can be taken. I feel like i crawled my way through the gates of humility in those weeks and I will never see life in the same way again. The love that blossomed in our family because of that moment is amazing... try not to look at what could have been as much as how much there is here and now. So much for you and hubby to process, I hope you feel supported in doing that. xx
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SPD pain is more in the front center of the pelvis, I believe. I think your midwife is right - it's your ligaments loosening up and your baby moving down. You're getting so close now! So exciting! :):
Arimeh - of all the things to cry about, that's probably one of the best reasons to cry. I don't think you've got issues. There's a lot to deal with there. Go ahead and cry! Caleb was taking a long time to settle at night too, some nights, but I got Ovol drops (simethicone) for him and that has helped a fair bit. Quiet time after lunch has become an essential part of everyone's routine here too, which helps me make it through the day. I can catch a nap then if I need to. Maybe that would help you make it through this rough, not-getting-any-sleep newborn stage?
Jennifer - my DH nested at least as much as I did too this time around. :) We did quite a bit of work on the house before Caleb was born. It was nice to have everything clean and fresh when he arrived.
LBF - that must have been terrifying for both of you. Losing DH or leaving my kids without a mom is one of my biggest fears. :hug: I can see how that would alter your perspective on life. DH's mom had cancer twice when her kids were young and they didn't expect her to live. It made her a very cheerful, thankful person! She knows how fragile life is. If only we could learn that lesson and remember it without having to go through the near-death experience!