Oh that's a little bit disappointing meow! But it will be our births soon enough and they take priority I guess lol
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Oh that's a little bit disappointing meow! But it will be our births soon enough and they take priority I guess lol
She really put herself out and delayed going away for a few hours to come and see me and she was super apologetic and said she really wanted me know I was a priority and that my stuff is important to her too. Which was really lovely. When it comes to the birth though then yes, I want the MW to cancel appointments to be there so I do understand ;)
She was only secondary MW for these births that's why she was going away and also why she was a little busy I guess. She only takes on 2 clients a month.
Great meow. 2 clients is not stretching yourself at all. I didn't even think to ask how many my midwife takes on....
She did text me today and ask if I'd have a third year MW student follow me. I had one with Dd3 and I know it wasn't her fault that it was such a horrid birth but I can't help but feel that at times I was more worried about her learning new skills than I was about myself.... Ideas/thoughts anyone/everyone? Also this midwife practise already has two midwives attend the bigotry, three sounds like a crowd.....
And finally I had my scan and there really is a baby in there 8) and in the right spot! How exciting
I had student for first two but not for the third. I did stress that I wanted it to go ok so that I could show them how well a homebirth could go. It was nice not having that stress for the third. But I look at it like if I was a student I'd like to be there. But at the end of the day if it impacts your birth then no is the answer for you. I also know that students can do the follow through but they don't have to attend the birth if you don't want them too. Eeek you're having a baby!
Oh Arcadia!!!
:happyforyou:
What bliss!! Welcome to your little new human! So incredibly thrilled for you! :heartbeat:
Oz: WAHOOO!!!! So awesomely stoked to see you in here!! :dance: I am also super looking forward to hearing all about your plans! yay!
Tegam: A baby! And all in the right spot xx Congratulations!
SJ: I hope that the scan shows that all is ok. Surely the measurements are impacted by the spd? I would have thought that it would mean that there was quite alot of room for bubs to wiggle down and about? still, pretty intense stuff to have niggling in the back of your mind.
HotI: I am sorry to hear that your headspace is cluttered ATM. and being a third birth i think it is quite common to find yourself in that space ITMS.
Meow: oh wow! your ticker is ticking along! double figures!
I think if I was questioning whether to have a student there, I'd probably err on the side of not having them.
I suppose you could meet her and see if you click. I make a lot of decisions based on my gut instinct.
Thanks :) I'll have a good chat on Monday about the SPD, the fact that this time I haven't had the DRAM I did with the last two, that I have been heaps more active between pregnancies (I took up surfing again after moving to the country) and I am hoping to have a response from the mw we used last time, to establish how I measured with DD. It's not great to have this niggle, and if it weren't this it would be something else ;) I know scans aren't accurate, hence not having any in this or the last pregnancy - I did say to myself and caregivers that there were to be no scans or 'routine' tests unless something came up outside of normal. At this stage, I don't recall measuring this far under with the other two, so it's sailing close to 'outside of normal'.
I'm willing to bet that it's the SPD that's behind it, though. After last night I'm probably measuring 22 weeks; I rolled my foot on the extension cord plug connection for the fan in the kids' room - I wouldn't have even been in there if it weren't after 9.30pm on a school night with one DS avoiding sleep!
Student mw - you're either ok with it or you're not, like Special says and I'd like to think they understand if you feel you need to close ranks. I had one tracking me for DS in the FBC and she missed the birth by about half an hour. It would have been a great experience for her, in hindsight (she would have been spectating, like the staff mw ended up doing!), and when I met her I knew she'd be cool in my space. I was too far along with DD by the time I got wind of any students wanting to tag along for HBs :( One contacted me, but just as I was about to pull the pin on her (I wasn't convinced over the phone) she pulled out, anyway, due to life circumstances, so it worked out well.
I would have to meet the student before deciding. I had one first pg, and decided not to invite her to the birth. my second student was awesome, I would love to have her again even though she has graduated. I decided not to have one this time.
I'm feeling way more positive after my mw appt. wrote up some affirmations, and have printed them out. planning to laminate them, and pin them to the curtain behind my birth pool. last time I had plans to set things up during early labour, and things moved quickly so they didn't get done. I am having them done early this time, so my kitchen will be very birthy for a few weeks.
Thank you guys, all your advice is very appreciated. That's why I love this thread. I think I'll hold off having any decision until after the nice long 12 week appointment. Whilst its definitely helped to see a little baby and its heart beating I'm still a bit numb. Only to the pregnancy tho... Weird I'm doing internal cartwheels of joy at the thought of getting to experience holding and sqwishy newborn again. Maybe it's just 7th pregnancy boredom? I'm also looking forward to watching it move.
Ahhhhh sorry for my rambling :)
Hoti: love that you are in a better place. I'd love to read some of your affirmations. I've never written or read any before.
How are things Arcadia??
SJ: thinking of you.
What a great idea, HotI! I'm gonna pinch it!
Oh, and I found someone to help me with baby clothes and equipment set up in the sun room...my DD! She's offered her services, and at the age of 4 I think she could be up for it ;)
Tegam- such early days, you so don't have to commit to a student at this stage. Let it all sink in, first :)
SO glad to hear baby is doing well Tegam! Yay! I feel like if you have any triggers from having a student MW then just don't do it. Bunker down with your MWs and make it your space. This is all about you and your baby so don't feel you owe anyone any favours.
HotI it's so great to hear you in such a good space. I hope baby comes along soon xx
You sound positive SJ and I'm sure there is nothing amiss with this baby. I hope you ride through the medical experience well.
HotI I had some great affirmations:
My baby knows how to birth I trust my baby
I am safe in labour, I have a wonderful team and the body of every birthing woman.
I choose to say yes to the power of my body and accept myself completely.
Don't expect only accept.
A big one for me was also knowing and visualizing circles of love: my friends my sisters and mum and my kids and DH. I clued into that idea in mid labour and it was excellent. I also had the image of a flower opening stuck in my mind which was a great visual.
All great here with baby. He is seriously divine!!! My nipples are a bit tender because I just let him feed all last night without any thought to attachment (post-birth high anyone?). So now I'm sitting for each feed and it's much better. I have to remember not to assume anything, and that I've had a break from breastfeeding this time so nipples are more sensitive.
The afterbirth pains are annoying me this time and I took panadol on that first day. Urgh I'm so sweaty too. Gross otherwise I feel excellent! The best recovery so far. He was my biggest baby too:
Weight: 3.84
Length: 58cm (the kid is going to be a giant)
Head: 37cm
I just love the fact I caught him myself. It's what I envied about water births! Now I know you can land birth and do the catching etc yourself too.
Birth story is bring drafted in my mind. Hopefully I get some time soon.
Sorry I haven't replied to everyone. I will come back soon. I want to contribute to everyone else but I'm a bit obsessed with my new squishy.
And so you should be Arcadia! Enjoy that squishy goodness!
Arcadia, I am so happy you got to catch him, it just sounds like it was so special.
I forgot about the sweatiness that comes after birth. The weather is really hot here right now... I guess I'll be wearing not much for a while.
My little 2 started Kinder and grade 2 today. I'm happy I got to take them. My year 8 boy is not doing well with school at all (emotionally,) but I think I have finally found someone that seems like they want to help us. Fingers crossed.
I'm 40+5 today. Finally did the baby clothes, but I still haven't tested out the birth pool. I did watch a YouTube video.... does that count?
Oh, I saw something on Facebook but then lost it. It was alternatives to the plastic bellybutton clips - Any one use anything different? Have an opinion or experience? I can't remember how long the clip even stayed on, I just remember my 3rd took a while longer - and he has a half innie/half outtie. :lol:
I used embroidery thread and plaited a cord tie last time. in pretty colours of course.
this time considering doing cord burning, so no tie needed. think I will make one just in case.
Hope you're doing okay, Special and Hot1. Never considered an alternative to plastic clamps, DD3's dropped off after three days.
I like the idea of a pretty tie-off!
I'm still waiting for my former mw to get back to me about my fundal height measurements with DD :/
Meanwhile, I'm booked in for the scan for tomorrow, and back with the GP next Monday, unless something is flagged and she wants to see me before then. Essentially, I knew that she'd want to be ruling out by looking at a scan would be fluid levels and blood flow through the umbilical cord. If that all comes up normal then we'll just sit back on the theory of no DRAM, SPD and extra core from the surfing and increased horse riding between pregnancies - which we're both hoping this is down to. It's one thing to know that fundal height measurements are not the be all and end all, and I really do have to bear in mind that two weeks later my measurements are still 28 weeks, at 33 weeks. That's a slippage of 5 weeks, at this stage. So, it's time to call in the technology.
Wow, steamed/half-dehydrated placenta is pungent :o The smell has taken over my house - I'm glad I waited until DH was at work before I started, I should have time to air it out :lol:
SH, hope all comes back clear. Do you feel bubba is growing? While I always measured behind in the third tri, I generally had growth week to week, so as you say, there is a place for technology.
My little piggy put on a kilo in three weeks. She won't be a newborn much longer!
SJ - I hope the scan brings reassuring news tomorrow.
I did the same as hotl and had a cotton cord tie for ds2, it was much nicer than the plastic clamp IMO. Although I forgot to make a pretty one but my midwife had a plain white one for me that she brought in case I had forgotten to make one.
Hope your scan shows all is well, SJ :)
I guess the cotton ties aren't as bulky to work around for nappies and clothes afterwards too. Something to ask about if there's a next time. ;) DP is telling ppl that I would like another one, so I guess he's aware how I feel. Just loving how much fuller our family feels with three.
Scan seemed to be ok and the sonographer didn't seem alarmed at anything, but she had a bit of a poker face, so I hope the report she sends to the GP is as bland as her manner. If I don't hear from the GP this week then all should be well, as I have an appt with her on Monday. I got a picture of the baby, which is weird because when I had u/s with DS they were still quite rough around the edges, technology-wise, and had none with DD and this one I could see has DD's face and mouth shape...it felt like looking at a Christmas present too early! Anyway, I don't believe I've opened the gates to a cascade of intervention at this stage, so fingers crossed!
Seems like it went ok then, SJ. I've had ultrasounds every baby but the pics are still weird to me. I take them, and I look at them, but it never really feels like my baby.
I wish you could just order the umbilical ties on ebay. I am so unbelievably un-crafty that the idea of making one seems overwhelming. But now if I have to use a plastic clip I will see it and feel like a failure of a mother. ;)
SJ fingers crossed for no contact from the GP :)
Special. Is there a photo of what you are looking for? I'm happy to make you something.... Can't have a fellow mother feeling like a failure! It takes a village and all that to raise a child ;)
Oh Tegam, I just teared up at your beautiful offer. I am not normally like that, but somehow having people out there that are thinking of me and Pixel (that's the baby's name for now) makes me feel protected and cared for.
I just googled and found these.
If they weren't coming from the US I would just order, but I am 41 weeks tomorrow so a bit late for overseas shipping.
Yep, I'm definitely taking it as a good sign that the sonographer gave nothing away!
DP must be happy with how I'm growing this baby, after all, because he's gone out with the kids to help them ride the pony...and left me finishing my glass of wine inside...
My niece makes this type of tie, but as a friendship bracelet/anklet - I might ask her to send me some :)
can you plait hair?
they look similar to mine, and all i did was plait 3 strands of embroidery cotton (so 3 x 3 strands) with a knot at each end. I would also be happy to send you one tomorrow if you can't get what you need. how long will baby hang in there? are you in Melbourne?
Go on, Spesh, PM them your address and get loved up :)
Now I have to have another just to use that instead of a plastic clamp!
Oh Hoti if you have one then at 41weeks there is no time to delay or yes Special just pm me you details and ill make one tomorrow :) I have a lot of colours so just give me an idea of what you'd like :)
Eenee I thought the same thing and then went oops I already am......
SJ- I am glad that you had a positive sonogram. Fingers crossed that there isn't something there that the sonographer didn't mention.
Special, how cute are you! I hope the lovely Tegum is able to whip something up for you and get it there quick smart before baby arrives! Lots of birth blessings to. It won't be very long now!
Hot1 - how you doing mamma? How far along are you now?
This place really does a special bunch of ladies. :)
I can't PM - I presume because I don't have enough post. My email is justlivATgmail.com if that's ok to post.
Liv is my real name. ;)
I am in Melbourne, or technically just outside it by 10 minutes.
I think I have at least a few more days of being pregnant, but my middle boy turns 7 tomorrow and he is really hoping for a baby Brother as a present.
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This is a pic of where i am planning to birth. The table will be moved out and replaced with the birth pool. The purple 'curtain' provides a wall between the lounge and kitchen.
I am 38.5 weeks, not feeling much action, but still have the idea that i won't go to 41 weeks. Time might still prove me wrong ;) I have passed few things that i wanted to do before baby arrived (first day of kinder, dr appt for DS, only dh's bday to go but i don't mind if baby comes on that day (he isn't so keen)). Have planned something to celebrate this weekend, and hoping i can then let go and birth this bub.
Took car seats out of car today and washed them all. Will replace them in car with set up for baby. the best combo has DS in the middle, so hoping he will be ok next to the baby.
What a lovely space!! I can't wait to get my space ready and to kick the kids out of the loungeroom :)
Those cod ties look lovely! I think I'll do the same. I have touch sensitivities so I always spent ages trying to arrange the plastic clamp to try and get it off baby's belly as it looked so uncomfortable to me.
Your birth space looks so lovely HotI. I still haven't decided where I want to birth in this house.
Our best car seat arrangement is going to have baby in the middle! I hope I can get them in and out okay and the two older kids leave the baby alone :/
I think he might get his Birthday wish. I woke up to my waters breaking at about 3:30am. It wasn't a lot, but a bit more came later. I eventually went back to sleep, but now I am wide awake.:
I'm sitting in that funny limbo land of wanting contractions to start, yet not actually wanting them to start.
I am so much more nervous than with any of my other 3.
My midwife is coming sooner rather than later, so hopefully when she is here I can let go a bit. Poor thing just worked a night shift.
How very exciting! Blessings for a beautiful birth, Special.
Oh wow special! How exciting. Will be stalking.... What do we do about the tie? Wonder if you use a clamp for a day or so. Ill still email you and we'll figure something out!
Probably very hard to get into the right place to birth on another child's birthday, you probably had the day planned out how you thought it would go, the joys of having more than one child. Your body will help you prioritise when the time is right! Happy birthing