Is it that separation stuff that happens about 9months? Maybe you just need to move a cot into your room for a few weeks so if she wakes she knows you are there (that is if you dont co sleep - if you do im fresh out of ideas :rofl:):
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Is it that separation stuff that happens about 9months? Maybe you just need to move a cot into your room for a few weeks so if she wakes she knows you are there (that is if you dont co sleep - if you do im fresh out of ideas :rofl:):
But your pregnant, now is the time to say whatever you want!:
tegam: we are on the same wavelength! the girls are sharing a room now and if Marta can hear Leila she is all good. but if not then she gets really upset. so then i go in and cuddle her back to bed. then if/when she doesnt go to sleep after that then she comes back in with us :)
You are such a lovely mummy! You should be proud of how much you care!:
A little vent, but open audience doesn't always get it. I love my Mum, we get along pretty well and always have. But, her stories of birth and women's issues just make me cringe. It is like she thinks the female body is revolting and so flawed and we are so lucky that interventions are available. A cousin recently had a baby, 'got so torn up' cos 'she is so tiny' 'should have had a c section' 'had the biggest placenta they had ever seen' blah blah blah. it's the conclusions i get annoyed at, so much that i discount most of what she says and i don't like doing that.
Sometimes she surprises me, by speaking of and agreeing with activism, then this other stuff comes out again.
HotI: I understand where your coming from and it's so frustrating when people see birth that way. Maybe she needs to see videos of smaller women giving birth to big babies or something! Sorry no real advice but definitely understand how annoying it is.
oh that must be so frustrating HotI :( My mum is really onboard with the natural birth thing so I'm lucky that we're on the same page with that, but definitely some of my friends and workmates are the opposite and I find that really difficult to be around sometimes :S:
Vent away hot1. I don't even bother with my mum. Were not close and she doesn't get it. I don't want to have to explain it to her and she doesn't understand. Before I understood why my sister hb'd she and I would always talk about how crazy she was, so I know she doesn't understand so I just don't open myself up to that convo.
Anyway this isn't my vent. I think having low expectations of most people's ability to understand hb especially when u r preg and just trying to be positive, is a good way of not being dissapointed. Then if they are cool about it it is a bonus.
Xx Bella
HotI: i am sure that most of her comments are not malicious but probably more that it is about access to information. I know that if it werent for BB I would probably have some fairly crazy ideas still (even though I was always pro HB etc etc). I know that for my Mum, us having a HB was a big big learning curve and even then only a few days off the actual birth (she was staying with us to help out with Leila and be a support figure for me), she still came out with doozers like (but what if she poos? - having had me when enemas were the par for the course lol). it was really frustrating as I was still very adamant about creating only a positive and supportive space for me emotionally and physically and those comments, although mostly flippant were really rocking.
FWIW, my mum and i had a huge fight the day before DD2 was born and that got it all out and we were all good :lol: (that said i dont recommend letting build up for as long as i did...big pregnant crying can actually hurt the ol' stomach muscles lol).
:hug: Cassius. Not very supportive or helpful to hear! I make it my mission to never impart horror stories of pg, birth, or babies to any of my gfs, particularly not those pg with their first! Why do people need to hear negative, drama-laden versions of someone else's experiences?
I'm sure you'll have a great HB story to share with her very shortly. ;) I love watching the HB videos on youtube, they always make birth look like such a fabulous, life changing experience. Completely centres me and lines up with my expectations.
hoti vent as much as you need too!
It never cease to amaze me how many people have forgotten what a vagina is meant for ::duh::duh:
Speaking of someone who knows how to use her VJJ
SIL went to hospital at 12noon...had baby at 2pm...home by 4pm she reckons! Little GIRL i think her name will be Zoe... She has a big sister called Claire!
Im an aunty again WOOHOO
awww congratulations Aunty Tegam!! :):
If you had to transfer post birth, due to bleeding or damage, would you have to strap baby in the car seat? I reckon that would be safest but i don't know that i would want to so soon after birth.
just my random thought for the day.
i was up over night vomiting and have spent the day on the couch. tummy settled a bit and i had a piece of toast an hour ago that stayed down. would be nice i was feeling baby now so i could just check they were doing ok.
HotI, I guess if you were in an ambulance you would just hold bubba? I was going to say that it seems too soon for my liking, then I realized that DD was only 3 hours old when we drove home and she went in the car seat (for the whole 3 blocks lol). Hope you are feeling better - is it a bug or morning sickness?
Yeah, i thought about people who head home from hospital soon after birth too. Our trip would prob be 45 mins plus, but not gonna need that anyway :crossfingers:
Tummy bug i think, DD and DH don't have it so not sure where it came from. We have all eaten similar food.
When DD was taken in an ambulance at six weeks I sat in the back and held her. Can't remember if I was strapped in or not. Was nothing serious in the end, thank goodness.
we went home after 4hrs with dd2 and then home from hospital with dd3 after 2hrs...they seem so small in the carseats. depends on why you were being transfered i guess. if bub is unwell then it would be on the bed or they call a baby ambulance that would have a humidicrib in it (youd have to be near a big city for this) or if you were unwell i guess it wouldnt be safe for you to hold the baby......
lets just go with...you wont be needing that!