Hi,
Some very interesting points and observations.
Milk "drying up' is basically a myth. Breastfeeding is actually a very sturdy system. It's based on a very simple principle of supply and demand. When you feed the baby you make more milk.
Unfortunately we live in a society with a very low level of knowledge about how breastfeeding works. And a society with a very low level of knowledge of normal baby behaviour. Basically, we live in a bottle feeding culture. This leads women to doubt their body's ability to make milk. This is reinforced by friends, family, and health professionals who urge a mother to "top her baby up with formula"
Most women tend to have an abundance of milk in the early day, usually enough for a couple of babies. Over time, her body "down'regulates" so that it very exactly matches the needs of her baby. When the initial fullness and engorgement abates, mothers sometimes feel that they don't have enough milk.
Baby's behaviour changes. Often, especially when babies are born with the use of drugs and instruments babies are very sleepy in the first couple of weeks. The family support network often percieve this as "good" behaviour (it's probably more abnormal behaviour) When the baby "wakes up" and becomes quite demanding after a couple of weeks, often the mother's milk supply is called in to question. Actually, it is the demanding baby who is the "good" baby - it will be ensuring it gets enough to eat.
Breastfed babies grow more quickly in the first 3 months, but then their weightgain plateus out at about 3 months. Our current infant growth charts do not acurately reflect this, so this is also a time when mothers may feel their milk supply is not keeping up.
Often mothers will "test" themselves by pumping to see how much milk they have. This will tell you very little in fact. It sets up a stressful situation. Think about the last time you went to the doctor and they handed you a specimen jar and asked for a urine sample. Anyone have "Let down" problems? Luckily, the dr did not reach the conclusion that you didn't make enough urine - just that you were stressed. Some women find it difficult to let down for a pump, and stress will often inhibit milk letdown.
When baby is really not getting enough (as ascertained by low weight gain after ruling out any medical possiblities) I find that very often strict routines and sleep settling scenarios are implicated. Babies need to fee a lot - 8-12 times in 24 hrs is normal. Babies who are fed according to their needs fare much better.
As a baby becomes more aware of their world (often about 4 mnths) they will tend to "stickybeak" rather than feed. It can take calm and patience to get through a feed. This is a common time for breast refusal. I won't even pretend that I know what 4 mnth old babies are thinking when they refuse to feed, but I do know it's temporary, they won't starve themselves and it will pass!
Some babies sleep through the night unusually early (sleeping through before 6mnths is pretty uncommon) and they they start to wake up again. Many parents feel this must be hunger (maybe, maybe not! - if they are sleeping away from you, they may just want to be with you, and I'm sure every baby knows that if mums nipple is in his mouth, mummy's not going anywhere!)
If you are fully brestfeeding it is somewhat uncommon for your period to return before 6 months. Hormonal changes due to you period and ovulation may result in babies being fussier at the breast, but doesn't really reduce supply. Pregnancy will, though!
There are some medical conditions that may compromise milk production. It's always hard to comment on some-one who says that their milk just dried up. There are so many factors involved - not something you can generally get to the bottom of in a quick conversation at the Health Centre.
Hope some of that helps
Regards
Barb
