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Hi all, thought I'd jump in too. I'm no so new either. I'm 21, my partner is 26, and we're trying for our first. It's funny what society see's as young now. 50 years ago young was the norm, funny how times change.

HI I'm Ellie I'm 20 Dp is 25. I had my first bub Tyler when I was 17 and second bub Paige when I was 19. We live in the logan area in Brisbane. I'm also another that hates the way society looks at me for being a young mum.


Ellie

We'll i've "set up" my career in which i finished my apprenticeship before we thought about starting a family so if in the future i decide to go back to work i've got my trade to fall back on. That was always my plan, i didnt want to half finish it or give it up i would have regretted it. As it turned out i finished my apprenticeship only a few weeks before i fell pregnant

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I don't know if i'm young anymore!!!

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lol!! thats what I was thinking when I posted ,but I think we still qaulify! My dd is 6 aswell, its weird being the mother of a school child, but I am really happy it is that way.
Congrats to all the new mummies and mummies to be. Enjoy it, sometimes I wish I could have it all over again..its such a wonderful time. Its good to see so many happy and comfortable young mums. I dont know many people IRL that are my age with kids my age. All my friends drifted fom me when my life took a different turn, so I rarely see them now even though they are starting to become mums themselves.
good luck everyone.

Hi everyone,
I was 19 when I had my first bub, 21 when no 2 was born and 24 when the 3rd bub was born. I am a nurse and i am studying for my degree. I was working and i will go back to it fairly soon. Young mums do alot more than society likes to think and i am sick of not getting any recognition for having a go! My kids are not neglected and they thrive from having a cariety of family members included in their lives. We are paying off our own house and doing a bit of renovating.
Bec

Hello to everyone that's dropped in here recently!
Would be great to hear more of everyone's stories of being a young mum.
I myself am terribly excited to having being in the midst of achieving the one 'true ambition' i have set for myself, and cannot wait to raise my own family.
Sounds like all the already-mothers are doing a fantastic job, and you're all very inspiring to an almost-mum like me =)

ETA: Bec, congrats on birth of new bubby Toby!

Hi girls.....My name is Leah i'm 26, DH is 32 ... we have been together for 10years & married for 5 years.

I was 21 when we welcomed our first little bubba into the world & 24 when our second little bubba came along....we also lost a bubba when i was 23.

Sounds like everyone is doing a great job!!!!

I can't wait to be a mummy....When I was little mum would say to me "what do you want to be when you grow up Nina?" and I'd say "A mummy just like you" I can't even begin to believe that there are women out there who would rather have a job over a child. It just doesn't make sense.

I'm really excited but nervous at the same time about the whole birthing process. I watched a vid on the net last night about a c section....it didn't look that bad (as bad as surgery can look) I just want to be prepared and know everything about it just in case it is un avoidable. I plan to have an active birth with midwifery care. Standing up and moving around as much as I can. What about the rest of you ladies? What are your plans?

I'm trying to be as educated as possible between now and then, so i am fully aware of what risks there are, and how they become more preventable etc.
I want to spend as much time at home as possible (being bombarded by medical staff will just irritate me, stress me out, and hence prolonging labour), but as it will be my first birth, and at this stage i don't know what my body is capable of, and how fast things are likely to progress, i don't know how smoothly this idea will run.
I am aiming to have a completely drug-free labour. I've heard some inspiring stories from my mum, and she went without, so i have an instilled belief that i can do it to. I can understand there are times when it may be unavoidable, as may a C-section (my worst fear of labour, i am absolutely terrified of surgery), but i have discussed things with DF and am thinking about a doula/birth attendant to assist me in sticking with these goals.
I also would like an actively managed birth, movement as much as possible, use of bath and shower etc... the stories i have read about waterbirthing have made me feel very confident that the use of water to be calm and tranquil - so to speak - will be of great assistance to relaxation whilst in labour. I'd also like to do some yoga classes between now and then, but i think i'm getting a little ambitious :P
I am highly discouraged by the idea of a c-section, and if it becomes necessary, it is going to ruin my birthing experience. As i mentioned, i am terrified of surgery and for a c-section i would be requesting to be put to sleep, i could not handle being awake on the table. Which would then mean i would not see my beautiful baby for a few hours and etc... I still planned to be as informed as possible, and if on the day, i feel that i can 'handle it' i will, but i just think i would end up freaking out.
The only query i do have is, is it technically considered a 'natural, drug free' birth if you have the synthetic oxytocin injection for third stage delivery?? I know that breastfeeding the baby is the body's natural stimulant for producing the oxytocin itself, but as i don't know all that much about PPH and how likely one is to suffer from it, etc, i am unsure whether turning it down is a good idea... And then the way i see it is, i've gotten through the hard part, i've birthed a baby, all pain no drugs, if the oxytocin is not pain relief, is it ok?
Sorry for my long ramble!!!

Sorry I haven't been back on here to chat after starting the thread. How is everyone?
Since then my DS has been diagnosed with partial epilepsy, but he's not so bad. Just a bit delayed with his walking and has never crawled.
I am also now single. It is the best thing for all concerned, so I know I have made the right choice.
Anyways, how are you and your bubbas all going???

Hello my name is Sally and my partner and i are both 21. We were both 20 when Brendan was born. (my partner's bday is the day after Brendans) We've been together 3 years engaed for 2 at Xmas. I'm 14wks preggers with our 2nd.

:clap:It's nice to see theres a place for younger mums to talk. My lil man was born premature at 30wks. When he finally came home I was doing some shopping in Perth and the amount of people that stop and stare was just stupid. I even had one mum in the parents room say to me, how nice looking after your little brother. Grrr, I was like hes my son.:wall:

Anyway starting to ramble.

Take care!:D

Hi Sally!
It sounds really familiar, everyone in my family seems to have had babies young-ish, and people always assumed my grandmother was my mum. As a child, I used to be embarrassed by it, but then you come to realise all the societal expectations seem to point to it being the norm.
My mum and i are 40 and 21 in the same year, and my grandma will be 62! My Late Nan (or great nan rather) would have been 84 next year, so we've been deflecting young mothers' criticism for years and i'm proud to carry on what seems to have become tradition. LOL :P

Ash, I just turned 21 last month, and my mum turns 40 in December :-) My grandma is 65 or 66 (can't remember lol :p) so I come from a line of young mums too :D I just hope my turn comes round soon... I get a few funny looks from woman in the fertility clinic too...

ashnat- i jsut want to say goodluck with wanting to have a natural birth and i really hope it is something that you can achieve so pls dont take offence to this:
Quote-I am highly discouraged by the idea of a c-section, and if it becomes necessary, it is going to ruin my birthing experience. As i mentioned, i am terrified of surgery and for a c-section i would be requesting to be put to sleep
Dont be too scared it's honestly not that bad. I wanted a natural birthing exp with my 1st but ended up with an emergency cs after 15+ hrs of labour, i was induced 12 days past my edd and had a terrible time. I was so scared when i was told i was having a cs i was crying and so was DH but looking back i barely remember the surgery as such now. I am having an elective cs this time around for medical reasons which i am a little disappointed in as i wanted a vbac but at the end of the day it doesnt matter how bubs gets here as long as its safely. If you are certain you will be wanting to be put to sleep in the event of needing a cs maybe you could pm Nadine216 as i know she was givin a general and regrets it as such.
As i said goodluck for the natural birth and i truly hope you get it but if things dont go to plan i'm sure you would cope with a cs.

STUFF EM ALL I SAY!!!! God..........How rude and ignorant of people!!!! It's LIFE!

Anyway best thing to do is just laugh it off. I mean how childish and immature do they look? Just because we are young doesn't mean that we know any less about being parents. I'm just glad that when Cohen is 20 we will still be young and be able to have lives of our own and not old farts!!! (Not that my mum is an old fart)

Thats cool Tegan. Not so cool about lill bubba. Great news that it is only mild though. Good that you have everything sorted and you have done the right thing. Your very strong. XXXX

my mum was 23 when I was born and her mum was 16. I believe it is easier for younger mums to cope with a newborn. Brendan was born just less than 3 months after my cousin. my Aunt is 34 and she had every test and stressed to the absolute max about their baby, She had so many troubles due to stress. She wouldn't let her baby even cry a little, she was instantly picked up and walked around the house as if she was hysterical!!

Older mums are "set in their ways" they have a routine and particular ways they like to do things. A baby was very disrupting for my Aunt. Where as for me, i had no routine, was just going with the flow. Having Brendan was scary and a difficult exp(I've written a thread in birth stories for those interested), but I've never had a problem with fitting into his routine.

I wanted my kids young, so that once they are old enough to look after themselves, I'm still young enough to have a career, or go out night clubbing with friends and travel. When Brendan is 16 nigel and I will be 36. Still young....

I think people tend to forget what things were like back in their day. We have so much more support, ect available for us. And those who think we have kids for the money are absolute idiots, how stupid do they think we are? I know of a couple of young girls (15/16) who got PG for the money, but they are a minority. For me, I couldn't care less. If the gov took the family pay off me, I'd still make it work and I'd still have more kids.

Anyways starting to ramble on AGAIN...
lol:D

BTW by older mums I mean those who start later.

Oh and Ashnant, congrats. I used to call Brendan "jelly bean" before he was bron. lol