young mum or not ?

Thanks Hun, i am now 8 weeks pregnant and i told my mum last ngiht and she is actually pretty excited. Thansk for your support and congrats on the birth of your little boy:)

congratulations sweetie, what a great EDD, that's my son's birthday :P

I realise this forums a bit old, but nonetheless, i think it's fantastic! Obviosuly there's always going to be people that look down on you, because of your age, because they don't think you know what you're doing, that you haven't had enough life experience, etc etc.
Now, being 20 and pregnant myself, i get frustrated mostly by my mother's skepticism, which is disappointing, because like you, mum had me when she was 18. She's always lecturing me on not getting too attached to my partner and to be weary of the fact, that whilst he may be working and doing what he can now he'll probably be terribly scared or bugger off once the baby's born (my biological father did that, and i don't know him at all). I understand where she's coming from, but it makes it really hard for me. Her whole view of romance is tainted, which i also understand, and i know she wants the best for me, but its also making it hard on DF because he's always just offended!
Whilst i know she is right, i don't think being 21 or 45 makes you any less or more likely to run off on a partner with a child, if you've never had any children before.
But back to the point, I thought it was fantastic having my mum so close to my in age (and her younger sister in only nine years older than me, which meant i grew up with a big sister anyway). She's always been more understanding, and accepting of my issues than most of my friends parents who are all pushing onto the age of my grandparents! I have friends, whose parents would absolutely die to think they were even DTD, but my mum was the type to sit me down before i trotted off to uni and forced me to go to the doctor and go on the pill. She also got pregnant on the pill, so it was a lot easier for her to understand when i broke the news :S
Good luck with TTC, from what i've seen the BB ladies are all very supportive!

Oh and congratulations!@
I obviously didn't read far enough!

thanks so much hun. I have had a few people make some sly comments about it but all i have to say is it has nothing to do with them and i know i am going to be a great mum and if by any chance my DP and i go our seperate ways i know he will always be a part of my babies life. I know that if i was to be on my own i would be able to support both me and the bub comfortably.

I think it is rude for people to judge just because they are a bit younger than most women that are starting a family. If you look back in time is was normal for women to start having children and age 16, yes times have changed but who is anyone to judge you if they don't know you. All my Aunt, Uncles and cousins that i ahve told have all said to me yeh it was a bit of a shock BUT you were meant to be a mum you are great with children and i know you will make a teriffic role model to your child. Everytime someone said this to me i would cry (prob just pregnancy hormones) becasue i felt that they beleived in and they supported me with out any hesitation.

Some young women that fall pregant that weren't planning on startign a family i really feel for them and the reason i say this is because what has happened has happened and a lot of people just give them the cold shoulder and say nasty things about them. Rather than critism they need support and people these day actually look at them as say well you ahve just stuff up your life. I dont beleive this is the case at all. IF they get the support they need then they will make it through and will make great parents. My cousin had her bub at 16 she is now 22 and is studying to be a doctor, she is a perfect wife and the most loving mother.

Anyway enough with my rambling on. Thanks so much for your support and i hope that you have a safe and healthy prengnancy. Don't worrying about your mum i am sure when your bub comes along and she sees how great you are at being a mum and how great your Df is at being a daddy she will eat her own words and apologise.

Well, i do agree that some young women can think they want all those things and end up being wrong in six months, but you really sound like you have it together. Physical age is nothing to mental age, my mother is 43 and still acts like a teenager at times, my friends joke about who the mother is, me or her..
I met my husband when i was 17 i fell pregnant a few months later and we married 2 months after my 18th birthday. He is 10 years older then me.
I am now 22 and expecting our third baby. We've made it work through commitment, love and will. It is sometimes hard as i dont have as many years experience as others but then generally speaking someone who is 30 has the same experience with kids as someone our age which is not much at all.
I remember my best friend's mum saying once that you never really feel 100% ready and confident since regardless of your age its still a learning experience, its just we're doing it now rather then later.
I do sometimes wish i had waited a year or two before starting with the kids so i'd had the chance to finish growing up fully myself but then again sometimes the best way to learn is to throw yourself in the deep end, so long as you've got some kind of support, which i had my husband and you obviously have your man too.

Don't worry what other people think, if you know in your heart that you want a child now, then go for it. The family will be happy and get used to the idea. I am 21, my DF is also 21. We have an 8 1/2 month old and I am 16 weeks pg. It's the best thing in the world, being a mum!

Just thought I'd pop in and say congratulations, I got a lot of comments and once you're holding your lil bubby they don't matter you can look at your precious lil bubby and thibk 'bleep you all look at this perfect little being I made' I cry sometimes while looking into my sons eyes just out of happiness tell them to bugger off and enjoy your pregnancy :)

congrats darl! 17 weeks now! are u going to find out what ur having?