Missren, My clinic was much like yours, talked up the single embryo transfer like they never would consider doing two... until the number of embryos available became apparent.
I only had 3 eggs (from 8 follicles) and although they all fertilized, one looked dodgy from the start. On day two, they gave us the choice of one on day three, two on day three, or wait til day 5. We chose to wait, on the understanding from the embryologist who was on on day 2 that if they didn't make it to day 5, they wouldn't have survive in my womb either. So we hoped for one to t/f and one to freeze. But on day 3, a different embryologist was on, and he rang me and suggested we reconsider, as he thought that they might well do much better in the womb than in the lab. One looked great, one was barely ok, and the third even more dodgy. He and my FS conferred, and suggested that we transfer the better 2 embies that day, despite the short notice. I'm 37, though age was not mentioned as a factor in the decision.
So we did that, aware that there was an increased chance of twins, and we got our bfp at the start of January. I find out tomorrow if it's one or two hearts beating in there!
My advice would be - at least for the first cycle or two - to have only one transferred unless you are both quite willing to take the risks of a twin pg, and the hard work of twin babies. But you may be given choices and advice that changes, depending on what happens with your embryos leading up to transfer. If you are at areputable clinic, they will not want to take a significant risk of you having twins, either, so talk to the embryologists and FS if you have to make a tough decision. Good luck!
