thread: Need to Vent

  1. #1
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    Jan 2012
    Central Victoria

    Angry Need to Vent

    Hi all, I apoligise for the negative thread but need to vent a little. I'm currently on Zoladex and awaiting surgery for Endometriosis which is in about 4 1/2 weeks I'm fairly emotional due to the Zoladex which isn't helping right now but as I will be starting IVF after surgery I have only just found out about the requirements of having to have a police check and child protection check done!! I am outraged. Ok i have nothing to hide but i'm sure the majority felt this way too when they found out but I had no idea. I cannot believe that couples who are unfortunate enough to need assistance to have a baby are being discrimated against... I just can't believe it....

  2. #2
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    Oct 2007
    Middle Victoria

    Yeah, it is a pretty **** requirement.

  3. #3

    Jun 2010
    District Twelve

    I agree. Totally ridiculous and discriminatory.

  4. #4
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    Jan 2009
    Hunter Valley

    Omg i didnt realise this. Hugs to you & your partner

  5. #5
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    Jul 2006

    Yeah, it;s rubbish and we went through it too..... Thank one of the minority government parties (family first, I think) for that legislation. If you have always lived in Australia then it is really quick but if you've lived o/seas it can take quite some time.

  6. #6
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    May 2009

    Yep, it's a real slap in the face! I think it's only Victoria that requires it, or has that changed?

    GL with your lap. I had a lap for my endo and then did IVF(#5) 2 months later and that cycle gave us DD. I hope your IVF cycle is as successful.

  7. #7
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    Oct 2009

    you are right it is an awful requirement for you to go through, im in NSW and we don't have to do it, not fair that its different rules for different states

  8. #8
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    Oct 2006
    In a house, on a hill with a big fat welcome mat!

    Hugs it's bad considering that no one else has to tick that box to have children. Totally ridiculous.
    I would start the process now as it can take some time.

  9. #9
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    Feb 2008
    Near the Snowies!

    Stupid.. If that's the case then shouldn't every potential parent (whether going through IVF or not) have to do the same thing!
    GL with your procedure and everything to follow!

  10. #10
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    Nov 2011
    SE Melbourne

    I'm probably going against convention.... but.... TBH, I didn't mind at all... I'm kinda glad to know that they get them done.... Don't get me wrong, I do think it sucks that 'anyone' can get pregnant, and I can't.... but I prefer to know that children are being 'artificially' being brought into the world into families that don't have a record of child abuse.... not to say that there won't still be crappy parents in the group, but at least there is no prior history of causing terrible pain to innocent children...

    just my humble opinion though... i get why people don't like it.... it just never bothered me....

    bothers me more that those 'others' can get pregnant so easily...!

  11. #11
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    Apr 2010
    Brisbane, Australia

    Wow- I never knew that about Victoria! I'm in Qld and we didn't have to get it done. I can understand why you feel cr@ppy!!

  12. #12
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    Jan 2012
    Central Victoria

    I'm glad i'm not the only one that thinks it sucks!! I've sent away for the checks so hopefully by the time i'm ready to start IVF all that will be back and there shouldn't be any hold ups....Thanks everyone for your well wishes too

  13. #13
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    Nov 2009
    Scottish expat living in Geelong

    I actually think that is disgusting and I'm so sorry you have to justify yourself before you can get pregnant.

  14. #14

    Dec 2006

    Yes, when the rule was first introduced there was an absolute outcry (Zoladex or not!). It's ridiculous and waste of time and money for sure. It's a VIC rule only i think.

    At least you know now and can get it underway. I know people who have had to postpone cycles because their check had not been completed.