Update!! Not Happy Jan!!!
Were now angry with IVF. Reason....... only yesterday, we found out and only by shear accident I might add (was calling the nurse about something else and she innocently said something assuming obviously that I knew) that they dont always test the embryos!!!!! I was like WTF!!!! What I was told was, If they dont like the look of the embryo because their looking a little shaky in that if they biopsy them they might inevatibly kill them doing so (Embryo isnt strong enough to withstand the biopsy and then transfer), they wont test for the Gene!!!! However the flip side of this is they still might be viable to return to my uterus and might still possibly make it resulting in a pregnancy. But this is where it gets interesting and we never ever knew that, we then have the choice to take the chance and implant one anyway untested!!!!
GRRR we have been under the impression the whole time that they are tested regardless. No one at any stage explained this to us. Having this information I rang the specialist to talk to him. So, the fertility specialist rang me today to kind of give me more info etc. He basically said that yes we need to wait and see tomorrow and if they dont like the look of them and their unstable so to speak, they wont test them however that doesnt mean we still cant transfer one back!!!!! He also said and I agree with him that if we didnt transfer just because they werent tested, it's kind of a wasted opportunity and or wasted embryos etc because we still have the kind of good only 50/50 chance that it would end up with the gene. If we were left with that option, that means at at 9 to 12wks pregnant, we need to go through pre natal screening to see if the baby has the gene, amnicentis type test. Hmmmm Not an easy decision as the specialist also agreed.
So, were not happy at all because were now in a situation where we need to make a decision NOW but not only that, DH is down the coast visiting his Brother in Bega and I had to explain all of this to him over the phone and we had to come to a decision. What makes us angry is that We totally understand that its not 100% guanteed and were not angry that they wouldn't test, were angry that we werent told this from the beginning. If we were told this, we may not have gone through with the IVF and tried our luck naturally instead, saving us a whopping $12,500.
After having a chat over the phone and weighing up the pros and cons, we agreed that should they tell us they wont test them but they will transfer, we will transfer!!! DH and I agreed in that we had already decided that should this go have been cancelled like the first one, which in the beginning it was looking that way, we would try naturally. That said, I also said to him that we are already committed to the $$$ but then I was like but if it wasnt tested and we put it back and the baby did have the gene, what a waste of $$$$. But then again, I said but there is still the chance that it wouldnt take even if it was tested and then $$$ and no success was just the same so its not a waste of money.
Hmmm not a happy day before final update!!!