How do you find the strength....

you know i have had 4 mc and my dh said " well it must get easier" i punched him , don't worry.

the thing is probably more women do have mc but we just don't talk about it. why? i don't know.
there isn't really a lot of people to talk to it about and i hated people ringing me up about it, i know it was only caring but i found it very intruding, people who i hardly knew! friends was ok.

it's so hard and i've cried so much because of it. i don't really tell anyone except my sis and a couple of friends i am pg. i wait til 12 weeks for everyone else and for me personally i hated telling everyone.

i send all my love to those who have lost a baby. those special little angels. hugs to you.

it does get easier. over time. xxoo

Just popping in to give you all a big 'HUG'.

Day by day my sweets...that's all you can do...you never forget...but the pain changes...the 'rawness' is replaced and each breath gets that little bit easier...your heart is changed forever as our precious angels settle in to their special place where they will stay for always xxx

thanks ellie and jbm

I'm so glad i found bellybelly!

Don't give up Emma!

Isn't it funny the way we are surrounded by women who have had similar experiences, yet it's not really the sort of thing that is generally discussed in polite society?

What did women do in the days before Belly Belly??

I hope that you get your baby one day.

baby dust to you.

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Don't give up Emma!

Isn't it funny the way we are surrounded by women who have had similar experiences, yet it's not really the sort of thing that is generally discussed in polite society?

What did women do in the days before Belly Belly??

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we suffered in silence. yesterday, i mentioned to my sister in an email that i was now a size 14. she asked why, and i emaild back (trying to make light of it) "three miscarriages and a thyroid problem"

she just emailed back "wait till you get to my age"

no mention of m/c, no sympathy, nothing. just ignored my comment.

Hi buliej- just popping in to say i am thinking of you...glad you got that appt too (we must have posted at the same time the other day, because I hadnt seen your comment when iposted mine!)..... hang in there...it willget easier

Hi Everyone,
Once again, I just wanted to add to this thread. trying to go on is really hard, not being able to fall pg is just such an issue alltogether. However, I have made some really tough decisions lately & I feel better for it. As mentioned before, I Direct a child care centre and it is painful, although I love my job, it is just to heartbreaking, I just cannot seem to move on from my m/c. Anyway, today I went and saw my boss & I resigned, how scary, I really dont have anyhting to go to, but I automatically feel that is a weight lifted of my shoulders, seeing those children everyday just killed me. I also have seeked counciling (through SIVF) and again, are starting to feel better. I just want to be in the right frame of mind when starting my next cycle (which is Jan). This is a decision which I thought I would never make but when you are dealing with children and trying to have one...you really do need to put things in perspective.
I just had to share my story & of course seek support, :grouphug: hoping that I have made the right decsion, it does feel right & I have the support of family & friends (including my boss!) which makes it better.

I hope all you ladies have support around you, as coming into Christmas...well it is always a hard time no matter what stage we are at.

Shell xo

Shell08 - if you feel better and like a weight has been lifted, you absolutely made the right decision. You should be very proud of yourself for putting yourself first - it's actually not that easy to do!

Buliej-yes you are right, it is damn hard to put yourself first, i did not realise how difficult it would be but what a relief, how strong we all are!
Shell xo