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Hi Possums,
It's interesting that your work have said about reducing your hours - it may be that they are trying to be supportive, but employers have to be very careful about what they say and do. If you are meeting your job commitments then they certainly can't insist that you reduce your hours or alter your job in any way.
I have had interesting times with my work too - a few weeks back when my cycle was cancelled (our first cycle all up) I took two days off as we were in complete shock. My boss called me in for a meeting on my second day back and they have put together a letter about what happened and they also want an update on my treatment options - which I find quite intrusive (I have yet to put a reply in writing back to them). I also have depression (well controlled) and it was kind of assumed that the IVF had affected my depression, which is annoying as my reaction was quite within the 'normal' realms.
In all this though, I do believe they have my best interests at heart, but at the same time I am not going to let them cross any line that I think is unreasonable - and neither should you. If you feel that you are being pressured to reduce your hours contact your trade union, or employee ombudsmand/advocate etc to get some advice.
Take care,
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AF came on sat, start e gonal f 2day, 75iu. endo 4cm. grow follies, grow
Aleenta - :welcome:
Bel - :goodluck2: on TF
Oscaroscar - my treatment start on my next AF cycle, after all those BT to see im OK. for DH, :sperm: test n BT
Babydreamtime - :goodluck: on ur ET.
kateB -& possum - tell me abt ur werkplace, i've got MC after ET n my company didnt recognise it. reason being, i did not go to company GP. Ive got to pen down wat really happen to me jus to get the MC recognise. till to date, my MC is still pending.
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Hi girls
so good to see some newbies here, welcome all but hope we get to see you in the pregnancy forums before too long.
marsha, KateB and Possums, my heart goes out to you for struggling with work as well as AC - as if we girls dont take on enough stress in our lives!
Bel, :pray: for your ET, lets hope this one gets you a BFP!
hugs to all, A.
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Hi All,
Possums- How are things going with you? I agree with how you are feeling with what your boss said. There is a really fine line between caring and being intrusive and suggestive of your work suffering due to your treatment. I have found for me I have to take time off work to do a cycle because of my job. I do find it so much easier though not having to worry about juggling work while doing a cycle. So yeah, the suggestion of time off could be great..but only if they are suggesting for the right reason (sorry for the rambling!!)
Kelly- You are so lucky your boss is so understanding. This must make this terribly hard journey just that little bit easier for you. Wish all our bosses were like yours!! But yeah I too understand that being off without pay creates another level of stress. I take so much time away from my job and have lost that much money now it's amazing.
Baby Dreamtime- My embies are getting thawed tomorrow. I have 4 frozen at blastie..day 6...I think they are just about to hatch actually. So my last cycle was fresh and I had 2 blasties transferred then. The remaining 4 were frozen the day of my last transfer. You are I will be in the TWW together..I'm sure we'll get to know each other better then. Just a pre- warning...I tend to go bonkers in there!!
Kahlan- I hope AF arrives soon so you can get going soon.
Kate- Great advice to Possums regarding her work situation.
Marsha- Good to see all is starting for you.
All my other friends, sending you a big hug and thinking of you all.
AFM, still feeling excited about Wed. Will receive news tomorrow afternoon on how my little embies are thawing.
Hugs Bel
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Abbie- Thanks for the kind words. What are you up to at the moment in TTC world?!!!
Hugs Bel
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Kate, Bel Marsha and Abbie thanks for the nice comments. I think the way it was put to me was pretty confrontational (re work) will just keep sticking it out fulltime for now, as we cant afford for me not to. Anyway ..it can be hard, thanks for helping to make it easier. :hug:
Bel- good luck with those embies! fingers crossed.
Abbie, how are you now?
Marsha- sounds stressful for you with work.. hope it gets easier.
Kate- you are very right...it's a fine line. hope you are ok :)
anyway, we leave on our holiday on friday! yay...so I wont be around for a while and will return for our FET in sept.
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Hi All
To everyone I haven't met yet :P
To all the girls I met in the June/July TWW, lets all hope our next cycles are better.
AFM: Had my final BT today after our "inevitable M/C" and result today was less than 5, after it was 52 last Monday. So now classified as a loss after our BFP. Have my FS appt new Thursday to discuss the plan for our first FET in September (hopefully), although still waiting for AF to start after our m/c, but have been told that it can take up to a week after using progesterone to start. I'm a bit bummed at this as at our first BT last Monday AF started but because we had a faint positive was told to keep up the progesterone to see what happens. So I have basically delayed this cycle starting by almost 2 weeks, thereby delaying our FET from probably early Spet to now mid/late Sept.
From what I have been reading, I think we will have a planned FET as I have PCOS and don't O naturally, although it will be interesting to see if they recommend either 1 or 2 to be transferred as we have so many, with 5 frozen as day 5 Blasty's and 9 as day 3 embryo's. We had a day 3 fresh transfer this time, so am hopeful that we have some that will survive the thaw and hopefully last longer than our first attempt.
Anyway, that's my update for today. I know I share lots (probably too much) but DH just doesn't seem to get the technical side of things, he understands the basics but all this stuff goes over his head.... Men huh....
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Hello Girls
August is definately getting off to a slow start. Good to see so many new faces in the room. Well AFM Af still hasnt arrived 10 days after provera so BT in the morning to see whats going on. Should know more tomorrow afternoon....why oh way are things so difficult.
Talk Soon
Bee :doh:
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Evening All,
Hope everyone had a good day.
Possums- I hope you have a fantastic holiday and get some much earned rest and relaxation. Where are you off to again??
Kelly D- I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how annoying and hard the wait is after you lose a little one. I had a miscarriage on my 2nd cycle and all I wanted was to just get started again. For me, I just feel so out of control with all this..like so many others I just can't get pregnant naturally. So just sitting around waiting makes me feel even less in control. I hope things start to get going again for you soon. We are all here for you.
Bee- I know what you mean about everything being difficult. One cycle my last FS made me go 63 days without AF...he wouldn't let me take provera. I was absolutely beside myself. I had taken a month off work to do a cycle (due to the work I do) and had explained all this to my FS, but I just wasted that month waiting for AF. I went and had my 1st accupuncture appointment on day 63 of my cycle and explained everything to my acup guy and told him I was desperate for AF to arrive. Not a word of a lie, by the time I got home after my 1st appointment I had AF...true story. I'm not sure if you are doing acup...if you are maybe you could mention it at your next appointment. If not...I strongly recommend it for many reasons. Let us know how your BT goes tomorrow.
AFM, 2 embies were thawed this afternoon and the embryologist called to say they survived the thaw....an exciting result for us as compared to previous cycles. I am praying so hard they survive the night and will be waiting for me at 9am when I go for TF. We still have 2 frozen but hopefully they won't need to be used tomorrow. I'm so excited, but so scared these 2 don't make the night and petrified of another BFN. At least my BT will be next Friday so it'll only be a 9 day wait for me.
Night all
Hugs Bel
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KellyD - :hug: dearie. u got quite a no of frosties......i have none n gotto start fm scratch.
Bee83 - well.....im sure u're not alone on dat. Dat wicked witch AF jus got a mind of her own. wen she's not suppose to make her apperance...she jus popped(vice versa):doh:
Possum - werk???????? with me taking time off for my cycle....tongues sure will start wagging. i wunder wen i step on their tail. n e person whom got no empathy...actually gone thr fertility programme 18 yrs ago...n got the cheek to go ard saying dis lady got dis problem dat lady got problem dats y yet to conceive. i really dont understand her
me - scan on friday to see how my follies r growing for e IUI.....i need max 3, else cycle got to be cancelled
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Forget to update after yesterdays appt, my endo lining is 8.6mm and bloods were good so I start taking my progesterone pessaries on Thursday and ET is next Wednesday.
possum - I have had the same thing suggested to me, I told them where to go!
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BecD- Great lining. All is sounding very positive for you. I hope this cycle brings you your BFP. Keep us updated.
Hugs Bel
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Hi everyone,
I'm fairly new to the forums, but couldn't help but notice how supportive and caring you all are. It's so nice even just to be able to read your stories and not feel quite as alone.
I've got BT & U/S on Friday - the last time I saw my Dr his rough schedule was that my EPU would be the 11th Aug. So, I guess Friday will be to see how things are getting along down there.
I've got an acupuncture session on Saturday morning and I'm planning to schedule a couple more closer to transfer time. Any suggestions around timing for this? ie: one before and one after? If one after transfer - how long after?
Re work: My boss has been fantastic. I have not felt the need to take any time off yet ( to be honest I'd work the weekends at the moment if they would let me - time seems to stand still on the w/e). I was nervous about how they would take it as I have been here for under a year, but they have been brilliant.
Because Ihave to get up extra early so my hubbie can do the injections before he goes to work - I end up at work at around 6.45am. My boss has ok'd it for my to leave at 3pm for the next week or so and she has been great about me not being able to give firm dates for EPU and transfer things like that.
Anyway - Possums I hope your boss relealises that this is hard enough without them sticking the boot in. ;)
Good luck to everyone with your next stage.
Nic
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Good luck to everyone about to do an ET! I'm just floating around waiting for AF to leave and for the FS appointment.
Welcome Nixon, glad to hear your work is supportive. Good luck for friday.
Bee sorry AF hasnt turned up :hug:
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Bel, thanks for the support, we are off to NZ :)
good luck today with the ET!! great news about them surviving the thaw, what a relief for you, it's such a nervous time. wishing you good luck and the chance to rest and find some way to stay as calm as you can :D
oscar oscar- i hate waiting, like Bel said, and feeling out of control and not knowing how long it will all take until that BFP! so hang in there with the waiting
Nixon- welcome lovely to see you here and you will find this a supportive place to be. As for the acupuncture, I had it as soon as possible after the transfer, and also before. My acupuncturist said the sooner after the transfer the better.
I am pleased your work has been supportive.
Becd- glad that your lining is good and things aremoving forward
KellyD- hope you are ok...the loss and the waiting to move forward is hard. I can relate.
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Good morning All,
Hope everyone is having a good day.
I've had transfer this morning..2 little ones went in. 1 from yesterday didn't look so good so they discarded that. They thawed another 1 this morning and it survived the thaw and the embryologist said it actually looked better than the 2 yesterday at the same stage. So I have 2 hatching blasties on board.
For the 1st time I am doing pregnyl injections (only 2 though) as well as 3 pessaries a day.
I'm moving over to the TWW thread as well now...oh how scary to be back in there!!!
BT is on Fri 15th so only a 9 sleep wait for me.
Will do personals later. Going for a Nanna nap as I hardly slept last night.
Hugs Bel
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Great news Bel! hopefully when I return from my hols I will discover you are pregnant :pray:
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Bel :2ww: Fingers crossed for your TWW, sending you lots of :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy:
